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U/S tonight @ 6 p.m. - I am 17 weeks
I have switched Dr.'s and the one that scheduled this appt. for me (5 weeks) ago said this was the "scan." I switched Dr.'s b.c my old one didn't explain ANYTHING and this is my first pregnancy. I am hoping they can tell me the sex, but just wondering what else to expect?
I am nervous AND excited, and sad.. That the baby's father is too much of an a$$hole to even bother.. Uggh.
I am nervous AND excited, and sad.. That the baby's father is too much of an a$$hole to even bother.. Uggh.
Just wanted to update everyone...
It's a BOY!!!
I am excited... I just wish his Daddy was around.. The u/s tech was a B I T C H.. They didnt even give me 1 photo.. Bittersweet sorta.. Just my luck, but am sooo psyched that I know I am having a little boy.. My Mom is excited to have her 1st GrandSON, I have 2 sisters (no brothers) and between my 2 sisters, they collectively have 5 girls..
Mumita - He is a bit of a narcissist.. But he isnt a terrible man.. Maybe someday he will come around.. I havent lost all hope, even though I probably should have at this point!
It's a BOY!!!
I am excited... I just wish his Daddy was around.. The u/s tech was a B I T C H.. They didnt even give me 1 photo.. Bittersweet sorta.. Just my luck, but am sooo psyched that I know I am having a little boy.. My Mom is excited to have her 1st GrandSON, I have 2 sisters (no brothers) and between my 2 sisters, they collectively have 5 girls..
Mumita - He is a bit of a narcissist.. But he isnt a terrible man.. Maybe someday he will come around.. I havent lost all hope, even though I probably should have at this point!
LauraB78, it seems to me that he either has Borderline Personality Disorder OR Narsicistic Personality Disorder. Look them up and tell me if anything rings a bell?
I think that the guy definitely 100% has psychological issues that you should tay away from. It seems that he's trying to hurt you unnecessarily just to feel better about himself and that is really dangerous. I would stay as much away from him as I can, actually, I'd get a restriction order put on his A$$ so he cann't cause you any more stress during your pregnancy.
This may sound a little extreme BUT from what i've read (and you know I've read many of your posts) the guy is crazy and he shouldn't have anything to do with you or your child.
I think that the guy definitely 100% has psychological issues that you should tay away from. It seems that he's trying to hurt you unnecessarily just to feel better about himself and that is really dangerous. I would stay as much away from him as I can, actually, I'd get a restriction order put on his A$$ so he cann't cause you any more stress during your pregnancy.
This may sound a little extreme BUT from what i've read (and you know I've read many of your posts) the guy is crazy and he shouldn't have anything to do with you or your child.
No, this will be his first child, and he actually had quite a horrific upbringing..
*any* "man" who wishes for a bad outcome, is more than an a'hole.....he's retarded, he was dropped on his head a few times as a baby(not being mean, df was dropped lol), then someone did it throughout his lfe also.....does he have any other kids?
yea i agree on the motorcyce thing....he can't help you out but he can buy a 10k-40k BIKE?????
yea i agree on the motorcyce thing....he can't help you out but he can buy a 10k-40k BIKE?????
Sounds to me like he was just using you for his own glorification. When he needed someone to pay attention to him, you'd be there to love and dote on him in your relationship. But after a few days, he'd be done for a while and break up with you.
It was definitely not a healthy relationship and I'm so sorry you have to deal with him and his immaturities. You don't need him stressing you out, and it's only going to continue the more you keep him in your life (tho I know you said you live on a small island, so I'm sure it will be hard keeping your distance from him).
*hugs* Don't let him stress you out ... Don't let him get to you. It's what he wants and when he sees you get upset, he knows he's won ...and he'll keep doing it over and over again b/c he's that immature.
It was definitely not a healthy relationship and I'm so sorry you have to deal with him and his immaturities. You don't need him stressing you out, and it's only going to continue the more you keep him in your life (tho I know you said you live on a small island, so I'm sure it will be hard keeping your distance from him).
*hugs* Don't let him stress you out ... Don't let him get to you. It's what he wants and when he sees you get upset, he knows he's won ...and he'll keep doing it over and over again b/c he's that immature.
We argued constantly. He was consistently lecturing me and treating me like a child. He would be really into the relationship one day, and not the next. He broke up w. me every 4 days or so.. It just wasn't good. I think he has Peter Pan syndrome. He told me he loved me, just to tell me a couple days later he did not mean, he had never sadi that to a woman before and just wanted to a.) see if he could do it and b.) dais it felt "all wrong." I dunno.. Lots of reasons..
I thought of the bad outcome w/ the pregnancy too.. I guess at this point, I wouldnt put it past him..
I thought of the bad outcome w/ the pregnancy too.. I guess at this point, I wouldnt put it past him..
He diffinitely wants to get a reaction from you SPECIALLY knowing that TODAY was your appointment that you wanted him soo much to go to. He just wants to keep huring you, maybe I'm thinking way off its mark but maybe he wants you to be soo stressed out that you won't have a good outcome in the pregnancy.
I know you guys broke up before you knew you were pregnant but, may I ask why besides the fact that he's an a$$hole?
I know you guys broke up before you knew you were pregnant but, may I ask why besides the fact that he's an a$$hole?
he may have done it to get a reaction out of you. he may like seeing you hurt ans stressed etc... im sorry he has been nothing but problems for you
Laura ~ He's doing it because he knows it upsets you. Even tho it's negative attention, he's still getting it from you. He's just that self-centered and arrogant that he has to make you feel miserable just so he can get his 'attention fix'. That's why I said to forget about him and go on with your life ...even tho I know you do want him to be a part of your child's life. If he's 43, he's most likely heavily set in his ways and behaviors, and having a baby probably won't change it (tho, I hope for yours and your baby's sake, he straightens himself out).
My hubby will be 44 tomorrow, and there are things he says/does that just don't make any sense to me. I want to change his behaviors (like making sandwiches on the bare counter ...lol, not very 'extreme' but just an example of behavior), but I know that I can't. It's who he is and how he's been for many years. It's not going to change overnight.
Maybe by having the ultrasound picture and sending him a copy (email or post) will make something click in his head and make him want to change. But if he's still adamantly declaring the baby's not his till he sees DNA proof ...he may be a lost cause. Because by becoming a parent, it means he's not allowed to be a 'kid' anymore and buy motorcycles, etc. It means he'll need to give up his self-centered ways and care about someone other than himself for once in his life ...and that scares him beyond all means.
My hubby will be 44 tomorrow, and there are things he says/does that just don't make any sense to me. I want to change his behaviors (like making sandwiches on the bare counter ...lol, not very 'extreme' but just an example of behavior), but I know that I can't. It's who he is and how he's been for many years. It's not going to change overnight.
Maybe by having the ultrasound picture and sending him a copy (email or post) will make something click in his head and make him want to change. But if he's still adamantly declaring the baby's not his till he sees DNA proof ...he may be a lost cause. Because by becoming a parent, it means he's not allowed to be a 'kid' anymore and buy motorcycles, etc. It means he'll need to give up his self-centered ways and care about someone other than himself for once in his life ...and that scares him beyond all means.
Thanks for the well wishes.. I am trying to stay positive and excited! I'm a little worried too though b.c it's been awhile since I have heard/seen the baby and I feel nothing, so I am nervous...
Just wanted to mention..
I work in insurance, and the baby's father was here today starting a motorcycle policy... He does have a business policy w/ my agency, but he didnt need to start his personal policy here.. And he can't help me financially (is refusing until Paternity is established) but he bought a brand new motorcycle??
I had a mini melt down, started shaking and got really upset and starting crying.. WHY the F*** does he need to come to THIS agency?
I want ONE positive day, instead I am always stressed.. He ruined my day, just like that.. I am trying to be excited about the apointment, but all I keep thinking is WHY did he have to come to my agency TODAY? He pretended he didnt see me.. Very mature 43 yr. old man..
Uggh
Just wanted to mention..
I work in insurance, and the baby's father was here today starting a motorcycle policy... He does have a business policy w/ my agency, but he didnt need to start his personal policy here.. And he can't help me financially (is refusing until Paternity is established) but he bought a brand new motorcycle??
I had a mini melt down, started shaking and got really upset and starting crying.. WHY the F*** does he need to come to THIS agency?
I want ONE positive day, instead I am always stressed.. He ruined my day, just like that.. I am trying to be excited about the apointment, but all I keep thinking is WHY did he have to come to my agency TODAY? He pretended he didnt see me.. Very mature 43 yr. old man..
Uggh
i can not wait to hear the sex of the baby im soo excited hopefully 6 oclock rolls around soon well your time lol good luck laura
other things to expect is at this stage they are also gonna be measuring the babies organs and what not to see that everything is developing to schedule... this should be a really exciting ultrasound for you let us know how it goes
good luck :)
good luck :)
Don't worry about the baby's father ...he's being childish and selfish. You, on the other hand, are only worried about your child and his/her future!! I'm glad you switched doctors since you were unhappy with the care provided by your last one!! You should always feel like you can trust and rely on your medical providers.
At 17 weeks, they should be able to see the sex of the baby ...that is, if he/she is cooperating!! When my mom went in to see what I would be, my leg was in the way and they couldn't get a clear shot! lol So I was a mystery baby. =D
It's okay to be excited and nervous. I know I'd feel the same way (probably more nervous though because I'm so scared something will still go wrong). Just know that you'll be seeing that little human being growing inside you (and giving you all those nasty symptoms! lol)!! Good luck and let us know how everything goes!!!
At 17 weeks, they should be able to see the sex of the baby ...that is, if he/she is cooperating!! When my mom went in to see what I would be, my leg was in the way and they couldn't get a clear shot! lol So I was a mystery baby. =D
It's okay to be excited and nervous. I know I'd feel the same way (probably more nervous though because I'm so scared something will still go wrong). Just know that you'll be seeing that little human being growing inside you (and giving you all those nasty symptoms! lol)!! Good luck and let us know how everything goes!!!
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