Unexpected Fears

[CoeurXo]

I feel like an absolutely terrible person for bringing this up, but I'm so tired of hearing that I'm irrational or ungrateful. I'm 5 weeks pregnant. I found out 4 days ago, and I was in complete shock and paralyzed with fear. Though still apprehensive aboit the future I will be able to give my child, I have calmed and am looking very forward to this unexpected blessing... but now I'm stressed about a miscarriage because it seems that everyone out of the few I've told have said things like, "You're not really pregnant until 12 weeks," and, "maybe you'll miscarry..." as if it's a good thing! I'm 21. I will be a semester away from my BA degree when baby comes. The daddy and I have only been together for 2 months, but I've known him a year, and I feel secure in knowing how loyal he is to friends and family; even if he and I don't make it, he'll be a very good father. I have money in savings... Yes, this is poor timing, but I can't help but acknowledge that oir situation (baby and me) is not all that bad in light of many others'. I guess my questions are...

Should I be so paranoid about miscarrying?
How do I stand my optimistic ground without growing resentful of others?
Are there any tips for people in new relationships?

Thank you!

[mommabear1989]

Lol Congratulations on your baby!

[CoeurXo]

Thank you so much ladies! I'm happy to hear other stories like mine. Too many people have said, "I'm so sorry!" Instead of, "Congratulations!" I guess I let it get the best of me. For now, relaxation whilst enjoying work and school and focusing on me, my lil sesame seed (haha), and the man I care for deeply. Thank you. Thank you. :) :)

[Pr3ttyinpurpl3]

^^^^ she pretty much summed it up...dnt stress please dnt stress nt good fa u or baby and forget eveybody who got something negative to say smh that's why I keep to myself...If you and your mate want the relationship it will work out

[mommabear1989]

Don't worry about having a miscarriage it's stress that you don't need let mother nature take course.  I stressed when I lost my first daughter but I've had 2 healthy little girls and im expecting my 2 son! I would just brush off what every one says im 24 and I know I can do it on my own struggling but I can do it my kids and husband right know have shown me what I thought I never had in me and im on strong ***** knock me down and ill prove anyone what I'm made of. When my husband and I found out that we were expecting we had only known each other for 3 months were going on 2 years we have our apartment and our cars and trucks working on a home to buy nobody thought we had it in us and we have accomplished what people that have been together for 7 years in 1 year we have our fights but then again no relationship is perfect.  Just keep your head up you'll be a great mommy just relax don't listen to people and their negative comments or what they have to say smile and enjoy this beautiful experience!