Venting, mad at neighbor

[smjmekg]

I am soo P!$$ED! My neighbor invited me to this pampered chef thing, and I've been down to her apartment twice now, the first time I thought she wasn't answering because she was maybe blow drying her hair, now I know she didn't spend half an hour doing it. SHE'S NOT HOME!!! Why would you invite someone to do something and then leave without telling them??? I got up early, and Elijah and I have been sitting here ready to go for an hour and a half. He's been saying bye bye for at least forty five minutes, and she left without telling me...nice. Why would you do that?

[smjmekg]

I agree 100%. I'm an Army wife on an Army post, but I still don't talk to many wives...and the worst part is my soldier I saw today is leaving with her husband in less than 30 days, and my neighbor IS the gossiping type...which is why I don't hang out with her much, but it's her or the Korean speaking lady on the third floor...(In Korea they build apartments up not out, so we're stacked on top of each other)

[LosingMyMindInGA]

I remember when we were stationed in Okinawa for 3 years.  I pretty well stayed to myself.  I mean there were people I met at my daughters school on base that i chit chatted with...but I'm not into the whole gossip thing either.  I'm also not the high maintenance I think I'm better than everyone type like a lot of military wives.  And to to add insult to injury I was a NAVY wife on a MARINE CORP base.

Hehe, the name PAMPERED chef says it all....that crap is EXPENSIVE.  I was like uh, ok, no thanks.  I could go to aafes down the road and by the same freaking thing with a different name for a fraction of the price.  

The whole image of military spouses rallying around each other during deployments and the family readiness groups and command ombudsman...yeah..it's nice in theory but the reality is it isn't for everyone.  If you don't fit in you aren't included.

[smjmekg]

Oh, and it wasn't the point of a pampered chef party, it was me getting out of the house and getting DH being gone off my mind.

[smjmekg]

faith~~~Yeah, he loves going bye bye, so I have to be careful when I say it, and I really was planning on going. But it's ok, I took him out for lunch, and ended up at my soldier's house after and we were there from 1-830ish. He had fun with her 10 month old daughter, so I'm sure that made up for it.

worrieddd612 & LosingMyMindInGA~~~I usually do let her do the inviting since she's always out with someone else, and I have done some inviting before but there's usually been an excuse as to why she can't do whatever. She did say something about wanting to do something later today, but I left at 1 this afternoon to lend an ear to my soldier and I just got home at 840, so oh well if she came up more than once and rang my doorbell with no answer too.

I definitely didn't fit in with any military wife that I've ever been around, for the simple fact that I do NOT gossip. The show Army wives...yeah SO waiting for it to actually portray what it's really like (not for sure if it ever does, only watched it maybe two times but the two or so I did, it was so not what it's like in real life).

This would have been the first time I've been to a pampered chef EVER, but oh well, I'm glad I missed it. I don't know for sure what it involves but if it's anything like a tupperware party, I've heard what goes on, and no I'm not interested in someone showing me how "awesome" something is that I can go to Walmart and buy for a lot less, and more reliable.

[LosingMyMindInGA]

I learned pretty quick not to put any stock into any kind of invitation from many military wives....especially those who do the pampered chef and home interior type parties.  BTDT.  Even when you DO get into the party it's like being in high school again.  You have "cliques" and if you don't fit in you sit there feeling like a 3rd wheel.  I usually tried to avoid those things at all costs...just not MY cup of tea.  I dont' know about YOU but *I* never fit into the "elite military wives" club even when I WAS a military wife.  I found very few that I actually had any desire to be around.  Like the AP said...next time let her make a bigger effort.  

[worrieddd612]

hmm i know that feeling!! very frustrating!! next time i would just let her make the effort if she wants to spend time with you.

[faith2086]

lmao @ eli saying bye bye...too funny... but dat was pretty nasty of her to basically ditch u..unless something came up..but next time she invites u to something get her number