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Ok...I have a crazy question...I have 3 gilr ages 8, 6 and 3 and we tried again for a boy and got him! He just turn 1 last month. Well I LOVE babies and it was hard for me to say that ill never have another one but I thought we had said my baby boy was gonna be our last...well now hubby is sayin lets have 1 more!! Try for another boy ! Anyone that has 4 or more kids I would really like your inputs here. I will ALWAYS want another baby but should I? Im very confused! I dont want to be the crazy lady with alot of kids that people dont invite to things or be singled out cause I have too many kids...in other peoples eyes! Im a stay at home mom and my DH works nights and is also home all day. We love our family and idk im really confused...input plz......

stacey10 · Answer

This is my PROBLEM arrgggh I have 10 and my youngest is just 5 1/2 months and I already know I want another, but at my age I'm going to probably have trouble if at all :( go for it while you've got time on your side, kids dont have to have cell phones etc, well mine dont, if they want stuff like that they have to get a job and pay for their own, same with cars etc, I have bought my eldest children up not to rely on us for money, if they want something well then they are going to have to go out and work and save for it...if it is an essential item well then we cover the cost, but if its a want item, apart from birthdays and christmas then they buy the item :) good luck and go for it :)

Clysta · Answer

I would say if you want them and can support them without government support then go for it. Others opinions don't matter, regardless of if you have 1 or 10. I've personally been ridiculed to no end because we made the choice for 1 (for medical reasons it's unwise for me to carry another child) so no matter what you do you'll never win.

Ashelen · Answer

I agree with everyone that its up to how you guys feel about it. You don't want to get to retirement age and look back on regret that you felt like your family wasn't complete and you wish you had had 1 more but didn't because of other people's opinions....that's why hubby and I aren't ruling out 1 last baby (we're pregnant with our 3rd in as many years) in about 7 years....I would rather roll my eyes at people who think 4 is too many, than get to the end of my life and have regrets that our family wasn't complete. At that point, the scornful people will be out of my life and i'll be left alone with my own decisions...I don't plan to have regrets!

My grandma had 9 girls and 3 boys...and there were several girls between each boy, lol, so you never know how it goes :-).

Kla1 · Answer

Thanks...I just want to be able to give them everything I can!!! I love my family...and have always loved babies and kids and always saw myself with a big family. DH came from a family of 5 kids of which he was the oldest...parent split when he was 9 and he pretty much raised his brothers n sisters cause the dad was working all the time. He also always said he wanted a big family. So idk...lol :)

luvmy2girls · Answer

I'm on number six.  2 boys and 4 girls.  It is tough but very rewarding.  I think they appreciate things more than most kids these days because they have to earn everything extra they want.  It keeps us all humble for sure :)

isha69 · Answer

Well here's my family opinion on it. My parents separated.
My mother has two children and that's plenty for her.
But my dad has 10 children. 
Both families function just fine, and we honestly love the chaos
of everyone being around. I have 9 brothers and 1 sister, so in the
end my overall family has a ratio of 9:2...
Either way, It's up to you how many children you want to have.
Go for another baby if you and your husband would like to :)

Kla1 · Answer

Thank you all for you opinions...I really appreciate all the input! My kids are very well behaved for the most part they all have there days though who doesnt. But my kids say please and thank you and I even went as far as yes sir no sir etc. Manors are a big thing for me!! 
Sunshinemaddox~you are so right when you said what if it was me who was suggesting another baby I would want him to be with me on it and thats the thing...I cant tell him no or take that away from him!! 
And as far as gender...we would never say we just want a boy and this it...it would just be ideal but a boy or girl we would be happy...a baby is a blessing no matter the gender! 
Again thank you all!!!!

adgal · Answer

I think that if you are taking care of your kids and are the sort of person that can handle and wants a big family, then you should go for it.  How many children to have is such a personal decision.  I never thought I even wanted kids and it wasn't until my 30's that I decided I did.  I have one beautiful boy and am now in my early 40's.  I might be able to have one more (we are trying), but that will be it for us.  In hindsight, I kinda wish I had started earlier and had more.  People should have the amount that they want and can properly take care of (be it 1 or 10), and really, it's no one elses business.  I can tell you I would never not invite someone over due to lots of kids, and I certainly wouldn't think they were crazy.  I think big families are wonderful!  But I do agree...don't do it based on wanting a child of a specific gender.  There is no way to guarantee that, as you already know.  Whatever you decide, good luck to you!

SUNSHINEMADDOX · Answer

First you need to get your mind off OTHER PPL!  You can have one child that is spoiled and nobody wants to invite them to anything, plus the fact is most ppl don't like other ppl kids they just fake it or they like one and not the others. I am prego with my first and I am fund of maybe one of other ppl kids never all. I don't think that should be a problem hell MOST parents I know don't have a favorite kid but they have one that they have more peace with or that acts more like they want them to...If you and hubby decided that the last baby was going to be the last and you don't want to go through the process again then don't but think about it, if you were the one that wanted the baby what would you expect from him?... Also, do you want to add work for you when he is working all of the time, do you already save as you want for the kids that you have,I think you should think about all of that and if the answer is no then you shouldn't have another baby, you only should have another baby if things are in order with the currents one and are able to do the same for the new one..Please don't take offence to my statements just saying that you alread have kids and I would not only think about having a boy because that's up to God and you might end up with a girl....THEN WHAT?

mumsy1977 · Answer

hi there im on number 5 i have 3 boys 14 13 10 and a girl 7 we are 28 weeks with our next baby girl due 9th jan i dont care what people think i raise my own children i dont ask anyone to take them off me for an hr or babysit while i go out if we go our kids come with us :) i dont claim benafits we own a buisness the only thing is i feel like i have to do is justify myself for having 5 kids i dont want people to think i live off benafits and lounge around and just breed lol but now everyones over the shock that im NOT STUPID , were looking forward to it people dont congratulate you anymore they ask if your stupid or ask if i dont have a tv , maybe say i need my head looking at ! yeah its annoying and pisses me off a little but like i say once they get over it they then ask when are you due ? and oww your making me broody ,or bless i cant wait to meet her people are 2 faced go with what you want to doo ignore everyone else its your choice no one elses xxx good luck and im here if ya wanna chat about anything just inbox xx

chelseaneddie · Answer

I have my daughter who is 7 and my fiance has a 6 year old daughter and they love each other and they fight like its their job. I'm 6 wks pregnant now and were hoping for a boy, there's enough estrogen in my house. Lol. This will be our last either way though. Only for financial reasons! Christmas is already enough to break us.

Mommyjeep11 · Answer

I don't think its so much the number of kids but how well they behave. I know a girl with 4 kids that are little heathens. She used to want to bring them to my house all the time and I would refuse because the first time they came over they broke my sons toys colored on my walls and just generally destroyed my house. I only have 1 child for now but everyone tells me how well behaved he is for a 3 yr old. He says please and thank you and knows what he is and isn't allowed to do. So for me that would be the deciding factor.

thebrat333 · Answer

Hi there !!

I have 3 boys and that is definately enough kids for me!!!!!!

Really hard work they are now 16, 14 and 12 .   It would have been nice to have a little girl but then I would have had to go for a sister for her as I had one and its not fair not to .  But knowing my luck I would have had 5 boys if I had carried on.   

You could well have another girl if you tried again as you seem to have a tendency to go that way.. 

My granny had 2 boys and 7 girls .

Up to you really but if its a girl next time will hubby make you try again and you could end up with 6 children!!!