What Do I Do?? HELP!

[hannah0912]

i have no idea what to do i found out i was pregnant last week which was a shock and my boyfriend seemed ok bout it but a week later hes sayin he cant get used to it and its not going to be his fault if he doesnt bond with the baby when its here. im so annoyed what to do as ii refuse to get rid of this baby just to make him happy yet i dont want to lose him. i just dont know what to do to bring him round its upsetting and stressing me out when i know i shouldnt be x

[selaiwa]

I agree with Grandmatobe.He's scared to death like any young guy would be. I wouldn't take everything he says right now too seriously.My husband was scared also but,as soon as he heard the heartbeat he was excited. Then when he saw the baby on ultrasound,he fell in love.You won't lose him just because your pregnant. He just needs some time to adjust to the fact that he is going to be a Dad. He's scared. Maybe he feels that he won't be a good Dad.Give him some space and just take it one day at a time.  Enjoy everyday that you are pregnant.It is very early in your pregnancy. You can ask him to go with you to hear the heartbeat and then the ultrasound at around 18 weeks.They should know the sex of the child by then.That will be a very exciting experience for him.
  I hope that everything works out for you and him.Enjoy your pregnancy.It is a gift from God.    *********Debbie**********

[Grandmatobe]

I think it is very normal for everyone to be nervous when they first find out they are expecting.  Perhaps he will warm up to the idea when/if he sees the baby on an ultrasound and you start showing and he can feel the baby kick.  This seems to make the situation "real".  During the first trimester, you have no "evidence" of a baby, except for an ultrasound or heartbeat, but it doesn't seem to hit home until you can "see" the growth occurring.

I hope he accepts the baby over time, but in the meantime, take it easy and take good care of yourself.

[tarajanes]

Having a baby is scaring for any first time mom and dad.he is probably very nervous.Im sure he will bond perfectly with the baby.and if not as previous poster said,you can go it alone,with the help of family and friends.I had my son 16 years ago,his father didnt want to know,and i brought him up vertually single handed so dont fret,relax and enjoy being pregnant.

[mrsperry]

First of all sweet heart dont stress pray about it.. i understand you dont want to LOSE him.. but you also dont want to lose your baby so stop stressing out! and take it easy=]  you have the strength to do it alone you have family and friends! to help you out and i dont understand why he would get you pregnant and not want to be around typical young idiot..sorry!! im pissed its not fair! and you cant keep yourself in this situation when you and the blessing you are carrying are not wanted give him space!! its time for you to give him the options instead of him giving you the cold shoulder! [HE EITHER STAYS OR GOs!!!!] ITs WHATS BEST FOR YOU AND THE BABY!!! PLEASE TAKE MY WORDS OF WISDOM INTO DEEP CONSIDERATION TAKE CARE AND GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR BLESSING THAT YOU ARE CARRYING<3