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What in the world???
Aubryana will seriously NOT let me put her down...I took her temperature and it's normal, she's not teething, but if I put her down at all she screams. She's been like this the last couple days at least, I can't tell if she's in pain...if she's distracted when I put her down she's fine for a minute or two, and then she screams...my son was NEVER like this. She's very clingy right now and I don't know if it's just her being a baby or what...
I so know how you feel my youngest child did that when she was young. (she is now 5 and a big mama girl) What I found to help comfort her was a blanket with my smell on it and I also sat and patted her on the back til she went to sleep and I believe the blanket with my smell on it helped. When she was like 6 months old she really had a hard time taking a nap on her own so I bought a new soft small blanket and I would lay it on my chest while she napped in the after noon (I did it for a few days so the smell was on there)and than transferring her to the bed was easier. Still til this day she is 5 years old and when she feels really tired or her "feeling got hurt" she has to have her blankie. Good luck hope this helps
Well you don't have to let her cry all alone...do what I did. I just sat next to him and set him on the floor...when he cried I reassured him and touched him (stroked his hair, rubbed his back, cupped his cheek) but refused to pick him up. if he was in full panic mode, I would bend down my head and push my cheek against his and make "shhh" noises directly into his ear while rubbing his back, but I never actually lifted him into my arms. it helped him get over his separation anxiety and eventually he would come up to me, whine for a sec, realize he wasn't going to get picked up, then either follow me quietly or go off and find something else to do.
I'm a huge hater of the cry-it-out, as you know, lol, but there are some times when they just have to sort it out for themselves.
I'm a huge hater of the cry-it-out, as you know, lol, but there are some times when they just have to sort it out for themselves.
Oops don't know how that happened, lol
Cass, I didn't think of separation anxiety...it is extremely difficult, especially since she says mama and it's just heart breaking. I've actually gone outside for about five minutes after I put her down to just get away for a minute and see what happens and she just continues. I don't think she'd stop if I left her for an hour (which I would NEVER do!!!) At her age Elijah was going to bed on his own with the CIO method, and I let him have a bottle and fall asleep with it (I know it's a no no, but it was normally water and he had no teeth before 11 months) I just can't figure out how to get her to bed on her own though...and this not letting me put her down. Like right now I know she's fine, she's in her walker with toys in the kitchen, I'm in the next room and she's screaming....and she'll do it until I pick her up, MAYBE stop if I'm in the room she gave me five min to clean the kitchen and I came in the bedroom to get Elijah's cup he left in here and she started up again.
It's killing me listening to it...I want to cry right with her. I give her five min max when I let her be alone and then I get her, or go in the room and whichever quiets her I do.
Cass, I didn't think of separation anxiety...it is extremely difficult, especially since she says mama and it's just heart breaking. I've actually gone outside for about five minutes after I put her down to just get away for a minute and see what happens and she just continues. I don't think she'd stop if I left her for an hour (which I would NEVER do!!!) At her age Elijah was going to bed on his own with the CIO method, and I let him have a bottle and fall asleep with it (I know it's a no no, but it was normally water and he had no teeth before 11 months) I just can't figure out how to get her to bed on her own though...and this not letting me put her down. Like right now I know she's fine, she's in her walker with toys in the kitchen, I'm in the next room and she's screaming....and she'll do it until I pick her up, MAYBE stop if I'm in the room she gave me five min to clean the kitchen and I came in the bedroom to get Elijah's cup he left in here and she started up again.
It's killing me listening to it...I want to cry right with her. I give her five min max when I let her be alone and then I get her, or go in the room and whichever quiets her I do.
What a phase it is, if it's a phase...I can't just sit next to her she crawls over and grabs my leg and I'll touch her and say you're ok, but she just screams more...she doesn't want Josh, so it's not just being held...I'll try to let her sit alone for a little while today and sit next to her and see how it goes.
Seperation Anxiety at the extreme. Abby was like that her entire infancy. It's likely just a phase...like Ivy said, you have to refuse to give in or it is only going to persist and probably get worse. Not all kids go through it, but those who do vary in duration and intensity. Good luck. It's so hard to just let them scream, but sometimes you just can't have a baby attached to you at all times.
What a phase it is, if it's a phase...I can't just sit next to her she crawls over and grabs my leg and I'll touch her and say you're ok, but she just screams more...she doesn't want Josh, so it's not just being held...I'll try to let her sit alone for a little while today and sit next to her and see how it goes.
If she stops crying when you told her she's probably fine....Kahlan and Grey both went through phases just like that...Grey I think was...hmmm....about 7/8 months, and finally I just started putting him down and sitting in a chair next to him reassuring him verbally while he screamed until he got the idea that he was OK...I didn't like letting him scream but I never left his side, just...refused to give in, lol. I don't remember how I did it with Kahlan...I think I just held her until the phase was over and she wanted more independence and she starting going off on her own.
I mean if you think she might be sick keep an eye on her for the next day or two, but I think it's probably just a phase.
I mean if you think she might be sick keep an eye on her for the next day or two, but I think it's probably just a phase.
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