I know it's a silly question but I'm curious what has worked for all of the ladies. I have chosen to remain quiet with all my previous children as I wasn't sure how family would react. I think my family has clues because several people have said, "don't go having any more now." Which somewhat bothers me. My family is finally complete, with someone who loves my children in the same way I do. And I find myself to be more thrilled then ever to give him his first child. He aggrees after this I can have my tubes tied and that our family will be complete. However; if these people are going to discriminate on me I'm not sure if I am capable of handling that right now, or if I should put it off until I feel more confident. I have 3 children and when my mother passed my brother was given to a family who was very abusive, in short, I fought to gain custody and was given it. My "long term" plan is to be making a down-payment on a home shortly and moving "up" finally having my own goals and being focused, but in the back of my head I'm thinking it might be best to wait until I actually accomplish some of that (hopefully within the next 3 months). My heart is torn as my hubby would like to shout it to everyone, but if he would, then it will spread and eventually blow up in my face. Because my mother passed, my children, brother, and hubby are my only support, and they do not have a clue. I know my brother will be upset because he feels stressed with the house as full as it currently is - exactly why I'm waiting until we all have a litte more space. Or am I wrong to think that? It can be so stressful feeling all of these exciting emotions and then thinking your letting people down. I never planned my first 3, and I've proven to be a survivor. I feel like this should be embraced. With 3 children I never had a baby shower, I never had someone with me in my delivery room, and those things are sincerely exciting to me. The fact that someone will be there. My doctor is even amazed I had the father with me at an appointment already. I'm just in dismay! I'm so lost! I'm 26 right now... I'll be 27 just before I give birth. I am very open to positive criticism but please don't pass judgement! Thank you mommies!