When to have another baby? What is a good age gap?

[kerriekab]

So my daughter is 6 months old now and I know i want to have more babies but i was just wondering what you ladies think is a good age gap? Is it easier to cope with a bigger gap like 3/4 years or easier for 1/2 year gap? Any opinions would be great. Thanks.

[parkersmommy]

My son will be three and a half when I have this baby and I feel like its a great gap. He's old enough to understand he's going to be a big brother and feel like he helps out with baby plus it takes a couple of years for your body to fully recover from having a baby. Also I really enjoyed having a few years of just being parkers mommy ya know being able to focus all my attention on my little guy

[Ashelen]

Just wanted to mention - my husband and I were not planning for sure on another baby, but we have decided that we do want ONE more in 5-7 years when our finances can handle another...so I'll experience both types of gaps, short, and long, lol.

[Ashelen]

My daughter and my 1st son are about 21 months apart, and I LOVE IT! It's exhausting sometimes, and there are days when it is non-stop, but they are close enough in age to be interested in much of the same things so they play together all day very well 90% of the time. My 1st son and my baby that is due in April (another boy!) will be about 19 months apart.

It will definitely be challenging having 3 under the age of 3 1/2, but seeing the results with my first two, I think it's entirely worth it.

Some people do better waiting..it seems to be either better to have a gap of 2 years or less, or more than 3.5 years...everyone I've known with kids somewhere in between that gap has struggled just because the 2-4 age is SO TOUGH that bringing a new baby can be very challenging...BUT..it all depends on what you're ready for. If you're ready for a baby sooner, go for it! I think having them close together is fantastic...If you aren't, then by all means wait! no reason to stress yourself out with 2 who are so young if you aren't 100% sure you're ready....because it IS tough.

My daughter had no trouble adjusting when our first son came - she fell in love right away and they are as thick as thieves.

[nicole8989]

My son and daughter are 10m 22 days apart.    they do fight with each other.   But. They are interested in the same thing. And play rather well together.   They also will b starting school rather close together as well.  

[coffeebuzzedliz]

When I have my second my daughter will be 2.5. She is becoming much more independent and listening so much better, plus she can communicate much better that I think it will be a good age gap. She is young so they can play, but not too old where she wont adjust well, plus she likes to help and loves to play with her baby dolls.

[MamaBear0612]

I don't know about from the mommy perspective, but from the kid perspective my brother and I were 17 months apart and we grew up as best friends. I know it was tough on my parents while we were young, but it was great for us.

[mommybear0710]

I have a 4 year old, a 2 year old & am 24 weeks pregnant. My girls love to play together and are very close, I like the 2 year age gap because they're potty trained and broke from the bottle and pacifiers but still very close.

[Clysta]

If I were going to have another, I would have waited till my daughter was 2. That way I could show her plenty of attention and she be old enough that she could have more involvement.

[kfrasher]

My first three are spaced 2 1/2 yrs apart and I think it works great!! ;-) my last and this baby will be 3 1/2 yrs apart ..I prefer them a little closer but we had just moved and wanted to wait  for #4....but I have relatives that had them really close and they love it too!!  

[Lenanbaby2]

I'm going for 2 to 3 years. I'm pregnant right now and my daughter will be 2 1/2 when I have the baby. It's really up to you though. I just wanted my daughter to have a sibling to play with that was close to her age