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Who do you think is the father and Am I crazy?

Alright I am 17 weeks pregnant, for the longest time I have thought that my bf may not be the father of my baby. My first day of my last period was on Dec 31, 2009....if my period was regular (which it should be if it comes around the same time every month) my ovulation week was from Jan 12th - to Jan 17th, my dr says I conceived the 17th at my 12 week ultrasound and my due date still supposedly matches up with...I had sex with my bf who was my ex at the time Jan 12 and Jan 17th and he ejaculated in me both times. Around the 30th of January... I had a sexual encounter with someone else (NOT sex but close to it, genital parts on each other... dont judge me cuz I was still not with my bf)...I read that u can get pregnant from precum so after that I started thinking it was a possibility that I was even pregnant from this guy, who really doesnt matter to me at all.....anyways the point is 6-7 days after Jan 30th (the encounter) I took a test and it was positive....I was also supposed to get my period either a few days before or after the 30th but never did...which I read u can get pregnant a day b4 ur period with an irregular cycle...do you think its possible for this other guy to be the father? My dr. says my date of conception was the 17th, and my ultrasound tech said my 12 week ultrasound was around 12 weeks, if it was the  guy I dont care for it would  be 10 weeks  at the time...so am I just crazy and reading into this too much and it is obvious my bf  is the father (who I had actual sex with ejaculation)?  I mean I didnt even have sex with the other guy, it was really close tho, and my period was due around the same time, and I took a test 6-7 days later and tested positive.....I have all these facts but still wonder if theres a chance. I have read about anxiety that pregnant woman get...do you think that it is a fear I have that the guy I do not care about could be the father? for one it would ruin my life...I even talked to him about it and he says Im ridic and hes not the father, he knows where his penis was....so why am I going mental over this? I would honestly like to just put it to rest because i honestly do research everday to try and prove that my bf is the father and it is sick, I compare ultrasound pictures, look at when other people tested positive. I read about how far off the conception date  could be, things like that, believe I look up a million things!  think I am a little crazy and have every reason to believe my bf is the father, but I cant stop asking "what if?" Im all over the place with this an a wreck, and I also ask if I may have an anxiety or panic disorder.
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1166767 tn?1315427171
I'd say its your boyfriends also.

I doubt after 6 days (with the other guys) you'd get a positive result that quickly.
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Thank u so much!
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It's your bf's really don't worry! One, you had sex with him during your fertile period. Two, you were supposed to be on your period when you messed around with the other guy, which means you already pregnant, and three... it's highly unlikely to get a positive result so soon after messing with the other guy. Unless you're a weirdo like me who gets them so early lol. But no seriously, don't worry it's your boyfriends, and oh, 4.... you guys didn't even have sex. Even if it was your fertile period there would be like a 5% chance you get pregnant just from fooling around. Oh and finally quit stressing!! You're just stressing that little bean out! =)
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Thank you guys so much, I don't know why I worry. The "encounter" was merely a drunk accident, I sobered slightly up just in time and told the person I was not having sex with them...they got mad too, I really don't like them so I think its a big fear I have come up with, I've thought of how things would be so terrible if he was the father. I really think I have a panic disorder.
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its your boyfriends don't worry!
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1255151 tn?1413891826
Sounds to me like your bf is the father. I know they say you can get pregnant from precum but the odds ae not very high at all. If your bf actually ejaculated inside of you I would say it is like a 99% chance of being his. Plus you would have been ovulating at the time you were with your bf, not the other guy. Good luck to you and I am almost positive as long as your dates are correct that you bf is the father. Good luck =)
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I would also like to add that if it wasnt my bf's this would mean, I got pregnant a day or few days before my period, Precum without sex or penetration got me pregnant, and I tested positive 7 days later........and my 12 week ultrasound is 2 weeks off. doesnt that seem impossible? Why do I want to believe the impossible?

If its my bfs for sure, he came in me twice through penetration within my ovulation week, 4 days apart, i took a pregnancy test plenty of days after my due period and it turned positive, and my ultrasound matches up and doctors given coception date too.....why will i not believe this 100%?
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