Will I be able to get pregnant?

[ShelleBelle78]

My husband has a history of smoking crack. He has been clean now for 6 months. and usually if he does have a relapse it is for 2-3 days and then he does not smoke it again for months. I am wondering if his useage will play any role in being able to concieve? He has gotten a referral to have his sperm checked, should I just wait to find out those results? Will we need to tell that doctor about his addiction?

[annaleesmom]

hope you have a strong support community.  My ex has some serious issues too.  we have a 4 year old.  he is no longer a part of her life. He doesn't attempt to contact us at all.  no support.   our child is competly healthy.  be honest with your doctor.
also be prepared that if he goes back to his old ways you could be parenting alone.  whatever the outcome... best wishes.  life can be tough.  I know you must love him, but remember that some people can't be saved from themselves.  I can relate.

[JoyRenee]

I believe drug abuse can affect fertility. He should have a SA (sperm analysis) done to make sure.

[ShelleBelle78]

Thank you for understanding I am looking for support and not judgement. It meant alot for someone to say something.
I am totally focused on health, and try in everyway to get him to be the same, we recently bought bikes, and have been riding every other night, which is nice...we eat well as I cook all the time, so I pray that in the near future will will be blessed with a child. Which I believe also will help him get over that final hurdle of his addiction. He is so close, just every 6  months or so has a fall.

[Heatherm4]

This forum is not about judging people or how they live. You didn't answer her question at all. She is just looking for support.

[Heatherm4]

I think that anything that is in your system that is foreign will play a role in infertility. Both of you should focus on health, the way you eat and, take vitamins, exercise and really try everything you and he can to keep your husband clean. Maybe telling your doc will help him through his addiction and maybe he will keep clean for a longer amount of time or permanently. One of my best friends husband was addicted to perks and he went to a facility for 6 or 8 weeks. He did very well. What was also recommended was that she went to sessions as well...to help her learn and deal with the whole thing. She said it was amazing how much she actually learned and it helped a lot because she was pregnant at the time. Her trying and getting pregnant really helped turn him around. Good luck to you and your husband.

[ShelleBelle78]

It has been 8 months, and obviously I just typed it wrong, Listen I am not here to get opinions made about who I am and how I "justify" my husbands behaviour, if I thought I was justifing anything do you think I would be looking for ways to help him???  You dont know anything about MY life, so I would suggest you keeo your tone of judegment to a minimum.

My Husband has NEVER smoked crack in our home, EVER!!!!! So dont assume that every stero typical thing that you see or hear or have been part of plays a role where I live. I have never even seen crack, or a crack pipe, or anything drug realted anywhere near me my home, or anything. (and it has been 5 years)

I am touched your heart goes out to me, although I deserve a baby, I have worked very hard in my life to get  where I am today, and just becasue my husband has an addiction does not mean I should not be able to have children. I was brought up in a family with alot of alcohol, and my mother was never a drinker, so are you saying she should never of had me because my dad drank a case a beer a night???

In the end I have come here to discover a few new views and perspective, I dont feel it is neccesary for you to jump all over me, and judge me the way you have, its rude.

[IBKleen]

You said in the addiction community that he was clean 8 months, not 6 months. You need to stop justifying his behavior and re-consider brining a baby into this relationship.

I am sorry if I seem harsh but you really need to understand his addiction and realize this is not a good situation nor is it an environment a baby should be brought into.

Until he gets clean and proves that he is willing to work on staying clean, you need to worry about YOU.

Imagine the day your baby is crawling on the kitchen floor and accidently picks up his crack pipe thinking it is a pacifier???

My heart goes out to you but please get your life in order before you bring a baby into it.

[nickieb85]

When you are going to a doc you need to come completely honest with your doctor especially when it comes to fertility. I smoke pot occasionally but I am one of those ppl that believe it isn't a drug but I still had to tell me doc because I am having infertility. Wait for the results and follow your doc's orders. Has your hubby thought about outpatient rehab?