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Will my baby be loved...

I am 12 weeks pregnant with my first child but my boyfriend already has a 6yr old daughter. He loves her more than anything, he only shows emotion when around her or thinking about her. I cant help but feel that he wont love our child as much as his first and its killing me...
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1901977 tn?1333991726
I agree with that. I grew up in a house like that, and although I love both my parents dearly, my childhood was stressful because of their messed up relationship. It affects me these days, in my own relationships, and I'll never be truly close with either one of them because interacting with them means being around their perpetual conflict. Be with someone if he makes you happy and brings something great to your life. You don't have to be together to raise a child together.
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I completely agree with Ripped. Honestly parents do way more harm when they ''stay together for the kids''
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1756475 tn?1330538713
If you don't want to be with him then don't.     honestly I think it is worse for the kids when the parents are together just because they think its the best thing.   Kids are surprisingly aware and can tell if you aren't happy.    
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If you're looking for a reason to leave him, you already have it... You want to leave him. It sounds like this has less to do with the baby and more to do with your relationship. reflect on your relationship and determine if this is someone you want to be with.
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Its not a jealousy thing at all with me I have always been so happy about how much he loves his daughter. All this worrying started the other day when he had told me that he would never love anyone or anything more than his daughter, he never actually said more than our child but idk. We having been doing to great and I guess im trying to find an excuse to leave him... He is really selfish and verbally abusive towards me. Idk
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1756475 tn?1330538713
Of course he is going to love your baby.   I think it's going to be something that his daughter may be jealous about but he is going to love them both. You may see that you are going to have more of an issue with her being jealous of the new baby.       I don't think you have a thing to worry about when it comes to him though.
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1901977 tn?1333991726
I think guys like that have already shown that they're capable of love, and being good fathers, which means it's likely he'll be like that for your child too. Love isn't like money, it's ever-expanding to someone who does it right.

It sounds like you're almost jealous of the child. Don't be, he's supposed to love his child like that, just as he's supposed to love your child like that. I think I'd be a lot more worried if he had a child and he didn't seem capable of loving her or being a good dad. That's why when I've dated men with children, I never date guys who are crappy or uninvolved fathers...it says something about their character and their capabilities.
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