Would this upset you?

[Cassandrajane]

Basically yesterday I was telling my boyfriends dad the names we have picked out...
Harry-John Stephen for a boy
Peyton-Jane for a girl.
Well basically, He said he didnt like the girls name and he wanted me to change it.. because he doesnt like it. The John Stephen part of the boys name is after my boyfriend who was named after his dads brother so we are passing it down. And he wanted me to name our baby if its a girl after his mum... I didnt want too,
I LOVE the name Peyton because its unusual over here in England and I just love it.
It really hurt me and I cant stop being down over it.
Would this upset you??

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[Tasha505]

OOOOOOOhhhhhhhh... it's your boyfriends DAD... ok, well nevermind, just name your baby what you want!! LOL ... I thought it was your boyfriend who didn't like it.

So let me change my answer from above- yes, it would totally annoy me. This is your baby and you can name him/her whatever you want. No matter what you chose, everyone will come around and love the baby for who they are, not for their name! Once you've named the baby, their name will become a part of them... and no one will ever say anything about it!

[Tasha505]

I didn't read the other feedback, but no... it wouldn't upset me, per se, it would annoy me though. I found names that I really liked and my husband didn't. And i just kept saying to him how much i liked it, and I told him the cool meaning of the name and eventually he came around. I just built the name up... don't give up on it yet!!

Maybe you could give the girl a middle name after him mom??

Good luck!

[ammanda]

I cant really add anymore then what the other ladies have said. They pretty much put it out there,  ya a name saids alot about a person, but its not everything and I really doubt he wouldnt love your child because of there name.  Thats crazy and if he didnt then Im not sure Id want him around my child if it were me.. Its you and your mans choice, you made the baby together, no one got to help with that(thank god) lol, so theres no reason they should help chosing the name for the baby you guys concieved.  Go with whatever you want and dont worry, I wouldnt intentionally try and hurt your mans dads feelings, but just ignore him or brush it off, or simply just say " hey its my baby, I understand and appreciate that you want to be apart of this, which you will be, but its our right to decide the name of our baby"  Or something along those lines lol.  

I love Peyton!  and its great that your naming her that if its a girl!  I named my son (2months old) Cole Patrick, which Cole was my mans First sons that passed away 2 years ago at birth, middle name, His name was Ethan Cole. IT took me forever to get him warmed up to the idea. But his family and even his ex girlfriend (the mother of Ethan) Loved the idea from the beginning. But Drew(the bf) was all worried that he would be stealing Ethans name from him. But as a few months went by, he finally sat me down and told me he loved the idea and thank you for pushing it on him.  Now we have our beautiful Cole Patrick (patrick being daddys middle name) lol  

I did have a group of friends, they were a family. They are hispanic, and I love them to death, but there really open and disrespectful and dont care about hurting your feelings.  When I told them I was naming my son Cole, they flipped out talking all kinds of crap. I delt with it my whole pregnancy. It irritated the hell out of me, they thought I should have a hispanic name and that Cole was too white. I just kept thinking, whatever, its a freaking name! lol.  The first time I took him over to meet the family after he was born, Someone had mentioned something about why I named him Cole, and after dealing with it for so long, I finally snapped!!! I told them "because Cole is his name, hes honoring his big brother and if you dont like it, owell we dont care get over it"!  Haha those were my exact words and I felt great

Go with what you want!  Like someone mentioned once that baby is here, its not gonna matter what the name is!

(sorry this is so long) im sooo tired and just keep ramblein

[Chez_lee81]

We had Henry picked from the beginning for our son. My mother hated it. She said no grand child of hers would be named Henry and she would call him something different. Well... Guess what.... His name is Henry and the apple of my mothers eye. And yes she calls him Henry. Good luck. Names are subjective and only you have the right to name your child. You could call her Radish and your boyfriends dad will still lover her.

[alaysha]

People are either going to like the names you picked out or hate them. But once the baby is born suddenly all the "haters" seem to disappear. My first pregnancy I named my daughter Aspen and everyone kept making jokes about her nickname being a*s*s and suggesting I change it. I stuck with it though and now all I ever get is people telling me how pretty it is. This pregnancy I chose the name Navy, I have a lot of opinions from people regarding that one as well. My dad said he's going to call her Battleship. I'm sure once she's here though everyone will cut the nonsense again. Do what you want to do and don't let anyone get you down.

[PrettyKitty1]

Every time anyone tells me to name my kid differently I say 'OK' and then move on. I don't get upset over that and I highly recommend that you do the same. Just say 'OK' and move on. That way he'll stop bugging you and...in the end, you WILL name your daughter however YOU want to name her. Understand there is always going to be someone in the family who will hate the name at first. Once they see the child they usually forget all about such minor detail. Trust me. Don't spend one more minute thinking about that :-)

Good Luck

[Cassandrajane]

I know, but i dont want to then if its born and if its a girl for his dad to then reject it because of its name.... Thats not fair.
And thats what im scared of, LOL....
I like the names too... And peyton is out of Memory. Because I loved that baby but I couldnt have it... So I said if I have another girl she is gonna be my Peyton Jane...
and if I have another another girl will be Freya something LOL...
I love this baby, Atm its Called Peanut... :)
But it just really upset me and I cant stop thinking about it.....

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[Spiket77]

This is why I have decided to keep our name choices quiet. No matter what...somebody is going to object if given the chance. If the baby is already here and named...nobody is going to object because it is a done deal. We have been giving fake funny names. Skeeter, Lasquisha...Ha!

By the way....I like the names you have chosen a lot. It is totally up to you and your man.

[Cassandrajane]

My Bf didnt approve at first but i talked him round. With the John Stephen bit LOL... Good Old me.. But thats his Dads brothers name too, So I am using something from him.
And yeah my ex bfs mum wwas called Darhyll LOL. I cant member how she spelt it LOL. But the boys way is Payton, well its a Unisex name LOL....
But it just upset me how straight away after I said it he went
'no no, i like the boys name but the girls, no i dont like it at all, have you considered Pam? its old fashioned and Unusual' I was like 'Peyton is unusual, and I like it and so does John.' he went 'well I dont'
Arghh!

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[Shayne1989]

Lol yeah i'd definitely just tell him to screw off. Its your and your bf's baby, and i really like using a boys name for a girl, my name is Shayne, boys version is Shane.

And i also really like that you've picked the name you had had from before. I think its a good idea naming the new baby if its a girl after the one you had to terminate.

[Cassandrajane]

Thanks you. Like I just said its kinda in Memory and I Love the name...and I am obsessed with One Tree Hill :) and harry is from spiderman because I said NO to Bruce David Banner Wilson!!! NO!
But he wanted me to name it after his dead mum...
But its my choice... We have names already if we have like more than one boy or more than one girl because it was one of those moments under the clouds LOL...
If we have a girl then have another her name would be Freya
if we had a boy then another it would be Max Alexander.
He asked me what they were so I told him. He is the only one who doesnt like it. LOL.
It's just eating me up. But His grandson has His name in his grandsons name... LOL. So yeah.

argh

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[Cassandrajane]

I did tell him to shove off. He said he liked unusual names... PEYTON IS UNUSUAL!!!!!! in England anyways LOL, and I know its a boy's name too. But I Love it, I know I shouldnt but the termination I had cause I was like 5 stone and couldnt have a baby, I found out it was a girl and named her Peyton... Basically it would be in Memory. Because I wanted that baby so much but physically couldnt. So its what I want. My Niece is called Millie-Louise her mum is called Mickey-Louise So yeah, my Nephew is named after his mum's mum's dad, my boyfriends name is in there and my boyfriends dad;s name is in there....
Im using my boyfriends name which is a passed down name... but I love the name Peyton and the way he said it he hates it he wouldnt be able to call her it... just freaking got my back up.

My Initials are CJ and if I have my girl it will be PJ haha. But it just really upset me..
He thinks if he is upset I'll give in LOL..

MEN!


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[Limonada]

We didn't tell anyone - not even family - the names we'd picked out with each of our pregnancies because we just KNEW that someone was going say something like what your boyfriend's dad said to you and just spoil it.  Once the baby's actually born and people find out the name, MOST people won't say anything about it, even if they don't like it.  

Like BTS said, I'd just shut him down quickly - but politely - if he mentions it again.  If he persists, then I'd say that you (or your BF since it's his dad) will need to be more forceful on the issue.  

Peyton's cute, by the way :-)

[BTS1022]

I wouldn't be that upset. I actually would have told him, to shove off. But thats just me lol. My dad didn't like my middle son's name "Aiden", and I told him he didn't have a say in what I named my baby, because it's mine...not his, and the opinions of other didn't matter to me and I wasn't wanting them. He quickly got over it, I named my son Aiden, and have never regretted it. And my dad and I are still on talking terms.

We're adults too, just because they are the parents of our boyfriends, husbands, fiance's does not mean we have to keep our mouths shut. Yes it's respectful, but if your not getting any respect, why should you give them any?

If he brings it up again, just tell him "I appreciate your input and the fact that you want to be involved with MY baby. But it is MY baby, and I will be the one who decides what's best for him/her." There are nice ways of doing it, but i'm not the type to offer any sugar coated ways of telling people to get bent lol.