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abortion ....

Iv been going through so muchh and I feel like this baby has cause so many problems I don't want any more drama in my life idk what to doo .... I don't want to abort but I'm barley 19 not with the babys daddy and I feel like my lifes a wreck right now I don't know what to do...
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You honestly won't regret it!! You made a great decision to keep it girl
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Ahhwww thank youuu guys soooo mucchhhh you have truely changed my whole decision around it made me think so muchhh and I won't throw this precious gods gift away I'm soo thankful !!!! (':
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I've also just turned 19 and I know the thought of having a baby at our age is pretty scary. Im 21 weeks and when I first found out I was pregnant I considered abortion. I was so afraid but then I realized how much I really wanted to keep my baby. I recently found out I'm having a boy and every time I get to see him I fall more in love. I wish you the best of luck and please don't let fear make your decision <3
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I felt the same way at first.  I am also 19. I'm with the dad but we had so many plans. I am scared that I'll never become a nurse or that I'll never be able to travel but then I think now I have this tiny baby growing in me that will go travel with us and will encourage me too finish my dream. I think (and I Christian and it's just my opinion) but good would never ever put a little life in my hands if he did not think I was ready. :)  I hope this helps a little.
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I was 20 when I had my abortion. I was working full time and finishing a bachelor's degree. The father didn't want the child and even though I loved him, I knew he was right. I'm now 26 and ready to start a family with someone else. I don't regret the choice I made at all. I don't wonder, I don't play the "what-if" game to torture myself. The reality of my past situation was that I wasn't ready. I knew if I carried to term I'd never part with my child. I'm grateful for the options I had available to me and now that I'm truly ready for a baby, the experience is all positive. This is how I always pictured being a mother. Some judge me but I chose not to bring another life into this world until I myself could provide it with the best opportunities and the most love I have to give. The choice is yours, you are not alone. It was the best choice for me and a life lesson that I will pass to those who find themselves in a similar situation. Good luck.
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5819507 tn?1375442913
I had an abortion when i was 18 im now nearly 21 and 19weeks pregmant.
I was one of those people who were strongly against it and never looked at the situation of the people.
I wanted my baby more than ever and still to this day i think of my angel it was one of my bigest mistakes of my life.
At the time i was not in the right head space i lived in a different country away from my parents and on the otherside of the country where all my family lived.
I was told by my babies dad he would kill us all and also had so many people in my ear saying that i couldnt leave the area now and i was stuck.
I look back an think omg that was silly my dad was telling me to come home and he would support me and my baby aswell as all my family would help out.
Ever since the day i walked into the clinic i hav changed.
Please just look into it before hand i would hate for you to go through regret and having down days.
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I can't say that it didn't go through my mind when I found out I was pregnant. My daughter is a month old now and it kills thinking about all those thought i had
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I considered having an abortion with this pregnancy. This is my third pregnancy and I thought I couldn't do it. When it was time for me to go to the appointment I just couldn't do it. This baby already meant so much to me. You should really consider adoption if anything because their is someone you can bless with that baby. Whatever choice you make is yours but please don't do something you will regret.
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Sweetie don't get an abortion. That baby will be one of the most beautiful things in your life when it comes out. Things will be harder but your child could end up being the motivation you need when your fed up with trying and not succeeding right away
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At the end of the day ure the one living with watever decision u make. You could of prevented it. Its not the babys fault he /she didn't ask u to bring conceive it. I'm just saying like the girls say I don't know 1girl that I know of that Did not regret their abortion decision. Don't blame it on the baby ure lifeis not always gana be bad ure just going thru some rough moments but u wil get thru it. Everybody has their ups n downs in life but life will go on. You can do this!!!!!
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I had my baby girl when i was 19 its hard but everyday i come home and she screams 'mommyim so glad your here' i remember why i went through so much hardship to keep her and survive financially.
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5609181 tn?1375332372
I believe that this is your own choice and maybe asking a bunch of women who are currently pregnant (we are all so hormonal) isn't the best thing.. I honestly teared up when I read this because I couldn't imagine going through with something like that with where I am now. I've always been pro choice and have many friends who have chosen abortion but there isn't one of them that doesn't regret it and always think what if.. And I really do believe that age has nothing to do with it; there are women years younger than other woman and are twice the mom. Whatever you decide make sure it's for the right reasons and you'll be able to be okay with whatever you decide. :)
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No matter what your going threw God put that miracle in u for a reason. Even adoption is wonderful these days. Don't put yourself threw more emotional problems in the future by having an abortion. Good gave him or her to u not the daddy that's y women have babies n not the men.
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No matter what your going threw God put that miracle in u for a reason. Even adoption is wonderful these days. Don't put yourself threw more emotional problems in the future by having an abortion. Good gave him or her to u not the daddy that's y women have babies n not the men.
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5761111 tn?1373906251
Its your choice I've been there before and I have aborted because I knew that I was not going to be able to care and love that baby. I never consider adoption becasue I wouldn't live with my self knowing i was giving my child away. I had an abortion at around the same weeks u are. There are technically a fetus not a baby. If u do have an abortion u need to gon on birth control because its not good for ur body to be having multiple abortions and its not good mentally either. Its your choice and if u decide to keep ur baby power to ya but make sure that u are going to love and support ur baby and protect and will give him or her the best you can... good luck ")
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I am completely against abortion. I can understand you being 19 and not with the father and having other issues in your life right now can be hard but you will get through it and there are so many other options then abortion. Women just see it as an easy way to not deal with it (i am not being mean in anyway sorry if it sounds like it) there is always adoption. i mean no offense at all but when you had sex there is ways of preventing pregnany and there are so many women who dream and wish the could be pregnant but cant get pregnant idk i just hope the best for you and your baby please rethink your decision don't jump into it i know someone who did that and to this day they regret it 110% and there isn't a day goes by where she doesn't wish she could have took it all back
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No one is ever ready to have a baby, I  am strongly against abortion. I had my 1st at 17 and now im having my second at 20. You can do it mamas, the baby has nothing to do w, your situation, and you shouldn't blame.the baby who didn't ask to be brought to this crazy world. It doesn't knw wats going on but can knw how you feel. I went through he'll w, my 1st pregnancy , I hated wat I was going  through so much but I kept strong no matter how much I cried I kept strong for my son. I honestly Probly could've lost him w, all the stress I had but God was w, me. I hope you do keep the baby, you can do it.
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5615074 tn?1378316840
I turned 18 on the 24th I have a 3 and a half year old and I am 17 weeks pregnant with my second. Me and the dad of both of them barely talk right now. At first I did not want this baby. I didn't get an abortion I was thinking of adoption. Now that I am almost half way through I can not wait to meet him or her. As soon as I find out what I'm having I am going shopping for everything. Just wait and if you still don't want to keep the baby give it to a family that can't have kids.
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I have had 2 abortions. I was always against it before I had them until the situations I was in I felt like it was my only option. Honestly I have come to terms with it and it comforts me knowing they are in heaven but 6 years later I had my baby boy, he's almost 3 months old now :) and I couldn't imagine life any other way. And honestly for me it was the best choice then because I couldn't imagine having to go through pregnancy and bonding and feeling all the kicks and movements just to have to give it to someone else, I just couldn't do it... I believe no one is ever 100% ready to be a parent because its an experience you can't prepare for no matter what it's a whole new level of responsibility but the genuine unconditional and overwhelming love that you have for your baby should give you the motivation to do anything and everything, your very young, the next few years are going to change drastically regardless If you have a baby or not. If you want the baby then keep it, life will be hard with or without a baby.
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5739386 tn?1378836460
I had so many plans too and still do. I'm 28 weeks 4d after I have him in nov. and after the summer if nxt year my daughter will go to school and I'm going too so I can start on my dream. But I'm not gonna let my kids stop me. If I can do something I like and support me kids more by doing it. I am. Just try not to stress I'm not with my baby's father and doing all of it in my own it have its days but you will get threw it.
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you can do it mamma. If keeping your baby feels right and it's what you truly want, don't psych yourself out. I'm only 2yrs older than you and when I found out, my life was going right for once. Then it all went to hell haha but seriously, everything that's happened and everything I'm doing, is 100% worth it and all for this baby. Everything happens for a reason and for me, my baby was to get meand my bf back on track. Good luck <3
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If you want to keep it, then forget what I said, I was taking this as you aren't sure if you want it... but if you do, then you just adjust your plans and persevere. You'll be stronger and more confident from it in the end and have so much love!
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If you truly believe your life situation would make you incapable of providing the baby with unconditional love and support, then maybe it is best... but if you think this is just the present and that it will be hard work, but could improve, then maybe not. Only you know what's best for you and sometimes being a good mom, means admitting you're not capable of being one at the present time. And I am definitely NOT saying you're not, because I think everyone is if they have love and work hard, but only you truly know.
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