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Please no mean comments as I am scared n confused i am a mother of 5 children ages 5 4 3 2 and 4 months. I'm going back to school in September to finish my last year of school. I will be a paralegal. So my issue is now I just found out I am pregnant again and I'm 9 weeks and I'm due the end of march I don't finish school till April. My children's father has just located to alberta for work so I'm by myself looking after the children. I don't know what to do and at the same time the children I already have are alot of work. And I'm deeply stressed and depressed. This pregnancy has me so tired and emotional. My children's father says he leaves the decision up to me but I'm scared of the abortion procedure and that I may feel guilty afterwards PLEASE HELP  
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I'm having twins
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How are you supporting your current 5 children?
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8835615 tn?1410091411
I've had an abortion before and it aint the nicest thing to have done. What about adoption?
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I would say the choice is yours but really you have 5 1 more u won't even tell the difference after 2 it's all the same... 5 is a headache and so is 6
... get your tubes tied though
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I hope you really are! Its scary not knowing how you will care for and feed another when it's hard to care for the ones you have. I feel the pressure also but my husband wanted this baby and I know I will figure this out when the baby comes. I can only take it one day at a time. My husband pays no bills and about has the mentality of a child... I make sure everything is covered and was a little upset he inSisted on having another baby. I am busy I have 3 of my kids in school and they are in two different schools.  I get up early and get them ready then the race is on, my husband refuses to have anything to do with their schools. So, I know how hard it is to have so many and to be worried. I just figure what harm is one more. You will figure it out and honey never just use a condom, that is something a teenager does. If you dint wAnt anymore look into getting your tubes tied or use birth control plus a condom. Good luck to you and your baby, I hope you work things out as they come up.
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Good thing to hear that u'r going to keep the baby <3
In past march i was 12W pregnant, when the doctor told me since i was 7W that my body is too week and i can't carry my baby anymore ! They asked to aport it so many other people i was like ****!
Even my c section was hurting me like hill! I was always at the hospital to make sure that my scar didn't opend from the inside out, my baby started to be weak i couldn't make him any better!
In my 11W app i was in pain , i have already one year old, they told me one baby being happy with her mummy better than 2 babies (if the baby survive) without a mummy!!
I was crying so badly it was my baby it is part of me, but their was no guarantee we both will survive in this pregnancy!
I did it, and i ratherd to die to do that even though i know he won't be able to live any longer!
After 2 days of that( they call it miscarrige paisicly bc the baby heart was too weak) i had labor contractions i was diying bc of the pain my scar was bleeding from the inside thank god they ware able to save my life!
But i was very depressed .. I got too many complications i was in bed for one whol month i got womb infection, chest infection, high fever and lots of things that makes me hate my self even more..but they told me i wouldn't be able to do anything to save the baby..
I started my life all over again knowing that i'll never forget the moment i saw my baby diyng in front of me!!
I get pregnant in jun even with the contraception pills but thank God everything was ok, my scar gets better and i'm able to carry healty baby this time with very good strong heart beat..
I don't want anyone to be in my situation( to choose between their life or the baby!)
I'm happy with my pregnancy 13W today and i believe that my god know the best time to give me those angels
Stay strong keep the baby u know u can do it u'r a great mummy u will be just fine and never think u did the wrong decision u'r doing the right thing with saving this baby life..

They are our gifts from GOD ❤️
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8171031 tn?1399327634
Abortions are emotionally destructive. You will hate yourself.
The only people who dont hate themselves are the ones who wouldnt even think to themselves that it would bother them.
It WILL hurt you because you are already worried that you will feel bad.
But you do have a lot of children and school is important. Think abiut how much you love them and adore them... what if you could give that gift to some one else? Maybe this blessing of yours was to bless some one else. Adoption is always an option.
Please give this life a chance, whether you keep the baby or adopt it you will be satisfied with yoyr decision.
Just remember, the only people who dont regret abortions are the ones who never second guess it.
God bless you and your babies :)
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10161345 tn?1488138652
Huh. I had absolutely not seen that. I swear I thought I had read everything. My sincerest apologies
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She said she was keeping it ^^^
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10161345 tn?1488138652
So. Call me an a**hole, but I'm going to ask two very very blunt questions. You've already had other children, and I noticed you state you are frightened of the proceeedure and know you would feel guilty afterwords. Many first time moms-to-be who have terminated pregnancies have needed extensive and expensive therapy to cope. First of all,  can you cope with a thought similar to "I have aborted/terminated/stopped the heart of my baby because of money"? If you can, I commend your mental strength and resolve even if I disagree. However, if you can't, my second question is can you afford the therapy you would need to function as a wife, mother, student, and employee if you selected to abort? I HIGHLY recommend speaking with a counselor who knows the pros and cons and psychological ramifications well before you make a decision. I wish you all the best in your journey.
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God bless your soul. There is a purpose for every living been. If God didn't have plans for your child you would not have got pregnant. ♥♥
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9023883 tn?1402943375
Yay so happy you decided to keep it! Your in my prayers! I wish all the best for you (((:
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This is awesome congrats...you can do it..god never puts more on your shoulders than you can carry....♥♥♥
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That is wonderful news and I know you won't regret it. I know you'll be blessed with strength to handle this. You seem like a very strong woman. Congrats on your baby :) ❤❤
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I'm keeping my baby ♡♡
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10259802 tn?1408880707
Talk to a counselor so you can cope with the feeling of guilt. Also try to find women who have been in your shoes to talk to. Only you know what's best for you and your family.
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9095217 tn?1408287670
To the ladies saying adoption it might be just as hard on her. You can't carry a baby 9 months without building a connection. I think u should do what you think is best
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its ur choice.
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9442948 tn?1406816451
In other words you have other options sweetie:)
Brain storm some ideas
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9442948 tn?1406816451
You could hire a live-in nanny :)
They help with cooking, cleaning, child care. They are a second pair if hands!! Let some one help you while you are busy! Don't purposely put all that pressure on yourself. And you won't even need to give up you're unborn baby BC if you let your professors know from the beginning they postpone your testing and let you reschedule:)
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That's a tough one. You could always give it up for adoption, but then im not sure how your  husband would feel about that and already Having older kid who'll understand what your doing with baby which could bring up questions and possibly resentment from them. But you don't have to tell them about the abortion EVER. If I was in your shoes, id keep it because it's another blessing, BUT financially id be stretching every penny to survive. Hmm, at this point abortion looks like the best opportunity, but mentally that would probably break you. /: Your strong, don't listen to others who "don't believe" or "could never do it" they arnt you, they don't have your life, just remember do what's best for you and your family.
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All these girls can sit here and tell you to keep it but really no one else knows what your going thru but you I don't believe in abortion neither but if you feel you can not do it again then get on birth control are get your tubes tied whatever is best for you condoms don't all ways work and I dont think people understand how much having so many kids actually puts a toll on your body just do whatever you feel honestly I wish you the very best remember every one has different beliefs and no one can judge you
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8788738 tn?1409772164
I honestly think you should look into adoption.  Abortion will just mess up with your mental health.
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8241203 tn?1446763200
You can do it momma be strong no babys life deserves too be taken don't make a decision you'll eventually regret or be sad about & if not than adoption is the absolute best way too go give that baby a nice home too loving parents who don't have the same opportunity too carry a child as you do ♡
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