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almost 6 days late.
So, I'm almost 6 days late. Still havent gotten a pregnancy test yet. Headaches, Gas, Bloating, Dizzy! No cramps, peeing a lot, very thirsty all the time, nauseous!!!!!! oh yeah, and I'm having hot flashes! I don't know if that would be related to pregnancy at all. Woke up with a slight back ache and my pelvic area feels tight. Getting more and more nervous everyday. Anyone else feel like this?
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oh no, no one is hurting my feelings, i understand where everyone is coming from. and thank you for the compliments and agreeing with me. and i know they wouldnt have the same experiences. but everyone is different. you never know how someone might handle bad situations. they come weather your responsible or not. thats life. ive seen what its like for her. but you never know, it may be a whole different experience for me. im not rushing into it, its a whatever happens, happens kind of thing. i dont expect to be getting pregnant right now, but if it happens, ill embrace it and be responsible.
We're not lecturing, we're giving advice. You consider yourself mature, and you are in a number of ways, but part of being mature also includes protecting yourself from bad situations. That means using protection and being 'smart' about decisions in life. Age is only a number, but it also tends to represent life experiences. A 17 year old does not have the same life experiences as a 25 year old. There are just things, that they have gone through that you haven't, like college, etc. You have seen what it's like to have a baby in the teen years, so I think that'd be a good push to be careful for yourself. I thought I was mature at your age, and I was compared to others around me, but compared to my age now, well not so much. We are always growing and learning, so don't rush into something you aren't ready for. Nothing good comes fro rushing. There is no need to hury up quickly and have a child.
well, in todays society, most teenagers are the purest form of stupid. the adults look at us as one big ground of idiots. but in reality. there are a certain few that are responsible and kind-hearted kids. i know it would be stupid to have a kid right now, im still a kid myself. and kids arent supposed to have kids. but like i say, at least im not 12 and 13 thinking that im pregnant. at my old high school, there were so many 8th graders that didnt even make it to the 9th grade because they got pregnant! i was only 14 in 9th grade! thats rediculous. sometimes i do wish i was older, just so i wouldnt be frowned upon for having a child(if i got pregnant right now). i think as long as you are in a stable relationship, have a steady job, and are out of your parents house(which i will be soon), that it would be just fine for someone to have a kid. age is only a number to me. its all about maturity and the other things i just listed. i know who i am and who i want to be.
Wow you sound far more level headed than I did at 17! I hope that things work out the way you want them to. X
im not saying i want a kid right now. i know its hard. i watched my sister go through it. i wouldnt wish it upon myself, but i also wouldnt look at it as a bad thing. i do want to wait til im older, but if it happened now, i wouldnt be ashamed and i wouldnt put it out on someone else. it would be my responsibility. i have better morals than that. i wouldnt let anyone raise it but me and my boyfriend.
We all know that you're going to do whatever it is that you want to do, but you came on this site seeking advice from women who are older than you, more experienced in life, and understand how difficult it is to raise a child, even as an adult.
I know this won't make you happy hearing this, but raising a child and being an adult is something you can't possibly comprehend until you actually do it yourself and you are soley responsible for another individual. A lot of girls say "well I help my friend with her baby" or "I practicly raised my little brother"...NOT the same, by a longshot.
I'm sure EVERY mom on this sight has cried more than once wishing she had her old life back BEFORE children...even if they are 40-years-old. It's hard, and, like I said, you can't understand until you do it yourself. I think we all see that you're 17 and know that you need to live life a little longer before you tie yourself down with a huge responsibility. We don't want you to make a mistake that you can't take back and lose out on your childhood and early adult life.
I know this won't make you happy hearing this, but raising a child and being an adult is something you can't possibly comprehend until you actually do it yourself and you are soley responsible for another individual. A lot of girls say "well I help my friend with her baby" or "I practicly raised my little brother"...NOT the same, by a longshot.
I'm sure EVERY mom on this sight has cried more than once wishing she had her old life back BEFORE children...even if they are 40-years-old. It's hard, and, like I said, you can't understand until you do it yourself. I think we all see that you're 17 and know that you need to live life a little longer before you tie yourself down with a huge responsibility. We don't want you to make a mistake that you can't take back and lose out on your childhood and early adult life.
i wouldnt expect other people to pay for my child. i would find a job, and i wouldnt go on goverment money. i came on this site for advice, not lectures. and to see what other peolpe thought it might have been before i spent money or went to the doctor. i did not come on here for other people to tell me what to do. its my life ill live it the way i want. it may not be what you think is "right" but its what makes ME happy. if i dont want to use birth control, im not going to. also, why be so negative about a guy sticking around. you dont know him. and you also dont know me. i may be very different from any teenager you know. and he definately is different from any teenager you know. so any of you that have anything negative or rude to say, please, mind your own business. wow i didnt know when coming on this site i would get lectures of what i should and shouldnt do. im sorry, are you my mother? you must be mistaken.
There is nothing wrong with being on the pill AND using condoms. I doubt anyone who used both methods correctly ever got any surprise pregnancies.
You said in an earlier post that you had $3 and could get a couple of $ from your boyfriend if you needed to. Please do not have a child when you're 17 and do not have a full-time job. Once you have a baby and go on government support, you rarely ever come off of it.
Be responsible...wait until you're older and can afford it. Do not rely on other people to pay for your children (that's where the free money from the government comes from...taxpayers!)
You said in an earlier post that you had $3 and could get a couple of $ from your boyfriend if you needed to. Please do not have a child when you're 17 and do not have a full-time job. Once you have a baby and go on government support, you rarely ever come off of it.
Be responsible...wait until you're older and can afford it. Do not rely on other people to pay for your children (that's where the free money from the government comes from...taxpayers!)
Have you thought about joining a sport/club/activity or something to meet others your age to make friends. It's good to have people other than your boyfriend to hang out with. Also, getting a job can help you meet others too and bring in some income to make you more independent. You make think your boyfriend will be around always, but that is not always the case. No one wants to think about their significant other leaving them, but many times high school relationships don't last. You seem very dependent on him and expect him to provide for you. You need to think about what you would do if he leaves, even if you never think that will happen. Also, birth control is very effective and it's extremely rare to get pregnant while on birth control. It's around 99% effective. And if you don't trust it so well, then use 2 types. You can be on the pill or another type of birth control AND your boyfriend can use condoms.
fyi- getting pregnant while on birth control is very very rare. There's no reason not to trust it. Most methods are 99+% effective. That's not 100%, but it sure is close! It would save you from going thru this stress and worrying in the near future. Good luck!
i dont hang out with friends because i dont have but one. im in home school so i wouldnt have prom or homecoming. my boyfriend is graduated so i wouldnt have one anyways. i have a week left of my first semester in senior year. i would graduate. and he wouldnt leave. he loves kids and stuff and would take care of it if that had been the outcome. he is responsible. but it just scared him because its our first encounter of having to go buy a pregnancy test and stuff. its my first time being late so i freaked out as well. and no... this time in my life isnt fun. i know life and love isnt like the fairytails. trust me i know. im not some clueless 17 year old. i actually know quite a lot about pregnancy and life after pregnancy. and sometimes its hard to believe in birth control. my mom got pregnant all three times on birth control and she used it right at the same time everyday. i think if its going to happen, its going to happen either way. if its the right time or the wrong time. ive learned. its a scary feeling thinking your pregnant, and its kind of dissapoiting when you find out your not. bu its also kind of relieving.
Please remember that condoms are birth control but are not as effective as other forms of birth control. There are IUD's, patches, shots, pills so many different things. Condoms are the least effective of all the forms of birth control. Also remember that the pill, patch and shots have to be taken regularly and a specific time and are less effective when you take antibiotics. I would either go to your gyno or planned parenthood which is a reduced fee clinic all over the US or your local health department and get educated and come up with a good plan to prevent pregnancy. Approx 90% of people who get pregnant in high school end up dropping out and not graduating. Additionally most of those women end up as single mothers bc the father cannot handle the responsibility. It would be sad if you lost out on prom, homecoming, senior year, college, going out with friends bc you got pregnant :(. Enjoy this time in your life. It is an amazing time, SO much fun!!
Well I'm glad it all worked out. You might want to go to your doctors and talk about what birth control would work best for you. If taking the pill is hard to remember or you don't want to stop and use condoms, then look for something that doesn't require either. It's important to be realistic and responsible about your future. Having a baby will not solve relationship problems, and will not keep your boyfriend around. It's a huge life changing experience and you need to be ready for it when it happens. In high school, that is extremely hard to do. Look over what options you have and decide what will work best, that way you won't be in this situation again. Good luck.
it was an equate from walmart. i tested last night, after i was 6 days late. but then i started my period today around noon. and ill think about that. or at least using condoms. me and my boyfriend had a talk today. we havent decided what we were going to do.
Hope all goes well. I think you should make an appointment with your doctor no matter what. If you are pregnant, you need to see the doctor. If you are not pregnant, then you should look at getting on some type of birth control. Good luck.
Hi all, I'm not trying to get pregnant, i wouldnt mind it, but i would definately much rather be older :] ive got the test, but im going to take it in the morning when i wake up. and yes i know, thats the exact thing i told him today which he said, okay, fine i will take you. i think i made him feel bad. haha. but yeah, i will definately post in the morning. :]]]]]]
i hope yu got that test if your boyfriend keeps putting it off you may want to tell anther adult . no offense but if you are pregnant your boyfriends going to need to step up and be more responsible and attentive to your prenatel care
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You sound like a very wise woman especially for your age and I wish you all the best in completing school and all your future endeavors. I don't think that anyone on this site wants to offend you or to hurt your feelings. There are many women on this site who are simply speaking from their own personal experience of getting pregnant at your age. While every person isn't the same and your situation is different than theirs they are only trying to make sure you don't have to experience the stress and difficult times that they did.