baby daddy drama.....help??

[Kezia187]

its come to my attention that my [now ex fiance, so i just refer to him as baby daddy] baby daddy always wants to run around and "have fun" his definition of having fun is getting high all day and blame things on me when something doesnt get done [i.e. go to the doctors to get checked out, but hes supposed to be the one giving the money, which hasnt even appeared yet].i thought that with my pregnancy some of this activity would have changed, but it has not, and im completely over it. i called everything off, and he just blew up and got mad. there was a period where he decided that he was too mad to talk to me [text me or return my phone calls. i had no idea what was going on], and he decides to text my best friend, of whom forwarded me the texts he sent. it was horrifying. i am still completely furious at him. ive put everything into our relationship, and in the texts he just puts me down through the ground. He and his mother are now enemy 1, and my mother [to them] has always been the enemy from day one. im feeling lost, honestly. i finally got him to give me $20 [which took over a month, i was 5w when i found out] so i can go and get my pregnancy confirmed. according to the "im expecting" app, im turning 10w tomorrow. its also the day im going to the doctors office [which is really the free clinic :( ] im highly upset, and he doesnt want to seem to get the clue that im done with him and drama. he told me he wont be the blame of my frustrations. he has done nothing but get my pregnant and drove our relationship into the dirt. i dont know what to do, or handle the situation. all i want is to do whats best for me and the baby. any suggestions??

[Lolo1996]

I'm going through something similar. I'm almost 10 weeks and my baby's father has done nothing since finding out I was pregnant. All he cares about is smoking and selling pot and it's aggravating. I haven't left him yet but I think I need to. What you need to do is don't take anything he says personal. Focus on you and your baby. The last thing you need is stress

[chubb3s]

Its disgusting! The thing that kills me the most he has an older son an he's on Twitter too an is seeing what his father is doing chasing the twitter ******! 28 I'm not really surprised 40 its time to grow up an be a man!

[mommylex]

^^^^ whoah that's hardcore. That's why I deleted my twitter! The father of mine was like that too! He was flirting openly to all these girls and taking them out and literally sex talking them. He's 28!!!

[Bree61714]

I live in georgia!!!!! Lol, georgia *****/: But I wish you luck and hope things get better for you down here.

[chubb3s]

I'm In a similar situation with my baby daddy. Last night I went on his Twitter an hes talking to all girls telling them he needs head an if they want to go for dinner an if he can lock him self up in a room with them an forget his problems!! Well I lost it an went nuts I'm 6 months an not dealing with that ********. I'm way too good to him for him to be doing that **** behind my back. I said if u do that on stupid twitter wat do u really do in real life?? Mind u ladies he's 9yrs older than me he's going to be 40 in April!!  At least urs isnt chasing twitter ******! I hope my poste helps u feel better about ur baby daddy!  

[Kezia187]

im trying to get everything together. my house was foreclosed, and since everything isnt working out with him and I, ive decided to move down to Georgia with the rest of my family. ive heard the care is better down there than virginia. other than that, im extremely sad things had to be this way. now im hoping thay with my new start in georgia, my pregnancy will move fast. im super excited for the baby!! o tempus fugit! cant wait to get my life back on track!

[Bree61714]

Don't worry about him, be indeoendent. Apply for medicaid, if you have a job, work until you can't, apply for food stamps, and if he doesn't change when the baby comes, take him to court for child support. I am sorry he isn't being the man he is suppose to be.

[mommylex]

Well first of all, you're strong. You don't need him. You don't need to depend on someone like him. Especially financially. So, go apply for Medicaid and they'll pay for everything that way you don't worry because truthfully he isn't responsible to give you a single dime. I know it sounds harsh but legally he isn't responsible. The money only comes in as child support after the baby is born.

Also, you did the right thing in calling it off because marriage is a commitment and he isn't showing any interest. Just relax and focus on the baby. You're still fairly early and don't need stress.

[bumpinbaby1995]

Your dealing with a little boy who is no where near a man sweety. If he don't mature and change by the time that baby is born then he gotta go, Sometimes children change a situation or can make it worse. However , it is not that child's fault its the jack A , parents or parent. Best of all to you.