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I want to be pregnant but im 18!

I have my own home, money coming in, and getting married next october. By then me and my fiance will be 19!
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I would suggest u to wait atleast a year after marriage. Enjoy ur life as only a couple because once a child is here its almost next to impossible to have some quality time alone with ur partner.
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Having a child together is amazing but is also means never being alone again. Maybe enjoying each others company for the first few years doing a little traveling maybe putting some savings by, so when you do decide on children life is a little bit more comfortable.
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Personally I wouldn't.  Enjoy life. Travel.  Make the most of lazy Sundays.  Having a child is Lovely but it restricts what you can do in so many ways.  Everything has to be organised around them, their nap times, what restaurants you can take them to, how long they can stay awake before they get grouchy, what will bore them etc etc.  My husband and I had our first boy 3 years after we met. I love him to bits but I wish we had had more time to experience life together as just a couple, before becoming a family.  Unfortunately, we were 32 when we met,so we didn't have the luxury of waiting to have a baby.
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Why rush this?  Why do you want to be a pregnant bride,  and miss out on the joy of being a married couple for awhile before you start a family?
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Keep in mind one thing, you lose the ability to experience certain things just as a couple.. but, hey.. I was 16 when I got pregnant, and honestly.. I don't regret a single damn thing. I would suggest having a baby as soon as your heart desires. But, if there were things you want to experience as adults.. as a couple.. such as colege life, traveling cheaply without worry of a child, or just silly little adventures.. do it before having the baby or while trying. But I also say.. GO FOR IT. It Wil change your life in all the right ways. Just make sure you're not just acting without thinking.. and make sure you are not jumping too soon. Maybe make a list of things you want to do before a baby.
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A baby is truly a blessing but having one sooo young comes with A lot of responsibility. Regardless if you have your stuff together the question you need to ask is are you ready to focus completely on someone else? Youll miss your big year as 21... Wont get to go out party take awesome vacations alone and just enjoy the freedom to do what ever you want with out relying on friends or family for assistance. Not saying not to just something to think about i had my daughter when i was 19 and missed getting to be 21 basically lost all my friends and was completely on my one... You definitely grow up and find what you like and what you dont amongst others...  
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Me personally I think you and your fiance should talk about this together
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I say go for it . You are young . Im 22 and trust me Ive been a mom since 14 . and im proud of it you won't regret it i mean i took a long shot at that age but im happy .
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You're an adult, you're more than capable of making your own decisons! Congratulations on wanting to be a mommy! I say go for it. Fertility doesn't last forever, especially for women, and at least you'll have the energy for it. The closer you are to peak fertility (about age 24) the more likely you are to have no complications with your pregnancy. I wish there were more people like you out there. Most people our age want to be kids forever themselves. I praise your maturity!!
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I think you should wait a while. I had my first child a 16 and when I was 19 I felt as if I missed my teen years. I had my 2nd child at 22 and I'm 5 1/2 weeks pregnant at 40... I would say 22-25 would be a great age. Enjoy your early 20's and it will give you guys sometime to get to know each other as a married couple. The first so many years are the hardest and being so young might make it even harder then adding a child. With that said this is only my opinion I don't know you and based on what you said you seem more together then I was at 18 and most 18 years I know.
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I was pregnant when I was 18 gave birth when I was 19 and I'm currently pregnant with my second at 21 this is going to be my last. It's not easy but it is do able. I say Go for it your in a stable home and relationship. And as for missing out on your life your not missing anything. And you will grow and develop in a different way. I have no regrets of having my son and soon daughter early. Good luck:)
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A baby could put a strain on your relationship enjoy being newlywed for a while enjoy eachothers company before you bring a baby into the middle of all of it
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You should really enjoy your time together as a newly married couple. You won't get that time back. At least wait until you're 24 to try. There's really no rush. And once you're pregnant it's not easy, esp
If you are sick throughout your pregnancy. A baby is not a doll. You can't just play with it then put it down. It's 24/7. It's not easy. Just take your time s a wait a while. If you still feel this way when you turn 20 then maybe you are ready.
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A baby is a lot of work and also costs a lot of money...if you feel ready for this responsibility then go for it. Just remember a baby can't be returned to the store.
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How do I post a question on this site? Also, I'd say go for it if you're BOTH ready❤️☺️
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Enjoy married life. Save some money. Then pray for a baby.
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Wait! Experience life, travel, enjoy the freedom of moving about without having to find a baby sitter. Grow with your spouse. There's so much to experience as a young adult before you have kids.
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Id wait. Great to have stability but youre still young and babies arent cheap
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Things can change at the snap of finger atleast make sure you have your education before having a child , I'm 18 & by the time I have my baby I will be 19 I have my own place , job , and I own my vehicle but I never wanted to have a baby until I know I could give it the world . I think you should probably wait enjoy life a little. I know my life isn't over but it's a huge set back I want to be so more successful in life .
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I am sure you are very capable. The issue is that you need to live life. You will grow mentally so much in next few years. So many things you need to do. Please give yourself the chance to finish your growing first. There is something to be said for time in.
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It is ur choice, if u feel ready then do it.
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If you and your partner are both ready for it, then go for it. I got married at 18 and had my first baby at 19 and now im 20 and having another baby in october.
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Only God can make a Baby ......but when it's your time it's your time don't rush it enjoy life
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Wait a little while. Spend time just him and you. But start a baby fund!
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