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I'm 12 weeks today and the "father" has completely bailed on me. He has not told any of his family about me or the baby. He told me he would not just abandon me, and now, I guess he just meant financially when the baby gets here. I feel so betrayed and helpless, he was my best friend and now he treats me like I meant nothing to him. I know I'm better off without him and have plenty of support, but when does the hurt go away when ur constantly reminded you're pregnant by someone u truly  cared about?
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3138931 tn?1350940318
id love to have someone explain to me why men are retarded 95% of the time! lol...i dont understand men at all. what an @$$hole!

he may come back around, some men get scared and run and hide
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2032869 tn?1333989114
Omg this is the exact thing that I went through with my pregnancy he was my best friend of 15 years and I was having a rough time my first trimester. He was messing around with another girl sadly while I was pregnant. Saying that I'm distant (live an hour away from each other). I was stressed I couldn't eat or sleep at night because I really loved him. He was leading me on thinking we were going to be a family. I only saw him twice out of my whole entire pregnancy, but we kept in touch on the phone. I remained strong and prayed. I had a healthy beautiful baby boy in May. After I had the baby, he was extremely excited to have a son. He's been buy things that he needs and coming to see him whenever I'm in town. We recently just had a fall out, but things are better now.

My advice to you is to stay strong for your baby. It gets rough being alone and having to go through the pregnancy being alone and wanting to be held and love. I remained optimistic and stayed prayed up. And had an adorable little boy who needs me. We are strong women. If you ever wanna talk you can message me.
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I know exactly how u feel. my partner has done the same thing after being together for years and actually trying to conceive for months. it is hard. its especially hard when u attend the hospital or the baby stores and they r full of couples/ proud parents to be, but u get through it. he has given u an amazing gift so take it, be strong and realise that just because he isn't there, someone will be eventually but in the meantime mummy will be everything to baby x
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Yu just gotta be strong for your baby
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I can honestly say I have never had feeling for anyone like I do him...it's been horrible, this is something ur suppose to experience with your partner and I'm so confused on what to do or how to deal with it all. I do resent him and It's like I don't know how not to, I'm just angry!
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If you really loved him it will be extremely hard but I assure yu it will get easier. Instead of resenting him try to think of it as a good thing. He has given yu the best gift anyone could ever ask for
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