cheating mates

[mommy2miracle]

Have any of you ever forgiven your spouses or boyfriend or whatever for infidelity?  Before, during or after pregnancy? If so how soon?

[AshleighMcneil]

Yeah no I agree with mege26. I believe people can change. I cheated on my x partner, I know its hard to justify but he was emotionally abusive and happened to be sleeping with my best friend on an off for over 8 months until the day I literally walked into a friends house and look whose going at it on the couch? We broke up and made up again, then a few months later I was drinking at a local pub and started talking to a really lovely guy. I think what altimatley made me cheat was that this "random guy" had pointed out how ridiculous my relationship actually was and made me aware of just how badly I was being treated...and yeah he kinda swept me off my feet! But after I cheated I told my partner straight away, and was instantly guilty for whet I had done (even though hed been doing it to me for years, and with friends and family for that matter) after this I never cheated again.  Im not with him anymore, I have been with my partner for 3 years last tuesday and the whole experience has oprned my eyes alot to the ugly truith to cheating.  

Dont always be so quick to jump to conclusions, but just as importantly ALWAYS LOOK OUT FOR NUMBER ONE,  EVEN WHEN IN A HAPPY RELATIONSHIP, s*** does happen but if you  always look iut for yourself you'll be fine, you know you can only trust your words and actions :-)

[SamanthaGutierrez]

I dont think i would be able to forgive my husband if he cheated on me with his ex. .

[thing2_2014]

my boyfriend of 7 years, cheated on me when i was 9 weeks, he says it wasn't cheating due to he wanted a break, but never told me, n the bad thingis, this is his ex n she has been poking around since we've been together, but i forgave him right away, because i truely love him n he is the father to my 3 year old and my son on the way?? but he has changed a lot not completely but some, this happened 11 weeks ago, i still have some doubt in him, but it would help if we had our own place again but right now we live with his famuly and his sister n ex are super close, they grew up together, him n i are 22 & 23 n i think we're to old for games but yeah i could go on and on and on abiut this girl. but I'll stop lmao

[mommylov3]

Im currently going through this with my boyfriend, sad thing is, he doesn't know that I know he is talking to other females and meeting up with them

[libbyz]

U ladies r strong I don't think I could forgive

[mege26]

Once a cheater is not always a cheater. My mom cheated on my dad and they got divorced. My mom has never cheated on any man after that. My stepdad however cheated on all 4 of his wives! You need to look at the situation. Was it a one time thing or an affair that lasted for months? Sometimes it can make your relationship stronger since you have to work harder to get trust back. Another thing, do you feel that you could ever trust them? Or live the rest of your relationship with that in the back of your mind?

[Netta90]

You only go through what you want too! My boyfriend cheated with his (BM) a few times in our relationship, i ended up cheating on him but two wrongs don't make a right! So now that i'm pregnant he wants so desperately to be a happy family.., In the back of my mind i wanna believe him he has been good so far, but i still have my guards up. It's up to you at the end of the day it's what your strong enough to handle as a woman. Some women don't tolerate anything from a man! Most accept whatever a man tells them. But i say go with what's best for you forgiveness is a big step. It's not suppose to be taken lightly. Just be fully ready to forgive the person.

[Nina159]

I forgave my husband twice once in high school and once after I had my son he was 5 months at that time I trust him but the thought is always there so I demand to go through his phone when ever I want I let him do what he wants but has to prove to me what he doing. He usto blame me for cheating but that because I bet he felt guilty I've only been with one person ever and that is him at some point around the second time he cheated it was very bad I get flash backs of stuff I want to forget but I have a good memory that won't allow iit but so far everything is so good we moved out to are own place and expecting our second  

[mommy2miracle]

Wow ladies. I'm shocked. Thank you ALL for sharing. Some good some bad but I appreciate the honesty.

[Retro_Raven]

I was a cheater in my past relationship which is something I feel immense regret over as I feel so so bad that I hurt my ex, I am in a relationship now where I would rather die then cheat I will never ever do it ever again, that being said I would never forgive my partner for cheating never ever I am worth more then that and if my partner doesn't appreciate me I will find somebody who will x

[BabyLewis14]

I forgave my husband an I'm glad I did he has changed .he is a wonderful husband an father now .it took me a long time to cope with what he did but I know he truly made a mistake I could see it in his face .he proves to me everyday how much he loves me and our sons .Sometimes it takes someone to make a mistake before they realize what the have and love the most .I'm not saying what he did is not okay because trust me its not and he knows that.but I do believed some people deserve a second chance .

[heatherrk81]

I was a cheater. My husband walked in on me and a friend of his. I'd been the bread winner, hubby hadn't had a job in two years, I want attracted to his lack of motivation or even wanting to help me in the relationship. Rather than talk to him like I should've, I went outside the relationship. He freaked out, cried, he had no clue till then. I felt horrible, cried, and it took me a while to even figure out in myself why I did it. We both no longer talk to that person. He wanted me to stay. We went to counseling together, it was hard. Beyond hard, admitting and talking about everything, being the perpetrator.

It was worth it. That was two years ago I almost lost him. I no longer cheat. At all. He can look at my phone any time. Even borrows it on occasion. He is my soulmate. It still pains me, what I did to him. It took FOREVER to get that trust back, I STILL do things all the time to show I care about him. I can't believe what I put in jeopardy, to this day. To say I won't do it again is an understatement. This man is perfect for me. I'm now 20 weeks prego by him with our first, he is BEYOND HAPPY, and we also have a great marriage.

I KNOW it's a rarity for people to change.  But I did.  If you keep him, he HAS TO BE 100% on board. Or, he'll break your heart again.

[kupcakexx]

Once a cheater always a cheater is not always true. Before I got pregnant I caught my boyfriend talking to an ex I was livid. I went crazy, that was the only time he did me wrong and we've been together 5 years. On the other hand I was the cheater for 2 years every time I was unfaithful he knew it like he sensed it. He also forgave me every time and understood that he is a lot older then me and allowed me to live my life as I pleased. I haven't cheated in 3 years and I never plan to do so again because although my boyfriend is not perfect it was time to settle down. We are both happy and proud to be expecting our daughter in june.

[LadyBeeley]

No. A cheater is a cheater. They just find sneakier ways to do it. If you werent worth loyalty and faithfulness the first time, then why should you lower yourself and fall for it again? They will never stop. Thinking of other women, straight up to sleeping with other women. You cant just decide to be faithful, either its in you or its not. Nobody changes a belief system or practice.

[everley2014]

the birth certificate. And that I didn't see him and I working out. He had been excited about the pregnancy, but was in jail when I found out. And I'm just not taking the chance of him hurting me while I'm pregnant. He cried when I told him these things and said "what the f*uck, that's my baby! Why are you saying all this? Don't you think this baby changes things?!" Sorry it was long. I kinda ended up venting. But yeah. I forgave him many times and I'm finally fed up.

[everley2014]

I did and I regret it. My boyfriend is a lot older than me and we started talking when I was 15. Before I got pregnant, he cheated. Plenty of times. He was also addicted to k2 which I think contributed to the cheating. But I forgave him, and now he's just abusive. He always accuses me of cheating on him with his friends (which I'm assuming is his guilty conscience). He started accusing me back in November and since then, it's been a battle to get him to believe that I haven't cheated with his friends. He has ocd and he obsessed on thinking I was unfaithful. We would have a good day and then bam! Out of nowhere he'd say "I know you fuc*ked so and so". So he'd start talking to other girls and calling me names. He'd start talking about my vagina in mean ways and he's choked me. Now, he's sitting his a*ss in jail for parole violations. I go to see him often, and yesterday, I told him he won't be on

[carshells]

I would forgive him but keep my guard up just in case you never know he could do it again.

[Krystal1228]

I forgave my ex husband, worst decision I ever made. Mainly because after I forgave him we hada daughter, he tried to divorce me while I was pregnant for no reason, found out he was cheating.... Then almost two yrs later got preg with my son and he walked out, turns out he was cheating and has a son with her who is 8 mo younger than mine. I divorced him, he married her, got her preg again and now they are in the middle of a divorce... Can you guess why?   So now I have his two kids and she has his two kids and neither of us get paid the child support he is court ordered to lay because according to him he don't work yet...according to his parents he does. He wants everything to do with then kids and no responsibility. Glad my fiance now has stepped up and is being a great father and spouse.

[gypsylopez]

I did. Best decision I ever made. It was over a year ago so before baby. I was back with him within 8 days. Leaving him was a big wake up call and he realized , as he puts it, threw his life away.
He made a mistake and I forgave him, he and I are still only human after all. Here we are now, no problems, married and starting our family. :-)