Aa
confused :'(
Im 17 and 16 weeks pregnant, my boyfriend wants me to do adoption cause he's moving and he says we're ' not ready ' ,i think i could do it, even if i had to alone, what should i do? </3
i have supportive parents too=). im so happy for you that your parents are so supportive for you too. i know its hard to be torn from 2 things like your BF and your baby, i too had that. but with me he wanted me to get abortion or give the baby up for adoption too but i did what i thought was best for my baby but i lost my pregnancy but i did leave him i didnt have anything else to do with him because he didnt want to be a dad and he didnt want to be in the babies life so i did leave back to my parents house. but being a mom is just a wonderful gift=), im a young mom going to be 3 kids and im 20 years old. with my first i got pregnant at 16 but had my son at 17 then 18 had my daughter than 19 i was pregnant but miscarried then now im 20 and going to have this baby 1 month before my 21st b-day. and currently im 14w6d=). it will be so hard to just give your baby up, i thought about it with my first and i kept on thinking about and i just could not do it because i just knew i would just miss out on everything he dose. even though he came out of a bad situation i would never change it for the world because i got a great gift out of it. like god says he dose not give you too much to handle=)). and im a strong beliver of it=). I hope you really do keep your baby because i just know you would be just a great mommy to your child=).
I know it's not going to be easy, but it'll be more than worth it. Thankyou very much, and i should find out next week, i definitely will! (:
You're very welcome honey it's hard it definitely is but so wonderful. You're going to be fine and if you have your family than that's all you need. Let us know when you find out if you're having a girl or a boy
Oh gosh, you made me cry :( you are so right! I didnt have a father all my life and my mom did just fine. Thankyou sooooo much <3
I'll tell you what my mother told me when I was pregnant with my son and abandoned by his father and terrified I couldn't do it. Every woman can be a mommy it's what we're made for. Your child will not be the first to not have a father and the only person losing out in the situation is him. You deserve to be a mom and to be happy and your baby deserves to have a family that loves him/her and if that's not his/her father than he/she is better off. Good luck doll!
I completely agree! You've really made me think alot, thankyou sooooo much (:
babys/children dont need biological fathers in their lives, all they need is a good male role model and that can either be a brother, your father etc, its better to have that than a father that isnt overly interested in the child, that can do way more phsycological damage to a child than not having a father around :)
Awh, thankyou sooooo much <3 . Im really trying to involve him in the appointments and stuff so maybe he'll have a change of heart, but either way i know i can do this with or without him ; I've finally made up my mind! (:
Thankyouuu (:
Thankyouuu (:
If you want to keep your baby that's what you should do, 17 is not too young to be a good mother I was 17 when I got pregnant with our oldest daughter and she is a happy beautiful 4 year old now. I married her father (who was 19) but there is no reason why you can't raise your baby by yourself and be a wonderful mom.
I vote mommy-hood!!! it will be hard with him in college and hopefully he finds a way to be a dad...if not...screw him...its not about him anymore...its about the baby :) . you sound level headed and you know in your heart you can do this :) it will all work out...
Thankyou soooooooooooooooo much!!! That really makes me feel better, i really agree, the stress from him isnt good for the baby at all. It's nice to have people agree. Thankyou (:
your not wron to want to keep your baby and you have the best start already.... your families support, he only wants you to give your baby up for adoption because it would be easier for him, then he wont have any financial worries, you will be an amazing mum, you stick to your guns and if he keeps telling you otherwise, you really should cut him out of your life now
well he is probably more worried on what thy will say ! ... yeah go for it sounds like youd make a great mum! .. if you did base your decision on him you would probs regret it anyway!! congrats =]
Thankyou, he just makes me feel like im not ready and I'd be a crappy mom just to get the decision he wants out of me. But having other people tell me im not wrong for thinking i can do it on my own makes me feel alot better (: but no his parents have no idea, he's 19, he doesn't talk to them much .
Aww that ***** =[ im sure you love him very much.. but its really good that you have a supportive family!! i'd say keep the baby=] !! its what you want to do anyway and if he isn't going to be about anyway! there is no point in trying to work round him! not that there would really be a point anyway... it wont ruin his life! lol does his parents no.. dont let him make you feel guilty x
He is moving to Indiana for college, i live in Florida so he says it wouldn't work. He is going with me ro a dr appointment the 21st to find out the gender, i would much rather keep the baby, i have a very supportive family behind me. It's just hard with him against it sooooo much in fear of it ruining his life. /:
Of course, every girl wants the babys dad to be their, but would u be with a boy thatakes bad decisions, or have a beautiful baby that ull,love forever? Hopefully he will change his mind, and u choose whats best for u
Being a father takes about 30 seconds with of work. Being a father to your children is a lifetime. Biology is nothing. You'll meet someone who will be a great father to your baby if that is what you want.
Aww this sounds hard =[.. but i would say if you can do it do it.. i couldnt imagine carrying a baby for 9 months and then not being its parent would be so hard.. but thats me other ppl could maybe cope better.. is he moving away.. are yous braking up?.. im sure if he went to a scan he would soon have a change of heart .. what do you think you would prefer to do? x
Thankyouu! I just know i could do it, i dont think i couldgive up the baby. But if i dont do adoption he'll have nothing to do with the baby. I'm torn, i dont want my child without a father.
Dont do it just because he says, do what u think is best, im 18 ,9 wks & my bf is in the military so right now I haven't seen him in 2 months, but as long as ur strong u can do it
Only you know what is right for you. There are organizations and open adoptions that you should research to help make a decision. Raising a child is hard enough in your 20s with a partner and a stable life/income/home. But there have been plenty who have overcome the difficulties and done just fine. Just remember you have to live with your decision for the rest of your life. Baby daddy has to pay support so don't let his decision to leave influence your decision. Good luck.
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