Ok I had sex with my ex boyfriend on Nov 3rd for the last time! I started me period on Nov 6th or 7th! my period ended on the 13th! My boyfriend of 6 years got back together and had sex on thr 14th of november! I wasn't with anybody from the 3rd to the 14th, then last tuesday i found out i was pregnant and my hcg levels were 7,905 and the doctor said i was no less than 3 weeks pregnant and no more the 5 weeks! Can someone help me with who is the daddy?? I dont want to tell my boyfriend of 6 years because he will be crushed if it's not his!! Please dont judge! the byfriend of 6yrs and I split up for 3 months and in that time i met someone else!!
Haven't you posted this before? Anyway, none of us can tell you who the daddy is. Sperm can live up to three days, sometimes even 5 days. Even if you know when you ovulated, those dates are so close together there is no way anything BUT a paternity test can tell you.
You need to be honest with your boyfriend and tell him because he'll be more crushed that you LIED.
go to MyMonthlyCycles.com its free to sign up and they have the great little calculators to help figure the OV dates and due dates ect....... Be honest with the calculators and they could be of help. Most of all you should be honest with your boyfriend. He deserves to know and so does your baby. Good luck to you
but should I wait until my first u/s...because i dont want him to go through heart break and it turns out it is his!! becasue after my 1st ultra sound it will give me a conception date right?? and because there is a 2 week period of time between the to! and the ER doctor told me that i was no less than 3 and no more than 5..im so so s o confused!
Oh I see... you made that nasty comment about me on the other post because you didn't like what I had to say to you here? Hello?! No one can tell you if you're pregnant or who the daddy is. Only a DNA test can. Don't get ticked off because I can't say Boyfriend 1 or Boyfriend 2.
And yes, some women CAN have periods when pregnant. Just take a test.
Doesn't your boyfriend have a right to know that it may NOT be his? Even if it ends up being his child, wouldn't it be better for your relationship to be honest? You said you broke up for 3 months so he will most likely understand. He may be upset, understandably, but I think you should at least tell him up front that it may be someone else's child. That way, if it really isn't his child, he can be at least partially prepared for the news.
If you don't have a paternity test done, I think this will always be on your conscience. You will always wonder if it really IS your boyfriend's baby. I think you will have much greater peace of mind if you tell your boyfriend and have a paternity test once your baby is born. There really is no way to tell whose child it is. You can guess all you want but I don't think anyone can give you a straight answer.
I will, thank you all for your advice, I am going to have a sit down and talk to him! I am going to wait on saying anything until the u/s...this will be the last time I am posting though, i feel like I am being judged and that isn't how it was suppose to be!...anyway thank you for all the advice
Sorry you feel that way no one is judgeing you huni,you asked for advice thats what you have got,there is no point us posting relpys people want to hear,honesty is the best policy,im glad you are going to talk to him,as it would come out in the end,im a product of my mums lies and deciept.all the best.
thank you tarajanes..i feel so juged because i didn't ask about what i should tell the father, i just asked about my hcg levels and me getting my period and if i could concieve the day after it ended...
When you ask questions in a public forum, you are going to get all kinds of opinions and advice. Not all of it will be what you are looking for or what you want to hear. I think the general consensus is that you need to take a paternity test. Women can get pregnant at any time during their cycle, although it's more likely to happen around ovulation. Since you don't know when you ovulated, it will be hard for us to give you a clear answer.
The above post is correct.if you were to ovulate day 10 for instance 5 days after your period then yes its possible.but it isnt that common...maybe you shouldnt have posted about there being 2 guys..and just questioned your hcg levels.you cant concieve the day your period ended,as there wouldnt be an egg there,its possible to concieve up to 5 days later.how often where your periods,just out of curiosty.
You asked if we can help with figuring out who the daddy is. It is too hard to say. So we are telling you what we think is best in your situation...taking a paternity test. There is nothing wrong with that. We haven't judged you...we can't possibly know who the father is and be 100% sure about it.
Honey, no one is judging you. The reason they said that you need a paternity test is because there is absolutely no way to tell who the father is without one. The conception is too close together.
if you were every month 28 days,then you would have ovulated about day 14,if you have period 35 days,then you would ovulate roughly day 17 so its impossible for you to concieve day after your period..since there is no egg there..
THANK YOU SO SO MUCH TARAJANES...THAT HELPED ME OUT SO SO MUCH, SO THAT MEANS IT IS MY BOYFRIENDS OF 6 YEARS!! GOD WHAT A RELIEF!!! I GO IN TO THE DOCTOR THE 3RD OF JAN! SO I WILL KEEP EVERYONE POSTED!
You still don't understand. You can't go by the dates because sperm can live for days. It was boyfriend's sperm against new guy's sperm. You have to have a paternity test to know for sure whose it is. We can only speculate and guess, we can't tell you anything for sure. And a doctor wouldn't dare say one way or the other either.
Sorry, but you really can't go by the dates alone. The sperm can live days in your body... days. If your ex's sperm was still in you and when you were with your boyfriend, its anyones guess. Yeah you might have concieved around the 27th or 30th, but the sperm could have still been your ex's....or your boyfriends. Its anyones guess. Only a dr can tell you. You should see online, once the baby is born, to see if maybe there's any sort of DNA kits you can order to your home if you don't want to go to a dr. That's the only thing I can say...sorry it's not better for you.
hi hunny, i wont judge u bcoz im in tha exact same situation, ur dates r roughly tha same as mine. R u due on tha 10th aug??? If so a doctor dun ths 4 me, count 38wks bak from ur due date n u will get ur date of conception. Yes sperm can survive 4 up2 5 days, but unless ur 1 of tha most fertile women in tha world tha sperm duznt survive thru ur tha time u had ur period, bcoz its not tha right liveable environment 4 it 2 b in, therefore it duznt survive. More than 1 doc told me ths, also its highly unlikely u ovulate str8 afta ur period bcoz hardly any1 duz. I know all ths bcoz ive stressed mysekf stupid with my dates, n if it werent correct i wouldnt still b pregnant. If u had a period its 99 percent ur current bfs, hope ths helps
and u r dead rite, even if tha sperm stayed in u 4 a full wk, ud just finished ur period and no egg will b there for ur ex's sperm 2 fertilize, so even if his sperm stayed in u 4 5 -7days it wouldnt have fertilized an egg wen there is not 1 there. U had a period, u werent ovulating till tha middle of tha month, so its very very very unlikely it is ur ex&s. Most ppl take a few months even if they r trying 2 get preg, to actually get preg dnt stress hunny. Ur datres r tha same as mine an i spoke 2 many doctors annd specialists
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