girlfriend or wife VS MIL

[Jazzylovesgato]

Seems like most of us have this problem. To my bf his Mother is holy she can do no wrong thts the women to be like. Well I'm tired of it. Every day its a constant battle. We all live together n she comes home from work n he's like a puppy waiting n thy talk about bills n everything else. Like I can't really help financially bt talking to me wud be nice I dnt get informed about anything. I come home from work I had a Dr appt today n he didn't even ask me how it went. Seems like he dnt care at all about me just his D*m mom. I'm the one having his babies n he dnt appreciate tht. Since I got pregnant again real quick he dnt seem as interested as he did with our first. He hasn't picked a name n he's nt trying to find one either he hasn't gone to any of my appts he dnt go visit me at the hospital wen I'm their ohhh but his mom yeah he's right by her side wen she was at the hospital. I tired talkiing to him bt I never get thru. Ugh! I'm soo frustrated.

[kizzoo5]

Maybe he just is trying to not stress you out. Since you can't help with bills, he doesn't want you to know how you two are going to handle it. His mom has probably been in his shoes before and your shoes before, and he relies on her for moral support and advice. First babies are always more exciting than the rest. Have you tried talking calmly about your issues and coming up with solutions with him? Or his mom? That may help. Good luck

[Jazzylovesgato]

I knw I have tried time n time again n nothing gets thru to him. My bf is looking at houses n I wanna be informed  too. We were eating right now n thy both start talking over a house thy saw together. Im like wtf wht house. N all he said was  u dnt knw cuz u dnt wanna knw. If me complaining tht I wanna be part of bills n house hunting isnt me wanting to knw idk wht is

[teregarcalva]

Well your boyfriend needs to respect you and make his mom respect you your the mother of his child and what's going on isn't right.

[Jazzylovesgato]

Its nt like I can leave cuz I live here too. Ima just stop doing myy wife duties he'll learn tht way.  I hate being lied too n have things kept from me. The other day his mom came from work around 2 am n walks into mine n my bfs room to talk to him about something n I was sleeping I'm like hello u dnt see me asleep. N nw right now she walks in n goes to her room n my bfs puppy self goes in with her n thy start whispering about something idk if thy keeping something from me or becuz his 14 yr old sis was in their. Either way if thy keeping something from me its nt fair n if thy respecting the fact she was sleeping it aiint fair either thy didn't respect me coming in my room all loud talkiing about something tht cud of waited

[teregarcalva]

With him and that's when he saw I was serious. Since then it's been his son first, I'm second, and his dad and mom after. I'm the same way with him as well. Sometimes you just have to put your foot down and be strong girl. Stand up for what you want. He should be there supporting you through your pregnancy after all it is his child your carrying. His mom will always be his family but he has other priorities now.

[teregarcalva]

I had this same exact problem with my husband and his dad. This was all before we got married. His dad had control of him even at the age of 20 he was living with him but that doesn't give him a right to control him like he did. He worked for his dads painting company 6 days a week 8 hours a day so it's not like he lived for free under his dads roof. It was so bad he had to ask his dad if our son who was about 2 at the time could go over. He bent over backwards for his dad and his dad only cared about the fact that he had control. I finally got fed up with it and told my husband who was then my boyfriend that if he wanted to be with me that his son came first then I came second and his dad came after because we as his family should be his first priority and if he didn't want that then he could see his son but I wasn't going to be part of his life anymore. He didn't take me seriously at first so I stopped going over stopped spending time