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help plz 8')

So here's my deal...my girlfriend is pregnant obviously and I love her so much. We did kind of rush things as it wasn't a planned pregnancy......but she's a month or so along and we have been together 3-4 months .....my question is we fight quite a bit lately she just comes over and sleeps and we never talk about things like worries concerns....and when she does talk its not much....she says I feel bad that's about it....and I try to spend time like movies/games/anything...I just want to spend time and see her smile and for her to love me....she says she does but it truly seems not the case...it reallly feels like empty words.....I try to be empathetic cause i know she feels so bad because of this and i really do care....I would do anything to take away her pain....I just feel like she doesn't love me anymore.....it hurts....she seems to be well enough to do other things but usually never to spend time with me she just comes here and sleeps and leaves.....it makes me sad....I feel like I'm screaming and she won't listen....it makes me so discouraged idk what to do anymore....I feel like giving up even though I never would....when i TELL her how i feel its always just an ok and nothing is different...I would die for her but truly I don't feel she would for me.....she always also says the reason she hurts is my fault and it hurts to have her say that cause i would never hurt her.....idk any suggestions??? There's more but I've said enough ...I know she's going through a lot right now but i WANT to be with her through it and it seems not to work....I also don't even know if she's excited like i am/was or not.....idk :'-(
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1946361 tn?1325018041
My partner lives and works in LDN since end of last year and I see him only weekends nowdays. He drives 170 miles (just one way) just to come and see me. God! In those 2 days we argue at least abt 10 times and if I am honest I am the one who is arguing - not him. What I am trying to say is I am glad when he goes back to ldn - in a way. Not because I don't love him (I love him dearly and he is the best thing that happened in my life) but because somehow I just want to be left alone. lots of things are going to happen, which you might think are out of order during the next 9 month, so try and take it with a pinch of salt. Don't pay too much attention. It will stop pretty soon and things will get back to normal. You wait! When you both go for the first u/s and you see heartbeat etc. - it will change everything! she will be the happiest! Give it time ))
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1935407 tn?1339234114
Please give her a little more time... i guess its just a hormons like what mummytobe saying.. i change a lot when i preggy Aidan Baby and my hubby its trying hard to be there even how annoying i am sometimes.. so don't give up easily... just think couples more month from now you both will become mommy and daddy and a sweet sweet angle and that's worth trying everything bro... best of luck...!!!
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The downside is she hates going out....so the weekend getaway might be a train wreck lol...but Ty I hope things get better....I love her the same if not more just the companionship seems to be fading....sometimes I wonder if she secretly hates me and just keeps me around cause she scared to do this alone which I hope is my imagination but i wonder......I know its hard for her and i feel bad but its also hard to love someone so much and not know they feel the same ....like on Christmas I got her a lot of things and I got nothing not even a letter....I would have been happy with a quarter ring but i got nothing....its discouraging
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1946361 tn?1325018041
Ahh honey! I think that gf's hormons are all over the place and not much she can do to control them. Believe me, the way she is right now is not her fault! I am pregnant as well and yes, give a really hard time to my partner (love him to bits but everything he seems to do these days is wrong)! Don't stress and my advice to you is: keep calm, just treat her well and give her the space. RIght now your are the closest person in the world to her and make sure that you tell her that. Why don't you just plan a weekend away, give her something to look forward to. Don't spend too much time indoors where it just the 2 of you. Just give it time... I am sure she loves you - she is probably just a bit scared. Having a baby is a massive step and responsibility. If you have only been together for 4 month I am not surprised why your gf might be worried. Explain to her that you will be behind her all the way. Make sure you keep your promise. Congratulations to both of you!
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