how do i tell my parents!???

[exited1991]

I'm 20 years old and have left a long term relationship of which I didn't fall pregnant. I have only been with my new boyfriend about 4 months and I found out Xmas eve I I'm almost 6 weeks pregnant with my 1st. I'm not sure how to tell my parents that I'm expecting... Any ideas on how to soften the blow? I'm really exited I'm just worried they won't be x

[proudmommyandwife]

They'll take it better than you think I was 18 and still living with my mom when I found out I was having my son, the guy was a jerk she hated him and he fled, she was concerned and a little disappointed but she still supported me. I got lucky found a great guy who I married, my son has his last name and he's legally his father. I'm now 20 and as I said married and 28 Weeks   6 days pregnant with my second son.

[PrettyInPinkMom]

Ur situation is so similar to mines its scary! I'm,20 n found out Xmas eve I'm pregnant , I been with my boyfriend 4 months but I'm 7 weeks. I was afraid to tell my mom but come to find out she was exited! Just do it good luck

[skipper0201]

I had the ultrasound with me and did it.  I was by myself and told my mom. My dad was out of town and I had the strength to do it that day for some weird reason. I also wanted to wait for the first ultrasound to hear the babys heart beat :-) I was 10 weeks when I told my mom.   I'm 25 and was scared terribly to tell them.  You should of put a baby toy or pacifier in a box and wrapped it for your parents on xmas :-).   SURPRISE!  I'm 12 weeks Saturday and wanted to wait to make sure I didnt miscarriage to tell my parents.  I'm daddy's little girl and the last girl in my family so I was scared.  Still haven't told my boyfriend's parents yet, so I'm half way there with ya.  He wants me to be there with him to do it because his parents nag, *****, and are anal all the time.  If you feel comfortable having your boyfriend there then do it.  Less tension at times because they can't really yell because you have a guest by them.  If not, then do it seperately if you feel comfortable. Or ask to go out to dinner with them :-) can't yell in a restaurant when people are around and make sure your parents or his have a alcohol beverage with them at the time can ease their nerves and no yelling only happiness:-) They will be excited don't worry its a baby who could get mad at a baby? :-) and if they get mad just cry. Then they will feel bad.  Can you tell I have planned a couple of things out on what to do and how to do it?  It works to have a plan.  Good luck! Count to 3 and take a deep breath and do it :-)

[farO_jan]

I'm sorry but when I got pregnant with my first child....my husbands...my parents wanted me to consider abortion. It ruined my whole pregnancy. They never accepted the baby  throughout my pregnancy. Even when my son was born my mom didn't go close to my son in the hospital. So I say tell them. And if they don't approve, keep yourself happy so you could have a healthy happy baby. Don't worry about your parents like I did.

[stacey10]

dont worry my mum was only 44, my age I am now, she wasnt too impressed, and I think she is secretly horrified that she is a nanna of 10 at 64 lol :)

[exited1991]

Thanks :) I know there probably not going to be best pleased I'm their eldest and only girl . And their only in their 40s as they had me when they were in their early 20s so they can't say much, I just hope they don't take it to badly. Thankyou for the advice x

[stacey10]

geesh I'm 44 and have 10 children and still get the"  look ""  when I tell them , you think they would have worked it out by now that the look doesnt work lol, anyway, expect the concerned worried talk, but as the others have said it shouldnt be too long before they warm to the idea, and start by telling them that your really excited and have something wonderful to tell them!! that puts you on the right foot, then how could they not be happy for you, just be prepared for the talk :)

[july1812]

I agree. Parents naturally want what they think is best for you. I am 21 and 11weeks pregnant. I got pregnant from a friend with benefits... It was tough to tell my parents because the guy doesn't want to help out. It sucked telling them. But the part where they get a grandbaby to spoil is starting to grow more and more on them. My dad even asked if the baby is boy he would like me to carry on the family name.

[MamaBear0612]

Just tell them. I'm 34 years old and have an advanced education and a well-paying career, and my parents still worried when I told them lol. It's the nature of parents, to worry about their babies. I would say reassure them that you'll be okay, that you'll continue on with your education or whatever your plans are for your life. It's likely though that they may not be completely happy at first, that they'll take some time to adjust. Eventually though, the thought of a new grandbaby to spoil usually wins them over. :)