Hi my wife is 4 weeks pregnant and we choose not to have another baby again due to financial problems. What are the things that we should do or medications to take to discontinue her pregnancy? I would appreciate if somebody could help us on this.
First, you need to see a doc about this. This is a very sensitive topic, since most women here are trying to have babies, not have an abortion.
Second, have you thought about adoption instead of aborting an innocent, precious life?
She'd have to talk to her doctor about that. Although, their ARE couples willing to take care of the baby if you choose adoption. It's yours and your wife's decision. Just know that their are complications with abortions. Talk thoroughly with the doctor and make sure you are aware of any risks involved. Hoping for the best outcome for you and your wife. Also, I would try a form of birth control if you do not wish to become pregnant any time soon.
In all seriousness your wife & you need to speak to a PROFESSIONAL DOCTOR. I haven't heard of medications that could cause an abortion & can't believe you would post something like this. I know I may seem judgmental, but if you didn't want another child then you should have been practicing some sort of birth control. Yes they can fail, but if u were determined not to have any more kids then you should have combined the pill or any other method with a condom.
There are medications that can abort your baby, but they require a prescription. I agree with the other ladies, have you considered adopting your baby out? most adoptive agencies will arrange for your wife's pregnancy and your baby's medical costs to be paid for, so it wouldn't cost you two anything. If you are not interested in children right now then I would recommend looking in to free birth control options after you have made a choice about this baby...there are several places that will offer free or no cost birth control.
Please have your wife see her doctor and if this decision is truly about money and nothing else I would highly highly (I can't stress how highly) recommend considering adoption. If you have made your choice and cannot consider providing a future for your baby then you can look into the services of Planned Parenthood. they will give you information on abortion options for your baby.
Best of luck, I hope you think very seriously about all of your options!
Hi there, just wanted to chime in as I see you are in a different country. I am not certain of the laws where you are, but I do have to say this. Attempting to self abort is a very very dangerous path. Many women have died attempting this, which is one of the reason it is now legal in the US and Canada. There is no safe way to do this, and no safe medication to take unless it is done under medical supervision. I am not telling you this to frighten you...I am pro choice and respect we all have to make the choices we feel are best, so it's not about stopping you. It is about the health and possibly the life of your wife.
I do know you live in a culture where adoption is not common. I don't know the abortion laws. I understand you may feel trapped, but this is not the solution. Please do not attempt this.
OK!!! You should not have an abortion! There are soo many people that would love to adopt!! I have done it myself and I'm only 24! I think that you and ur wife need to seriously think about you u are doing and talking about. Would you or ur wife actually be able to live with yourself??? I know I wouldnt no matter what kind of finicial problems I had! Please think about what you are doing....Im praying for you both!!
I would like to add that if you decide to abort this baby, it's your choice. I know for myself, if I was ever raped and ended up pregnant I definetly would. I had the issue that my partner was on medication that could cause some pretty serious genetic problems. We had discussed terminating when I found out I was pregnant. We literally held our breath until week 13 week I found out that the baby was okay.
What ever you do, it's your choice and you have to accept it. I would strongly advise on having the baby though and considering adoption as an alternative. Your wife would most likely regret the decision to abort and could suffer emotionally from it. There are many open adoptions where you can keep apprised on your childs progress as well. Something to maybe consider.
Since the original poster seems to have his answer, I wanted to take this opportunity to commend all the ladies on this thread for being so respectful and polite, no matter how we feel about the topic being discussed. I think that it's wonderful that everyone was able to be kind....so good job, hopefully we can keep up this sort of behavior in the future with all the ladies on this thread acting as guides!
This has been on my mind all night as I become extremely concerned when I hear someone talking about self abortion. I did a little homework and I believe I understand now where you are coming from.
I found out that abortion is illegal in the Phillipines? Correct? So I understand why you may not want to approach a Dr. I also found out that typical Phillipino couples do not adopt, so I can see where you may have concerns about that, and that your culture and society in general are not very accepting of people putting their children up for adoption. I did discover various agencies that will help. If you google unplanned pregnancy in the Phillipines, some of these agencies come up and may be able to help you.
Once again, although I understand things are different where you live, one fact does remain the same. Self aborting is dangerous and potentially life threatening to the mother. I urge you once again to remove that particular choice from your list of options.
I can see you are in a difficult situation. If you want, I can pm you the various agencies available to lend assistance where you are. Just send me a pm, I would be happy to.
Blessed Thistle will, it has been used for centuries for that reason.
I am sooo sorry you feel the way you do and I I do not agree with you wanting to loose the baby, I hope you can choose adoption or find that even though babies take money that little innocent life that is part of the two of you has already started and is too late to go back now.
Please though whatever you choose to do do nothing without talking to a dr first! Babies heart starts beating at 25 days, and you would never want to risk the life of your wife either!
So sorry for you and I wish you the strength to make the right desicion
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