well last nite it was a really rough nite we had to make the decison to give birth, the fluid was lower and he was breached so i went in for a c-section at 1140 pm and he was born at 1205 am this morning....he surgery went really good, what im worried is about my baby....he weigthed 1lbs 7 oz, hes been in the NICU ever since and today it was the first time i could see him....i broke down in tears and just codunt stop crying, i feel so bad for him, i cant help him and i really did tried my best on keeping him in my belly, i dont know why this has happend to me, its like in 1 week my whole life just changed up and down, this is my first baby and im just so emotionally drained i dont know how long i can hold, im in pain i hurt everywhere im still in the hospital i finally started using the bathroom on my own and walking around a little, if everything goes well i should be out on sunday, and knowing i will be leaving my baby here its just so sad, my husband has been a really big support for me hes strong for me and the baby hes been taking care of me in everyway and i just feel so sad not being able to be there for both of my mens, when im usually the shoulder to cry now i need someones else shoulder to cry on, i never thought having a baby would be this emotionally and mentally challenged and i wonder why god is doing this to me?? is this a way to test him how strong i really am?? i worked so hard to finally have a family i have always dreamed of having and now that i had finally reached the dream i feel like i have to fight for it........i just really hope my baby will make it im in tears as a write this i just need support from anyone whos been where ive been or even if you havent just knowing that someone is there listening to me is a really big help,
thank you so much and im really trying my best....keep me and the baby in ur prayers his name is GABRIELE GIUSEPPE PIO,
I've never been in your position so I won't even say I know how you feel because I don't.
I will keep you in my thoughts, and hope that your baby stays strong. I do know a woman that had her baby, through c-section as well due to the baby being in distress, 13-14 weeks early (was in NICU till almost her due date) and she is a happy bouncing 2 year old now. I wish I had more experience with this to share with you. As hard as it is right now you have to stay strong and keep hope/faith. As I said I will keep you and your baby in my thoughts.
Congratulations to you and your husband! I posted back to you when you asked about odds for an early baby about a week ago...I'm not sure you remember me (you've had a lot on your mind) but I used to babysit for a little girl who was born approx. 4 months early and she turned out fine. It was a long road and a long stay in the hospital but she made it! Stay positive and say your prayers (we will too) and keep us posted. You let your hubby take care of you, you need it.
I completely know where you are coming from. I had my son at 28 weeks, 15 years ago, when that was the cut off point for any chance of making it. Where you are now... I know how empty you feel, without your baby, and I am not going to lie to you and say going home is any easier. But you have to be strong, you will have a long road of may ups and downs for the next few weeks, to months.. Some days will be sun shine and the next you will be asking the one question, I did so many times, "Will my baby live?" But the doctors are good, and they will do everything they can to get you both threw this. Things happen for a reason, and well maybe your baby will grow up to be something great. Here are a few things you need to get ready for, CPR, monitors coming home with you to tell you if they are breathing, and long nights and days of waiting.. I use to get to that hospital at around 10am for the mid morning feeding and stay till 10pm at night, I even got to take my son hom at only 4.5lbs, because I was there so much. If they have a room to stay over before you take him home, do so.. And just remember the longer the better.. You should also look into early intervention programs in your area for premeeies, some have waiting lists, so when you get home you can get started. My son, I have to say, is above the IQ of other kids his age, but he is on the JV baseball team and was a top swimmer in PA. So they do grow up to be perfect, and the biggest joy in your life. You will never forget, and you will always be scared the next time you are pg. My second son was born at 35 wks, and right now I am holding on each week this time, I am at 30 right now. But things can be alright and you need to be strong, the more you are stressed, the baby will sense it. You will notice his rates will change when he hears your voice and you will have such a bond with that baby you could never have with a full term baby, you both are going threw this, and you both will make it. Pray, and Believe.. If you need anyone to talk to, or just vent I am here and so many others.. You are not alone, and you are now a mom.. So dig down deep, you have that super power all mothers have now.. Good luck, and will keep you in my thoughts..
I am so very sorry you are going through this. My son (my first baby) was put into intensive care just about 6 hours after he was born. I was barely 18 and scared. Everyone had already gone home. The nurse said she was going to get him ready to bring him to me and then when she finally came back, she said he had stopped breathing. She said he turned blue and they had to recessitate (sp??) him. I so scared. And he was full term. But everytime I went in there to see him, I cried. It just broke my heart to see him there. I felt very helpless. I know how you feel. He wasn't tiny like your lil guy, but I was afraid I was going to lose him. I did leave without him also. But luckily his stay wasn't very long. He just had to be sent home on a monitor. I was told that he would/could have a higher risk for SIDS. So, I was afraid for a long time. But he is just fine now.
I know your heart feels like it might break, but God will give you the strength to get through this. Stay strong and lean on your husband as much as you need to. That's what he's there for. May God be w/ you and your baby and family. I will keep you all in my prayers. *HUGS*
Im so sorry you have to go through this. I will keep you and Gabriele as well as your husband in my prayers. Agian I am so sorry and Im sure everything will work out we are all here for you if you need anything please dont hesitate to ask.
My cousins baby was born at 24 wks as well (in January) He read this at the hospital and I thought you could use it as well I am so sorry for what you are going through..... Pray and dont give up your baby can tell you love him and are fighting for him!!! I have faith because I know that my cousins baby has been through hell but she is a surviver and so is your baby! Dont lose hope no matter what the doctors tell you!
The Smell of Rain
A cold March wind danced around the dead of night in Dallas as the Doctor walked into the small hospital room of Diana Blessing. Still groggy from surgery, her husband David held her hand as they braced themselves for the latest news. That afternoon of March 10,1991, complications had forced Diana, only 24 weeks pregnant, to Danae Lu Blessing.
At 12 inches long and weighing only one pound and nine ounces, they already knew she was perilously premature. Still, the doctor's soft words dropped like bombs. I don't think she's going to make it, he said, as kindly as he could. "There's only a 10 percent chance she will live through the night, and even then, if by some slim chance she does make it, her future could be a very cruel one." Numb with disbelief, David and Diana listened as the doctor described the devastating problems Danae would likely face if she survived. She would never walk, she would never talk, she would probably be blind, and she would certainly be prone to other catastrophic conditions from cerebral palsy to complete mental retardation, and on and on. "No! No!" was all Diana could say. She and David, with their 5-year-old son Dustin, had long dreamed of the day they would have a daughter to become a family of four. Now, within a matter of hours, that dream was slipping away.
Through the dark hours of morning as Danae held onto life by the thinnest thread, Diana slipped in and out of sleep, growing more and more determined that their tiny daughter would live, and live to be a healthy, happy young girl. But David, fully awake and listening to additional dire details of their daughter's chances of ever leaving the hospital alive, much less healthy, knew he must confront his wife with the inevitable. David walked in and said that we needed to talk about making funeral arrangements. Diana remembers, 'I felt so bad for him because he was doing everything, trying to include me in what was going on, but I just wouldn't listen, I couldn't listen.
I said, "No, that is not going to happen, no way! I don't care what the doctors say; Danae is not going to die! One day she will be just fine, and she will be coming home with us!"
As if willed to live by Diana's determination, Danae clung to life hour after hour, with the help of every medical machine and marvel her miniature body could endure. But as those first days passed, a new agony set in for David and Diana. Because Danae's under-developed nervous system was essentially raw, the lightest kiss or caress only intensified her discomfort, so they couldn't even cradle their tiny baby girl against their chests to offer the strength of their love. All they could do, as Danae struggled alone beneath the ultraviolet light in the tangle of tubes and wires, was to pray that God would stay close to their precious little girl. There was never a moment when Danae suddenly grew stronger.
But as the weeks went by, she did slowly gain an ounce of weight here and an ounce of strength there. At last, when Danae turned two months old, her parents were able to hold her in their arms for the very first time. And two months later-though doctors continued to gently but grimly warn that her chances of surviving, much less living any kind of normal life, were next to zero. Danae went home from the hospital, just as her mother had predicted.
Today, five years later, Danae is a petite but feisty young girl with glittering gray eyes and an unquenchable zest for life. She shows no signs, what so ever, of any mental or physical impairment. Simply, she is everything a little girl can be and more-but that happy ending is far from the end of her story.
William read this at the hospital and asked that it be passed on....
One blistering afternoon in the summer of 1996 near her home in Irving, Texas, Danae was sitting in her mother's lap in the bleachers of a local ballpark where her brother Dustin's baseball team was practicing. As always, Danae was chattering non-stop with her mother and several other adults sitting nearby when she suddenly fell silent. Hugging her arms across her chest, Danae asked, "Do you smell that?" Smelling the air and detecting the approach of a thunderstorm, Diana replied, "Yes, it smells like rain." Danae closed her eyes and again asked, "Do you smell that?" Once again, her mother replied, "Yes, I think we're about to get wet, it smells like rain. Still caught in the moment, Danae shook her head, patted her thin shoulders with her small hands and loudly announced, "No, it smells like Him. It smells like God when you lay your head on His chest." Tears blurred Diana's eyes as Danae then happily hopped down to play with the other children.
Before the rains came, her daughter's words confirmed what Diana and all the members of the extended Blessing family had known, at least in their hearts, all along. During those long days and nights of her first two months of her life, when her nerves were too sensitive for them to touch her, God was holding Danae on His chest and it is His loving scent that she remembers so well.
I am sorry about ur suffering...but God made u and ur baby boy to be strong to make it up to this point...although he is delivered this early dont worry too much..God will give him the strength and hands to hold him..dont worry he will be everything that any boy can be...so just pray and cry to God he always answers our prayers...
u will be in my thought and prayer
I know what your going through. I'm sure my baby is with yours telling him to be strong. My baby didn't make it when he came that early. I am so sorry you have to go thru this. Now is the time to be strong, later you can be weak. I know how hard you tried to keep your baby in there, bc I went thru the same thing. It is a good sign that he is still alive!! Go Gabriele! I think he's going to make it. I am with you too, in thoughts and prayers. Keep positive and pray. Lots of love and Angel Kisses....
Gabriele Guiseppe Pio, be strong for not only yourself but for you family too!!! Your mommy needs you to be strong!!!
Want2BMama, like the others said, there is later to be weak, you have to be strong for your boys! God is not punishing you, but he is letting you know that things do not come as easy as you think. I will pray my heart out for you and your family. I can't say I know what you are going through but I can always offer and shoulder to cry on. God bless you and your family! Never lose faith!!!
I just wanted to tell you that I am sorry that he came so early....I will be praying for you and Gabriele...I can't imagine what you are going through...If you need to talk I am here for you always!! God Bless!
I can't even begin to imagine how you must be feeling right now. I have a friend who works in the NICU and she said that the most important thing you can do right now is be with your baby any chance that you can get. You'll be the most comforting thing to him because he remembers your smell and your voice. I know that it is very hard on you but I know that you'll do great. I'm sure I can speak for everyone on this forum when I say that we all love and care for you both very deeply and that we will keep you both in our prayers. Please keep us informed on both of your progress.
i don't know how you are feeling but can only imgine the fear and wonder you are experiencing. All i can say are the doctors are so wonderfull these days and the technology they have is amazing. Try very hard to keep positive but don't forget to talk about how you are feeling with your family and friends. Don't feel you have to hold on to your emotions, let them out and remember a helthy mummy is a good mummy, so do your best to eat well, sleep and take care of yourself. I will keep your family in my thoughts.
I am so so so sorry to hear about this! All of these girls have said everything so right. So I wont repeat it all..but I will tell you this...God doesnt give you more than you can handle. Stay strong! This is when you really need to be strong for that baby! You and your family and baby will be in my prayers. *hugs*
Let me be the first to say Congratulations, the birth of a baby is a maricle, your little guy may just need a few more. Be Strong! After you get over the inital shock and are home but going to the hospital everyday remember to take care of yourself--if there is a day that you are just too drained to go, stay home for a little bit...take care of the relationship with your partner (husband?) and remember that men deal with things a lot different then women.
You WILL get through this, You WILL bring your little boy home, You will be that family you worked so hard for
i didn't read the other posts... but i know that they are all supportive and loving towards you and your family! i truely wish all the best for your baby and pray that he will be ok! just know that he is in the best hands possible and God IS taking care of him, too!
my last dd wasn't born early... but she was taken from me at 2 days old and transported to another hospital to the nicu. i know its hard not having your baby beside you. just please trust in the Lord that everything will be ok!!!
and i know its way easier said than done, but please take care of yourself, too so you can be there in every way for him!
I`m sorry and I can`t imagine how do you feel right now. But you should just pray for him and God will take care for him. I`m positive and I think Gabrielle is strong and he will be fine soon. Just don`t loose your hope. God bless you and your little boy.
Please hold on to faith , adawning4 that story is soo inspiring and beautiful I hope you get through this and bring him home in a couple of months, I saw many shows on Discovery where woman gave birth at your sons gestational age and they all survived , one woman had twin boys weighting the same as Gabe and they both survived it was a long journey but they pulled through had this been only 5 or 10 yrs back there would be no chance but the medical advancements today are incredible and most of all God will see you through what ever path he chooses to take you on, I pray for you and your new family a healthy and speedy journey home.
Sit and talk with your baby as much as you're allowed. If you are allowed to touch/hold him, then do it. The physical touch and your voice will help him to get strong.
And DO NOT beat yourself up about this. It is not your fault he came this early. I know you feel as though your body failed you, but right now you've got to focus on your little one and getting him stronger. ---HUGS---
I thought about you all day yesterday during Easter, and just the significance of the day. How Jesus died for our sins only to be resurrected so that we may have eternal life, and have it more abundantly! I too have a Gabriel born early. He was born at 30wks and had to stay in the NICU. Just seeing him hooked up to all those machines with tubes everywhere was almost too much to bare. When I 1st read your post I couldnt respond b/c I know all to well what you're feeling and then our boys having the same name was a bit much. Then i realized that its just a sign letting you know that if my Gabriel made it through then your Gabriele is going to be just fine. I wont tell you that it wont be touch and go and that it wont be hard b/c thats a lie. Truth is you have a long road ahead of you, but the prize at the end of that rainbow will be the day you get to bring that little one home. God took you to 24wks which is the point of viability for a reason. That little angel was sent to you to enrich you and your family and to make you understand just what love and sacrafice is. Be strong for him and not only that be good to yourself. Being mommy is a full time job and we all need for you to be strong while you do your job. We love you, and of course you're in our prayers and thoughts!
wow..i wanna cry..(im a sap anyways) might heart goes out to you, your dh, and gabrielle. even though this may be hard to handle, you must know that GOD has a plan for you nad your family whatever it may be. dont give up hope.i wish you all the best and my prayers are being sent your way.
My baby sisters were born by c section at 29 weeks, so I can imagine how scared you are for you precious angel. I will pray for him. My sisters both did well and I am sure your little guy will make it too. God bless you and your family. Hope to hear from you soon!!!! Keep us posted!!
Hi I am a NICU nurse, and I have seen many 24 week babies do well. It will be a long road for you. He will probably be there until the date he was due, as long as there are no complications. Rest up and be there for him as much as you can. Make sure you start pumping your milk because once they start feeding him breast milk is the best thing for him.. Good luck and keep us posted.
Hey guys sorry i havent been able to post any up-dates. This week has been the hardest one ever, im still in pain from my c-section and taking all these pain killers just so i can go see my baby at the hospital. We are staying at my parents till i get better, my days right now are waking up at 6 am..pump my breat..take a shower have someone drive me to the hospita..stay there till about 3 pm...drive back home...take a nap...call the hospital...help mom with dinner ..wait for my husband..call the hospital again and than to sleep.....The Baby has had his ups and downs this week, but hes been here for 1 week now and hes gained 1 ounce! hes struggling with the blood sugars levels and his on insulin just because they are giving him and iv that is full of sugars, protein and vitamins so he can gain calories and there fore gain weight! Hes had already 2 blood transcusions (sorry sp?) they keep doing all these blood work everyday they keep poking his toes for the blood sugars and its so heart breaking to see that :( and it seems like everytime i go his skin is getting worst, they say hes because right now they are touching him a lot and hes skin is so premature that it bruces just by touching, but it will get better. The dr. are telling me that inspite how premature he is hes doing really good. Hes oxygen level is 21% and i guess thas what we breath so hes doing really good with that. They had started feeding him my breat milk everytime was ok till he had his first bowl movement yesterday and it was a greenish color they think he might have an infection going on so just to make sure they stopped the feedings for now and are doing some x-rays i should get the results sometime today, he also got his first u/s of his brain late last nite so im waiting for those results too.
Right now its a lot for me to handle and im learning somenthing new everyday, i think if somenthing was really wrong with him the dr. would have already told me by now, dont you think?? im really trying my best to stay postive and i have a really supportive family, its just really sad right now when i go see him, because he dosent know that im there for him, hes been having a light on top of him for his jandeness (sorry sp?) but it should be out sometime today or tomorrow, i was told that he will be in the close box bed for at last 1 month and after that i will be able to hold him...i just wish this time would fly by fast and i cannot wait till the day i take my little man home!
I thank everyone here for thinking of me and being so supportive i have a long road ahead of me and im trying my best to be strong i need all the prayers and suppost i can get!
Thank you all again and i will keep an update as soon as i can!
Stay strong......my nephew and niece were both very early. My nephew was born at 24 weeks and weighed 1 pd 6 oz. He is now 13 and strong. He is in karate and plays the drums like you wouldn't believe dispite the cerebal paulsy they "diagnosed" him with. My neice was 2 pds. and she too is great and going on 11. So try to stay positive, because the positive energy is what he will feed off of, and it will help you too. You and your family will be in my prayers.
So glad to hear baby Gaberille is hangin in there. He souds like a tuff lil' man. You hang in there too. God is craddling your little Angel in your absence. My prayers are still with you and your family. Keep us posted when he overcomes each and every obstacle....God bless.
OMG , you dont know how happy I am to see a post from you , I am really glad Gabe is doing so well, I hope you heal quiickly to devote more time to Gabe it must be so hard doiong what you are in pain. I will keep him and you in my prayers and copy this post for the others.
He's doing great, honey! I know you want him in your arms! If he can hear you through the bed, just keep talking to him. If you don't know what to say, bring some children's books with you and read them, especially the rhyming ones. Let him hear your voice!
Thank you for the update. It is a very long road with a premie, but sounds like he is doing well. I am sure you will get to take him home in a few months.
The pain of the c section will subside soon. After a couple weeks you will feel almost normal again. You will be able to bend and move without hurting too bad.
Our prayers are with you!!!
Hi, First I want to say that you are not alone. I recently had my first child at 25 weeks. She was born at 1lb 10oz after being on bedrest for 2 and a 1/2 months. Prior to her I lost twins at 20 weeks. I was terrified when I first saw her. I felt helpless and guilty along with so sad, and I cried before she was born and after. She had all of the CBC's and the wires they put in the naval area was slipping and causing eletrical impulses through her heart making her heart drop down to the 20's. Then when the doctors got it together and removed the wires but replaced them with the p.i.c line (PCVC) she caught 3 bacteria infections. Now, in both situations they told us "Oh, we haven't seen that before".....well i was a mess and I went everyday and stayed all day. But there was days I could not watch my baby go throught the pricking and ex-rays. BUT, to GOD be the glory I prayed in the morning in the eveings in my coming and in my goings. I mentioned GOD all throught that hospital. And now my "little Angel" in 32 weeks she has grown out of the apnea and desats. She is 3lbs 4ozs and gaining 1 to 2 ozs a day. I kangroo with her, sing to her , read to her and love her everyday. She looks at us, she recognizes both I and her father voice. She is starting to feed from a bottle and has been on no form of O2 for two weeks. So when I say you are not alone, you are not. She is still in the hospital and I hate leaving her. Your son is probably home now, remember to thank GOD and if he is not he will be. God Bless you
Congrats on da baby. I will keep you in my prayers. With all the advanced technology these days, your baby has a great survial rate. My nephew was born about 24weeks, weight was 1oz and was very transparent. He had 5 surgies b4 3 months of age, and im glad to say he is a healthy 4yr old active boy. Vent all you need, we are here for you.
I can't tell you how bad I feel for your right now. you are in my prayers. as someone told me: even tho your situation is bad, think of those mothers who don't have theyre child right now. Youve been blessed witha living child.
I know it hurts to see your baby that way and not be able to do anything to help it. I know this because of my son who won't be out of the nicu for maybe 3more weeks or a month. They're gonna do a couple surgeries on him, one for a gtube and another for his heart.
if you need to talk just message me. I may not have the same situation as you but I do have a good idea of how it feels. The parents w/the baby next to me today got told that they're baby will HAVE to have a heart transplant sometime in his life and is about to undergo a serious surgery to fix his heart, one of 3. You know, Ive met probably about 5-10 sets of parents in this nicu that have had babies before 30 w and the babies are healthy and ALIVE and going home soon..... babies born that early hve a great survival rate these days.
You are not alone .... they had to induce my pregnancy at 24 weeks, unfortunately my baby girl couldn't be saved ... and she looked so perfect. I also asked God many times why me, what did I do to derserve this. I recently had a miscarriage again so I'm feeling helpless and quite despondent. But all I can say is stay strong things will turn out the way you would like it to. I will keep you and ur baby in my prayers .... !!
wow i dint even know this message was still around.
its been 5 months now....since all this happend to me...reading back this message i posted in march has brought me back a lot of memories...my little guy has been truly blessed giving a chance at life...ive been blessed...he was in the NICU for 111 long days..i thought the day he would come home would never come...but as of yesterday i scheduled his baptsim party...who would have ever thought about that...im amazed on how well hes doing...this week will be his last week on 02! YAY! we are finally getting rid of that....i coudnt be more excited...hes now just about 10 lbs!! hes the love of my life...the reason why i breath everyday....my life has changed soo much since he came into the world...ive learned to look at things in a different prospective than i used too....god is good!!! just keep thinking positive and keep your faith up...god will make sure our little fighters will be allright!
my Gabe had a lot of issues being born soo premature...but in the 111 days in the NICU he dint have any surgerys! just recently he had to have a laser eye surgery but my drs. keep tellling me thas not consider a surgery since its laser and they are not cutting anything...they call it a treatment...he eventually will need surgery down the line..but thas just to repair a ingunal hernia...which even FT babys can get...and its a very common surgery...so im sure hell pull of of it just fine!
other that than...hes just a newborn baby...who sleeps and eat...and now smiles at mommy!! the best thing in the world!
i wish everyone luck with all their babys....and if anyone needs anything even someone to just talk...im here!
Im sorry to hear what your going through my daughter was also born at 24 weeks weighing in at 1lb 6oz. Today she's 3 years old and doing great. This is not gods punishment to you but it is actually more of a blessing to watch your baby at how small he is now and watch him grow and eventually come home. It was so amazing to walk in the NICU and see that my daughter was on less oxygen or just moving forward to coming home. The road will be tough at times like my daughter had to be moved for eye surgery because she had ROP ( an eye problem for premature babies) but she sees fine and the surgery also went fine. There will be setbacks when one day you will walk in and they baby will seem to be doing worse then they day before but I assure you he's going to be ok. Please keep your head up and be strong. If when you go home you are worried about your baby you can call the NICU at anytime and you can also go to the NICU anytime. Im going to leave my e-mail for you and you can e-mail me whenever you have a question since I went thorugh this with my daughter and brother who were born prematurely so Im pretty aware of what goes on. I wish you the best of luck and all my blessings for you and your baby.
I don't believe in the same god as everyone seems to believe in on this post, but I believe the way the gods and goddesses work is that they won't put you through anymore than what they think you can handle.
Keep strong and if you fight for your baby, your baby will fight for you as best he can.
My sister in law had her daughter at I think she said 24 or 26 weeks, I'm not sure, but I know it was around the same time as you and Isabelle is a healthy 8 year old girl now.
When she was born my MIL said she was transparent and didn't even have any elbows or knees. And the docs kept telling her she wasn't gunna make it-
but she did.
Don't keep your thoughts grim.
Everything happens for a reason and this experience will make you and your baby stronger than ever.
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