girl I've been EXACTLY in your shoes. my ex was a piece of **** meth head who did the same crap to me. i dont blame you for missing him because i did the same thing. they are amazing with words and the whole ” ive changed” story. he broke everything i owned, he was absolutely crazy but i loved him. it all takes time and you as a person have to gain the strength to move on.. it will probably be the hardeat thing you've ever done & you might cry .. a lot, but it will be better
Any man who punches you in the face (sober or intoxicated) is NEVER worth sticking around for. Not to mention the cheating, not to mention not staying clean and sober for A: Himself and B: for someone who loves him and for someone he is supposed to love back and C: his unborn child. I'm sorry your going through this, but all that in the years......no go for me. You have to smart and strong for that baby. You cant stick around for that s***. Lying, cheating and outwardly abusive....you and NOBODY deserves that. By staying with him, your enabling him to keep thinkin its okay o disrespect you because you will stick around anyway. Give him something to think about....like getting as far away as you can with that baby. Obviously jail time and the law doesn't make him shape up. DON'T feel bad for him because he doesn't feel bad for you. Be strong and move on....you can do it.
Let your self free you know your better then that and you can't let that feeling go would you want baby to are this person violate your personal rights and take advantage of you again or destroy the only car you have to take baby to and from doctors visits family visits some times it is truly just better to let him suffer from his choices and let yourself hurt from heartbreak then to give some one the chance to scar your child for life
Trust me it's not easy! I agree with and see where angelab2012 is coming from because my mom was abused and i would try to jump in and he said sorry to the both of us and wouldn't do it again but on drugs he wasn't himself so when my friend hit me for the second time i knew i wasn't gonna take it cause even though i was little those beatings are images i will never forget.
thx ladies. im jus tired of hurting nd worried tht wen he gets out hell manipulate my heart into taking him back. swear hell change nd love me nd treat me right etc. hes good with words. hell tell me he wants to b a family nd idk how to b strong enough to say no u had chances
Yess it gets better moving on... I was in a mentally, physically and verbally abusive relationship for almost 12 yrs. I've got 2 kids with him and it's tougher having kids ur soo worth it. Your baby doesn't deserve to grow up in the volatile situation. Wish I'd stopped giving chances long before my girls in having issues with now I. Counseling etc :( for not only ur sake but that babies get out in knowhow hard it is but it's the best in the end. Get good friends family and support to help you thru it'll get easier I promise. Not only that DCF ever get wind and they will get involved. My older daughter was only 5 days old he was pounding the hell out of me and I called the police when they got there they called DCF Bcuz my 5 day old who didn't realize anything at that point was exposed to it.. Then they questioned my boys who were 4 and 6 not something you want or need. Obviously I hadn't done anything wrong you've not either.. but GO many ways for the best.... Good luck :)
I now have somebody that loves me and that understands what i went through and loved me past my pain. I'm not gone say i don't ever think about "mr 9 years" because we had always wanted children but then i think of how he cheated on me when i was nothing but good to him and i look at my baby's father and my best friend and i know that leaving " Mr 9 years" was worth it because you should be happy in love instead of crying every night in sadness.
does it get better moving on?
Been there sweetie and it doesn't get easier when you let him back in. I was with mine for 9 years and I'm only 24 but love is love. You can't help who you love but if he loved you, like REALLY loved you he would never put his hands on you. Praying for you and your son or daughter.
yes it is.. i miss the him wen hes not on drugs cuz hes not like this. but weve been dating almost 3 years and he always relapses eventually. idk wut to do.. my head is saying leave but my heart is saying one more chance.
Is it him you miss..? Or is it that you miss having your unborn baby's dad around or someone there for you?
I kinda went through same situation and my mom put me in counseling and my counselor asked me these things and it hit me.. I don't know if I actually miss him.. Hope that helps a little..
And I'm sorry for whats going on! Must be so stressful!!! Praying for you