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miscarriage

Im 5 weeks pregnant tomorrow ... my family and long term bf partner are all thinking about buying prams and clothes it seems like its only me who is thinking  about not buying anything till about 15+ weeks as of miscarriage. Im worried thatvtjere is a possibility of that bit its only me thinking about it. Does anybody know the miscarriage rates in 17-18 uear olds??

Help pleasd way to scared ... :(
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Thankyou at least I know its not just my bf ... ive ended up leaving him today after he punshed a wall because I said the child was his and he need to grow up and get out of bed and organise what i need to talk to midwife about at my appointment and also that if he doesnt im going home as he is lazy and childish about the whole matter ... I now have him begging me to forgive him ... I dont know what to do :'(
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I know what that feels like but just give him some time and space. When I was pregnant with my 1st child I was 19. My boyfriend didn't think it was his either. He treated me very badly and we fought all the time. I didn't have any money and was worried about how I was going to make it on my own. We went through problems for many years even after my son was born and we even took a DNA test when my son was 4yrs old just to show him my son was his. My son is 13 now and me and his father have been married for 5yrs. We are expecting our 2nd child in July and we are very happy. It took us many many years to work things out and forgive eachother for things we had said and done. My son is my everything and even though I spent many years raising him on my own and money was tight I had support from others and can't imagine my life without him. Men don't realize they are fathers until they see the baby. Good luck to you and remember you never knows what life will bring, stay positive! :)
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Ok so 20% its not as high as I thaught ... I know my birth mum has had 4 children no complications and nnever had a miscarriage same as with her mum .....
Ill try and be calm for my little one as I want him/ hopefully her to have the best life possible ...
I dont think he will change his mind at all he already said he doesnt want the baby and hes only staying because I want the baby ... but now he said its not myne it never was myne your a cheater and im fed up of you f**k o**
... he is childish im just worried about the cost of the baby and can I afford it ... :(
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Sorry to hear your boyfriend is being so childish! Men have no idea what it takes to grow a baby inside of them and how hard it is on your body. Even though it may be hard try not to get too stressed, it's bad for the baby and focus on thinking positive and being healthy for him or her. He will come around..
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3198629 tn?1367038423
I had a miscarriage in my first pregnancy (I was 18 at the time). From what I heard about 20% of women miscarry their first, I don't think that's talking specifically about any age group though. But now I'm 19 and 16 weeks and 3 days pregnant with my healthy little one who I get to see in a 3D scan tommorow. Yay!!  
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So you revomend after 18 weeks then stary buying ...  ok ... that give me longer to gsther ip my money and start saving ... x
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Well its reassuring knowing that im not the only one with the fears and everything ... I hope everything goes well for my little as he/ hopefully she will know there loved when there born... ive now found out im doing the pregnsncy alone as my bf of 2 and a half years os now fed up becsuse I dont want to have sex ... he now thinks ove been doing the dirty and the child isnt his ... dont know what to do .... :(
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4476664 tn?1361632949
I waited until 12 weeks to tell people and didnt start buying things until 18weeks, after my anatomy ultrasound, to know that baby was doing well. I'm now 22w5d and pretty much grabbing what I can when I go out
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This is our 5th baby but our 7th pregnancy we have had 2 miscarriages and I worried like crazy everytime until I saw a baby with a heartbeat. The first was a molar pregnancy and the second the baby stopped developing at 8 weeks. So I didn't buy anything until about 16 weeks or so. I felt like it would jinx everything. With my first mc we got stuff as soon as we got a positive and I went two weeks later and had to have an emergency d&c so I didn't do that ever again. It's up to you but if you have no history I wouldn't worry about it. I was 18 when I had the first mc but I already had a 2year old son. So I didn't expect anything could go wrong. Best of luck to you and your jelly bean:)
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Well im praying for a healthy birth too I hope all goes well for you too. I have also baught a uni sex baby outfit ... but im regretting it now as im only 5 weeks gone tomorrow ... doctors have saod bp and the amount of all nutrients and hormones are perfect ... I get another blood test result tomorrow ... keeping an eyebon me due to hypohlycemia which also worrys me due to the extra amount of glucose amount I will need in the pregnancy ... oh but stress and worry does nothing to help so Im trying to stay as cslm as poss ... as said earlyier I hope you have a heathy pregnancy and I will add you ti my prayers :) x
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I've had three prior m/c I'm only 22. This is my 4th try doc says there's nothing to worry about because everything looks perfect, can't help but be nervous and scared though. I bought one unisex outfit to keep it in my mind that my baby will be here to wear this! Laws of attraction for me. I am willing a strong, healthy baby (hopefully boy but idc) 8weeks3days (:
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This is my first pregnancy.  The doctors said there shouldnt be anything to worry about. There is no previous history of miscarriage in my family. Yeah I said wait till after 12 weeks at least but preferablycloser to the end of the second ttrimester would be better. Im just so worried after seeing how common kt is on the forums. I guess I just dont want anything to hapen to my lottle baba as im already getting attached :'). Im just glad im not the only mummy to be to think this ... thankyou :)
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4983320 tn?1378402268
My sister was 19 when she had a miscarriage. My mom had already bought her some maternity clothes because she found a good deal. So it was sad..
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4902332 tn?1360761227
I guess they're really excited, which isn't necessarily a bad thing. But I totally understand where you're coming from. When my family and in laws we're talking about buying things for my baby and I was still in my first trimester I just told them to keep it all at their houses away from me until my first official scan or until the middle of the 2nd tri because I was so scared of having a miscarriage. Im now 24+3 and have almost everything I need so you could always tell them that there is no rush. Better to be sure you and your baby is in the safe zone :-)
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Unless you have prior history of miscarriage or uterine issues you shouldn't have too much to worry about but moms usually wait at least 12weeks to start purchasing anything. The risk of miscarriage goes down considerably after the 1st trimester. By then you will have seen your doctor, had your initial testing and have less worry. Good luck! :)
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Age aside I always wait till 25 weeks minimum  to buy anything. I look and get my ideas but it would be heartbreaking if something happened and now I have stuff. That is just me.
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