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mother-in-law is a hateful bitch!!!!!
I am 18 weeks pregnant, we found out a few days ago that our dear baby has several very fatal birth defects and has a 0% chance of surviving. We had three choices- have a d & c, induce me where i have to go through labour and delivery, or wait for the baby to die and the have me deliver it (like i said there is a 0% of making it to term) which might be in 2 weeks or 2 months. 2 specialists recommended choice # 2. I will be induced tomorrow morning and they said it may take 1-3 days for me to deliver the baby which will die shortly after birth.
anyways my mil is calling everyone telling them I am having an abortion. she is a horrible person. her son called her friday to tell her that we were losing the baby and she hasn't called him since.
i need some love and support
anyways my mil is calling everyone telling them I am having an abortion. she is a horrible person. her son called her friday to tell her that we were losing the baby and she hasn't called him since.
i need some love and support
I am so truly sorry that you are going through this. I cannot even imagine. My heart is just so heavy for you. I know if my MIL was anywhere near my husband and myself, we'd end up divorced in a heartbeat. I know it is hard but try not to worry about her. You and your husband know what the truth is. No one should ever have to make a decision like this. I prayed for you on my way home from work and will continue to do so. Please try to update us when you feel up to it. If you ever need to talk, we are all here. Tons of hugs and prayers going your way. Again, I am so sorry.
I am so, so sorry for what you are going through. And so, so sorry that you have an insensitive, selfish you-know-what for a mil. My heart is with you in this trying time. I wish nothing but the best for you and your husband. Keep your head up and don't let that weasel of an mil get under your skin too much. My mother is much the same way...my own mother. Keep the faith!
I am so sorry that you have to experience this! I am sorry for your MIL to be so hateful and evill at a time when her family needs her. She is a selfish B-I-T-C-H- !!!!!!!!!! I am glad to hear your family is by your side. You will need all the support you can get right now. I agree with jastinker you should keep something. If you are planning a funeral I would buy a cute blanket and a little bear or something so to keep with your baby. I am so sorry but you need to think about everything you plan to do and make sure you have no regrets or something you wish you could have done. My BFF lost her baby very similar but had a stroke and went into a coma and didnt get to even hold her baby. She came too 36 days after her baby was buried. I dont want you to have the only ifs like she does. I am very sorry for your family, I wish you and husband all the best.
I am so sorry you have been faced with this decision. It is the hardest thing to do and to not have someone support you right now is even worse. When you do go into labor and deliver please please make sure you see your baby, hold it and say good bye. This will make all the difference in the world for your greiving process. Also make sure to keep something, like a little hospital blanket or hat, most hospitals have these things just for these occasions. I know it sounds hoorid and grim but I promis in the future if you are nto able to do this, you will regret it forever. I am thinking of you and praying for this to pass quickly and to give you peace and strength to you and DH. Hang in there.
Eeek! Sorry you have to go through this, and I am sorry for your loss. You don't need the added stress from this *****.
I hope everything works out for you. HUGZ!
I hope everything works out for you. HUGZ!
Oh Sweetheart, That is the most heartbreaking thing i have heard, How dare your MIL be sooo Horrid and unfeeling. I hope you get through things ok and i will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
That's so sad hon. I wish you the best. I am so sorry you have to go through this. Especially since your mother in law is making those phone calls and telling everyone that. Its just wrong. I will tell my honey what has happened and we will both keep you in our prayers. All the best to you and your family.
thanks for letting my vent....it will ave me from really taking it out on my hubby, since it's not his fault his mother is so $@%&*!
luckily my parents (and aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents) are super suportive
luckily my parents (and aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents) are super suportive
haha so you are liked more than the sister-in-law. I am glad to hear that hubby is going to speak to her. That's crazy about the wedding...I will be praying for you tomorrow. Be strong and know the ladies here are always available if you need to talk.
She sounds completely psycho like my ex mil. When her son stopped talking to her she called the cops on me from 4 states away saying that I has either had him put in jail or killed...that's when she threatened to come beat me up. Then she goes back to all lovey dovey. complete nutjob. But this is a woman who let one of her other sons be molested by he freak boyfriend becuase he was rich and she wanted his money...like I said complete nutjob
he was really upset and is calling to set her straight tonight. 2 weeks after we married i was complaining about our wedding photos (taken by a family member who was a professional photogher and charged big $$$) and she said "the problems with your wedding started when you tried to seperate 2 brother who had been close since childhood by not having dev as the best man because you are jelous of thier relationship since you don't have one with your brother"
this women is crazy. for christmas she gave me a snow globe and(keeping in mind i was pregnant) 3 wine glasses----3----what is that, can you even buy just 3 wine glasses?meanwhile brother-in-law's girlfriend got snow globe and a nice brown leather purse--- my sis-in-law only got the snow globe though
this women is crazy. for christmas she gave me a snow globe and(keeping in mind i was pregnant) 3 wine glasses----3----what is that, can you even buy just 3 wine glasses?meanwhile brother-in-law's girlfriend got snow globe and a nice brown leather purse--- my sis-in-law only got the snow globe though
I totally agree with rachie204, someone needs to talk to this woman and set her straight.....I'm sure it's hard enough to go what you're going thru (I seriously can't even imagine it), let alone have someone telling untruths about the situation......Would your husband talk to her about it? Again, I can't imagine what pain you are going thru....take care of yourself right now and YOU can deal with the monster in law later......
I am sorry to hear what you are going through. Honestly I am sure this is hard on your husband as well but he is probably taking it a little better than you and that is his mother I think you should ask him to speak to her about it...even if he has to go hunt her down to get her to talk to him. You are heartbroke and under enough stress right now...the last thing you need is her upsetting you....you should be able to spend the few moments with you child tomorrow without having this in the back of your mind. At the same time it may not be her goal to hurt you but may just be very upset about the situation and is handling it very poorly. Either way I think he son should put his foot down. God Bless you.
I love you, GA! I really do............ Always saying your mind and saying it in a way I wish I could!
I agree with the fact that she is a callus, hateful woman. Personally My choice would have been different, but that's me. You have chosen what you feel is best. Either this women really is a b-i-t-c-h or she is in denial about her grandchild. Please try not to let this stress you more, you already have enough on your plate. In laws can be down right lunatic. I had my mil threaten to fly 3 hours to kick my @ss one time. I just chalked it up to her being the psychotic nut job she is. Focus and you and your husband/partner and getting this done and put behind you. You have so many stages of grief to go through, don't let her into your head. I would strongly suggest grief counseling. It's something I should have done after giving birth to a full term still born. You know that we are here for you.
You have made the decision that you think is best for you. Right now focus on your baby and push the MIL out of your mind. This is a scary, heartbreaking time right now.
What does your husband ahve to say about his mothers behaivor? Unfourtionally my husbands mom passed away when he was 14 so I dont know how I would deal with the situation. I will keep your baby and your family in my prayers.
wow. I am so sorry sweetheart. Try to block out your mother in law, clear up the situation after the fact. Right now just focus your energy on the baby and enjoying your last few moments with them. god bless
Slap a h-o-e-! Not really..but damn thats harsh...real harsh. Its not like you wanted that or anything. Im so sorry youre going through this. Thats gotta be so hard..youre stronger then I am... Thats horrible.. Gosh i couldnt even imagine! and then on top of it my MIL be a stupid hooker and saying stuff lke that to the family that you should be getting support from. Did you guys try telling her exactly what happened? Maybe if you do shell turn around and understand more. If you dont want to then so be it, but I would try. Or just contact the family yourself and tell them whats really going on. Thats so unfair
First let me say that I am so sorry for what you are going through. I am 18 weeks 3 days and could not imagine going through what you are enduring right now. Let alone having someone ridicule you for your decisions. I truly send my love and support your way and you are in my prayers. As far as the mother in law; I know what you are going through with that. I too have an awful mother in law who makes me feel as though I can do nothing right. She makes me feel as though I am wrong in EVERY decision I make and she makes me feel as though I am not good enough for her son. I am an educated successful woman and should not have to feel that I less than someone else. Nor should you. I learned a long time ago to let her say what she wants and ignore her because at this point there is no changing her. In your situation it is difficult because she is spreading a blatant lie about you and your husband. Fortunately, I assume you speak to most of the same people that she is calling and lying to. If I were you, I would let her speak her rubbish to everyone and then on your own time when you feel you can discuss it, let the people know what really happened. She will end up looking foolish. If you need to, maybe you could write your feelings in a letter to her. People tend to respond better when they aren't confronted. Either way, you need your grieving time and support from those who love you and understand. Just distance yourself for the time being and take the time you need and deserve for you and your family.
thr brain is not developing, problem with heart, kidneys and multiple other things as well as something is wrong with the placenta
why can't she just say we lost the baby????I didn't hardly have a relationship with her to begin with and i think she is just doing this because she hates me
why can't she just say we lost the baby????I didn't hardly have a relationship with her to begin with and i think she is just doing this because she hates me
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