no judgement please

[yourstruly21]

I am 30 wks and trying my hardest to quit smoking...my son possibly has intrauterine growth restriction and this is weighing very heavy on my heart because I know it is my fault due to smoking. I had quit at 14 weeks and made it til 22 wks and started up again due to the stress of my husbands deployment, quit again at 24 wks which only lasted about a week... I know what I have done is selfish and im not looking to be judged I just want to know if I quit again now is there still a chance my son will be born at a healthy birth weight?

[kayla413]

I know how you feel except im having a hard time with marijuana :( im 17weeks I was a very heavy marijuana smoker stopped as soon as I found out I was pregnant but at 13 weeks I started up n having a very hard time stopping I feel so guilty n im constantly worrying but when im the bathroom sick I can't help it :( I do not smoke as much a couple bowls a day but still I need to stop nd I don't know who to talk to

[yourstruly21]

Im so glad yu ladies are understanding and not just jumping at my throat!

[Linzola1]

Its so hard. When I was pregnant with my second child it took me forever to quit and finally did at 24 weeks and it was rough and with my 3rd child I was 30 weeks and had bronchitis to finally quit. Good news is that both my kids are completely healthy and were great weights. 7lbs 4oz and 7lbs 13oz. I was scared my whole pregnancy but the fear made it harder to quit. Rela and try as hard as you can that is all you can do. Good Luck

[esarver93]

I also smoked for five years before I got pregnant, fortunately i quit as soon as I saw that positive sign. It is so hard, esp. When your partner isnt there to keep you motivated. I chewed gum and pretty much just ate whenever I craved besides when I had morning sickness. You have to do things to keep yourself occupied, make pros and cons list of why you should/shouldnt smoke (cons always outnumber). Just think of how much better the babies life will be by not being around smoke even after he is born. My mom smoked when she was pregnant with me and I was underweight , I was fine but had colic very bad. Iim only 19 and my mom passed away this year in april from cancer, I was an only child and had to watch her suffer and take care of her. Its something I wouldnt wish on anyone or an innocent child. A month after she passed away I found out I was expecting. I can only hope my story is motivating to moms or moms to be, or anyone to stop smoking! No matter how hard the outcome is soooo worth it. I still think about smoking and crave all the time, its only been almost 8 months but so great.

[yourstruly21]

Thanks ladies!.

[miley24]

im thinking of uuu xoxox hell be gorgeous!

[louieforlaughs]

you can do it!

[yourstruly21]

Im like a little kid with gum! Im terrible I always end up swallowing it haha but its worth a shot!

[louieforlaughs]

you could try sugar free gum too if that helps. stay strong, think of your little one and i'm sure that'll give you the courage to say no to smoking.

[yourstruly21]

Everything looks great on him miley hes just on the smaller end of the scale, but we wont know for sure til hes born

[yourstruly21]

Thanks!:) ive thought about using jolly ranchers and always having one in my mouth cause ive never been able to smoke if there's something in there I just dont wanna rot my teeth lol

[miley24]

but hell be ok right?

[louieforlaughs]

you can do it!!! i believe in you!!!
quitting is the best for you and your little one. find a new way to deal stress and say goodbye to smoking for good. your future self will thank you for it!

[yourstruly21]

If I cant do it on my own thats definitely something I will look into thanks!

[pmaried]

I know YOUTUBE had some suggestive hypnotism videos for addictions & such.. some counseling offices might even have someone.. i know it's a reach..

[yourstruly21]

Pmaried no I never even really heard about hypnotism

Miley its intrauterine growth restriction

[miley24]

whats iugr?

[yourstruly21]

I go for another growth scan on Wednesday to see if he has progressed but as of Halloween he was inthe 14th percentile, below the tenth is when they are diagnosed with iugr is what my doctor told me

[pmaried]

I'm a former smoker & it's hard to just quit, especially when it's the smoking routine (lighting, holding, inhaling, flicking, etc) that you're hooked on, in addition to the nicotine itself. I've been there, not while pregnant but i understand. To some people my suggestion might sound outrageous, but have you considered hypnotism??? That, in combination with a low dose patch & determination-- I know you have a good shot at being smoke free!!! It'll be 5 years smoke free for me in February & it was the best decision i ever made. Being smoke free is freedom! GOOD LUCK

[mamafortwo]

You hold your head and do the best you can do

[miley24]

grpwth restriction how far behind is he?

[yourstruly21]

Even if she hadn't said anything to me i would still blame myself, but this was my own selfishness and now I have to deal with the consequences wether I caused it or not all I can do now is try harder im all my son has and he deserves the best start:) I do need to start eating healthier tho n hopefully that will help! Thanks ladies and thanks for not making me feel worse I appreciate it

[KTowne]

There's more causes to IUGR than just smoking, of course that may have played a role, but it's not fair to make you feel terrible about it, what about the women that have a baby with it that DON'T smoke? It can happen to anyone. I would make sure you let her know you KNOW it's not the best thing to do, but it's done and over, and she needs to not make you feel bad about it! You're doing the best you can, that's a stressful situation, and I highly doubt she can say she's went through it. The last trimester is when the baby packs on the most weight, so quit, eat very healthy, and I'm sure your little one will pack on some pounds!

[yourstruly21]

Ktowne I want to quit for good because I dont wantmy son around it