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**one BIG vent for everyone** whatever your mad, frustrated, sick of, etc!!!
Hey ladies! I thought it'd be fun to start one big huge vent ( i got my inspiration from a similar vent in the april babies forum :) )...but this one will be for everyone, whether your preggers, ttc, not wanting to be pregnant, frustrated with bf, df, or dh, or whatever!! Just post about anything that you need to vent about!!
For me, I'm super sick of being fat! LOL. im almost 33 weeks and i feel like a huge whale, i never really bought maternity clothes and i dont go many places so i wear the same things all the time...and im SO sick of wearing those..i want to have a burning ceremony for them after my daughter is born. OH and talk about being pale...i haven't been this pale since i was born and im so tired of it. im used to being tan (fake tan, but still tan ;) ) i can't wait to bake in the tanning bed once she's here...i already told DH that when she's born my only escape for awhile will be to tan and work out when he gets home from work/the gym. i can't wait!! and another thing im sick of? Putting lotion on every night...putting mederma on these dumb stretch marks i have, heating up cold lunch meat, worrying about every little germ in the house, etc...OH and the whole being fat thing is really getting in the way of having sex..i can't wait to have a flat tummy again and not have to worry that DH is squishing my child haha. really can kill the mood if you know what i mean. ;P
So anyways that covers most of mine for now...I'm SURE i'll come up with more later! :) yall take it away now, i know you can probably think of plenty to post about..this should be fun, let's try to keep it going! :)
For me, I'm super sick of being fat! LOL. im almost 33 weeks and i feel like a huge whale, i never really bought maternity clothes and i dont go many places so i wear the same things all the time...and im SO sick of wearing those..i want to have a burning ceremony for them after my daughter is born. OH and talk about being pale...i haven't been this pale since i was born and im so tired of it. im used to being tan (fake tan, but still tan ;) ) i can't wait to bake in the tanning bed once she's here...i already told DH that when she's born my only escape for awhile will be to tan and work out when he gets home from work/the gym. i can't wait!! and another thing im sick of? Putting lotion on every night...putting mederma on these dumb stretch marks i have, heating up cold lunch meat, worrying about every little germ in the house, etc...OH and the whole being fat thing is really getting in the way of having sex..i can't wait to have a flat tummy again and not have to worry that DH is squishing my child haha. really can kill the mood if you know what i mean. ;P
So anyways that covers most of mine for now...I'm SURE i'll come up with more later! :) yall take it away now, i know you can probably think of plenty to post about..this should be fun, let's try to keep it going! :)
GRRRR!!! I will NEVER EVER EVER have satellite TV again. Especially DirecTV. When we signed up for it, DH was home for the installation. I asked him to make SURE he read the paperwork BEFORE he signed becuase they told me on the phone there would be NO commitment. So what does he do? He ASKS the guy if he's signing a commitment. The installer says "no, it'sj ust saying I was here and did the installation". I didn't think anything of it until the end of last year when I called to shut it off (we've had nothing but issues with it) So they tell me we have an 18 months commitment that hasn't been fulfilled yet. UGG ok. So I go back and read what it says on the paperwork and sure enough it says so. So we wait, the 18 months should be up next month so I call today to make sure of the date....the guy says "november" I was like "uh EXCUSE me?" he said we have a 24 month commitment becuase we have a DVR.
I freaking went off, pregnancy hormones flying everywhere. Lets just say he got a major tongue lashing about how it seems like everytime I call I get something different, they keep changing things, how crappy their service is etc. Then I said "who do I need to talk to in order to get this fixed?" He proceeds to tell me "looking at your account there's nothing that CAN be fixed" My reply to that was NOT very nice. It was something along the lines of "Well how about I send this SH!T back to you and you can shove it up your @ss!!" and i hung up. I was FURIOUS. I HATE that company, more so than I have ever hated a business. I'm usually pretty laid back about this kind of thing but that was the final straw. I'm so freaking mad I wish there was a local directv place where I could go get in someones face LOL!!!
I freaking went off, pregnancy hormones flying everywhere. Lets just say he got a major tongue lashing about how it seems like everytime I call I get something different, they keep changing things, how crappy their service is etc. Then I said "who do I need to talk to in order to get this fixed?" He proceeds to tell me "looking at your account there's nothing that CAN be fixed" My reply to that was NOT very nice. It was something along the lines of "Well how about I send this SH!T back to you and you can shove it up your @ss!!" and i hung up. I was FURIOUS. I HATE that company, more so than I have ever hated a business. I'm usually pretty laid back about this kind of thing but that was the final straw. I'm so freaking mad I wish there was a local directv place where I could go get in someones face LOL!!!
Oh my gosh! I just cannot stand in-laws!!! My DH and I just got in a fight this morning about his family! I say fight....but more like I yelled he heard. Notice I didn't say that he listened?? Nothing ever changes....I guess it never will either. There is not enough room on here for me to vent the last 10 years worth of frustration I have for my husband's family so I won't even try. So I will just vent with what happened today...
So my DH just got an iphone a couple of weeks ago. I know they are expensive, but he can justify it because of the type of work that he does. He has a regular full time job, but he also has his own business where he does remodeling of homes and anything that falls under that umbrella. So he can use it for e-mail, the video camera and regular camera features. He takes pictures of everything before and after and it helps to eliminate how much stuff he has to carry around with him. His phone wasn't working properly and we had Cricket, which has very lousy coverage if you don't stay within the city. My DH doesn't so he was constantly not getting signal both on his phone and on the internet through Cricket. So you are paying less but getting nothing. So okay. He can justify it. But then my phone started acting up. Also a Cricket phone only like a 6 month old phone also. We went to take it to the store to have them check it out and the store had permanently closed just the previous day!!!! We couldn't believe it and we would have had to take it to the next Corporate store, which is like at least 30 miles from us. So my husband says we should just get me a new phone through AT&T like him and be on the same plan. Well I try to use my phone and it doesn't work at all. I call DH and said that I though Cricket had disconnected my phone. Did we not pay the bill or something?? He says "No, I got you an iphone too and wanted to surprise you". Well, that's sweet and all but I have no idea how we will afford it. I don't need the phone like he does. Like I said, I appreciate it, but cannot justify it. But we are in a 2 year contract now, so we will just have to figure that one out. So this was just on Monday. Well yesterday AT&T kept texting me about the online options for your account, blah, blah, blah. Well, we have our e-mail set up to where I get all of my husband's e-mails for business reasons. I am trying to help him run it so we have it set up that way. Well I see all of these e-mails from AT&T that resemble the texts I was receiving. So I just started deleting away and noticed that one of the phone numbers on one of the e-mails was not mine or DH's. You know what he did?? He put his brother on our plan and didn't even ask me!!! What is the problem with that you ask?? Well, the problem is that I don't trust his brother to pay it and I don't trust my DH to make sure that he does. THAT is the problem. I am already hyperventilating over how we will pay the bill for our 2 phones and then he goes off and does this?? I don't want to have to hound someone for money every month and like I said, I don't trust my DH to do it. So I am fuming because it is always something with his family. And I mean ALWAYS!!! But DH is just as much to blame because he allows it to happen!!!!
Soooooo, I am just beyond mad here. Like I said, there is just too much history to go into right now. But there have been years of problems with these people and it just won't stop. So I have to decide if I can handle it because they are a package deal. Don't ever let anyone tell you that you don't marry the family because that just isn't true. If they are close to their family, they will always be a package deal and it doesn't matter how many kids you bare!!!!!
So to all of you who can't stand the in-laws, just know that you are not alone!! And the worst part....These people are related to your children too!!!! Ahhhhh!!!! Okay....I think I am done for now. Thanks for starting this thread :)
So my DH just got an iphone a couple of weeks ago. I know they are expensive, but he can justify it because of the type of work that he does. He has a regular full time job, but he also has his own business where he does remodeling of homes and anything that falls under that umbrella. So he can use it for e-mail, the video camera and regular camera features. He takes pictures of everything before and after and it helps to eliminate how much stuff he has to carry around with him. His phone wasn't working properly and we had Cricket, which has very lousy coverage if you don't stay within the city. My DH doesn't so he was constantly not getting signal both on his phone and on the internet through Cricket. So you are paying less but getting nothing. So okay. He can justify it. But then my phone started acting up. Also a Cricket phone only like a 6 month old phone also. We went to take it to the store to have them check it out and the store had permanently closed just the previous day!!!! We couldn't believe it and we would have had to take it to the next Corporate store, which is like at least 30 miles from us. So my husband says we should just get me a new phone through AT&T like him and be on the same plan. Well I try to use my phone and it doesn't work at all. I call DH and said that I though Cricket had disconnected my phone. Did we not pay the bill or something?? He says "No, I got you an iphone too and wanted to surprise you". Well, that's sweet and all but I have no idea how we will afford it. I don't need the phone like he does. Like I said, I appreciate it, but cannot justify it. But we are in a 2 year contract now, so we will just have to figure that one out. So this was just on Monday. Well yesterday AT&T kept texting me about the online options for your account, blah, blah, blah. Well, we have our e-mail set up to where I get all of my husband's e-mails for business reasons. I am trying to help him run it so we have it set up that way. Well I see all of these e-mails from AT&T that resemble the texts I was receiving. So I just started deleting away and noticed that one of the phone numbers on one of the e-mails was not mine or DH's. You know what he did?? He put his brother on our plan and didn't even ask me!!! What is the problem with that you ask?? Well, the problem is that I don't trust his brother to pay it and I don't trust my DH to make sure that he does. THAT is the problem. I am already hyperventilating over how we will pay the bill for our 2 phones and then he goes off and does this?? I don't want to have to hound someone for money every month and like I said, I don't trust my DH to do it. So I am fuming because it is always something with his family. And I mean ALWAYS!!! But DH is just as much to blame because he allows it to happen!!!!
Soooooo, I am just beyond mad here. Like I said, there is just too much history to go into right now. But there have been years of problems with these people and it just won't stop. So I have to decide if I can handle it because they are a package deal. Don't ever let anyone tell you that you don't marry the family because that just isn't true. If they are close to their family, they will always be a package deal and it doesn't matter how many kids you bare!!!!!
So to all of you who can't stand the in-laws, just know that you are not alone!! And the worst part....These people are related to your children too!!!! Ahhhhh!!!! Okay....I think I am done for now. Thanks for starting this thread :)
You know your BIL is just jealous...just remember that. Everything he's doing is a sad attempt to one-up the brother he feels inferior to, and I guarantee you that it's obvious to everyone else too....just ignore him. I deal with similar situations with my SIL and BIL, but I just play the game in reverse. We moved into a REALLY nice apartment, so my BIL and SIL HAD to move into a rental home. So instead of cooing over their home, I just keep making little comments like "gee I love our apartment it's so AFFORDABLE...and we have that pool right next to our building. it's so CONVENIENT." and i know that's really snarky but I can't help it they drive me insane.
Thanks Ammanda for baby dust, hope if sticks around this cycle :-)
and very sorry to hear about those annoying situations/people you have to deal with.... why cant they get a life for themselves. jealousy is one thing we cannot eliminate form people's lives. (to be honest, I am jealous too, but to a reasonable extent).
Oh well, mom2ariana says it right, ''you can't control people, but you can control our reactions to their acts''
RBarron, sounds your BIL is a jerk. try to not think about him. his aim is to ruin your days/happiness. if you think about him a lot, you are helping him achieve his goals.
and very sorry to hear about those annoying situations/people you have to deal with.... why cant they get a life for themselves. jealousy is one thing we cannot eliminate form people's lives. (to be honest, I am jealous too, but to a reasonable extent).
Oh well, mom2ariana says it right, ''you can't control people, but you can control our reactions to their acts''
RBarron, sounds your BIL is a jerk. try to not think about him. his aim is to ruin your days/happiness. if you think about him a lot, you are helping him achieve his goals.
I need to vent about my BIL, because my DH is sick of hearing it. I don't understand what the guy's problem is. He just can't be happy for us for anything we do in life. My DH and I were together for 7 years before we bought our first house together and got engaged last year. Three months after we bought our first house and before I was done with remodeling and moving in completely my BIL HAD to go buy a new house too like "look at me, mines bigger than yours." Then we had to spend all our time and energy focusing on his house, spent every single holiday is HIS first home, etc. So annoying. Then me and DH get engaged! After 7 years! We are so excited. Well, BIL could not stand the lime light on us again so he goes out and litterally gets engaged to the first girl that comes along after only knowing her for ~3 months. And, btw, completely blows us off for the holidays this year to meet HER family so me and DH don't get any attention for hosting holidays in our yet to be celebrated new home this year. Not that I need the attention like he does, but last year it was so obvious that everyone kept saying "Oh next year it will be your turn to have the family over." Getting blown off this year for some chick I never met who'd only been in the picture for like 6 weeks really hurt my feelings.
Now, they HAVE to get married within the same year as us!! Litterally a month after my wedding and before my pics even come in, it's like "Oh, no one wants to see those. We're planning for HIS wedding now" Whatever. Now that we've told them we are having a baby I have $100 that says that girl is knocked up by the end of the year. ugh. So frustrating. I the Keeping-up-with-the-Jones' mentality. It's like GET A LIFE PEOPLE! QUIT LIVING YOUR LIFE ACCORDING TO WHAT I DO! Who is this new chick anyway?! I've only met her once!
I'm already getting little snyde comments from BIL like "MY fiance is going to quit her job when we get married because we don't believe in day care. We don't believe in other people raising our kids" Excuse me?! (1) I like my job (2) Seriously, your already making judgments about how I'm going to raise my kid while I'm in my first trimester?! (3) Who is this girl!!! And didn't she just walk into the perfect situation! I just hate competition and judgemental people.
Maybe I'm just being hormonal and overly sensitive. I'm tired and lonely because my DH works two jobs and I've been nauseous all day.
Now, they HAVE to get married within the same year as us!! Litterally a month after my wedding and before my pics even come in, it's like "Oh, no one wants to see those. We're planning for HIS wedding now" Whatever. Now that we've told them we are having a baby I have $100 that says that girl is knocked up by the end of the year. ugh. So frustrating. I the Keeping-up-with-the-Jones' mentality. It's like GET A LIFE PEOPLE! QUIT LIVING YOUR LIFE ACCORDING TO WHAT I DO! Who is this new chick anyway?! I've only met her once!
I'm already getting little snyde comments from BIL like "MY fiance is going to quit her job when we get married because we don't believe in day care. We don't believe in other people raising our kids" Excuse me?! (1) I like my job (2) Seriously, your already making judgments about how I'm going to raise my kid while I'm in my first trimester?! (3) Who is this girl!!! And didn't she just walk into the perfect situation! I just hate competition and judgemental people.
Maybe I'm just being hormonal and overly sensitive. I'm tired and lonely because my DH works two jobs and I've been nauseous all day.
ugh im sorry..you have some ridiculous people in your life...you dont need all that drama and crap.. esp when all that matters right now is you and cole. im always here even if everyone else isn't. if we werent so far away our babies could be friends haha. but i know it sounds like an easy thing to say but just try not to let it get to you..thats really the only advice i can give to you. because at the end of the day it doesn't really matter. and as far as your sister goes yall should try to work things out before cole gets here since she'll be his aunt. but i know how that is...i mean my sister is different but we have some of the same problems..she probably just feels left out even though its partially her fault. maybe if you text her all the time she'll start texting you first too and then you'll get more effort out of her...idk..
Santanl- Im sending you tons and tons of baby dust!!!!!!!!
Ugh i need to vent again, I had a horrible day yesterday. Okay first my MIL makes me feel bad because DF was complaining about another work week startin(like he does everyweek lol) and I said well while your working just think about Cole and all the things you wanted growing up and didnt have, and knowing that Cole will have everything. And she took it the wrong way, thinking I ment that he grew up poorly and had to beg for money and starve.. I never ment it that way. so that was the first irritatin thing.
Okay then the second thing was my middle sister, were not close at all. unlike me and my older sister, we are best friends. But anyway, I was texting her questions yesterday about her pregnancy and stuff cause I like to compare everyones answers and stuff cause im a first timer you know, and she had two kids so she could answer them. she just flips out on me and saids "well its not my problem, i wouldnt even know you had the baby till a few days later" I was so shocked, so I told her shes being a stuck up snob. and its nothing like that, I planned on calling her when I went into labor, I know were not close but shes still my sister, and I missed both of her labors, and would have liked for her to be there for mine, cause I know it killed me that I wasnt there for hers. And shes like whatever you dont even like me and blah blah blah. and she said i never call her but i talk to my other sister everyday. Well she dont understand, i try calling her when I can, but shes always in a crappy mood so it makes me not want to talk to her, and for my other sister yea we talk everyday, but thats cause we call and txt each other. she never calls me, so I told her it takes two. So then she starts complaing that she has to go to work, come home clean and cook and give baths. I dont feel any sympathy for her. She wanted those two kids, she tried for years to get pregnant, and she didnt even work for the first 3 years of her sons life. she just got a job a month ago. And she tried telling me Ill be the same way.. He** no I wont. I wanted this baby more then anything, me and my df tried for 6 months to have this baby, and after carrying him for the last 9 months i would never. And shes like well u dont work and blah blah. yea i may not work now, but my life is pretty exhausting, I have to take of DF (hes like a teenager) and I have to clean, cook and do laundry, and focus on my baby being born soon. And besides that I worked for the last 4 years, Im on a break. I plan on getting a job a few months after he is born. It jsut irritates me that she thinks were anything alike..
Sorry this is so long, but i had a horrible day yesterday, ill give props to anyone that makes it though this lol
Okay and the third and last person, would be my old best friend. Okay she txted me and asked me how Im doing and I said exhausted and over being pregnant, cause i am, Im 36 weeks now, i think im entiled to be over it and want my baby already. right? but anyway may I remind you, she had a baby boy when she was 17, she didnt even know she was pregnant till she was 6 and half months along, so she didnt live through much plus she had him at 38 weeks. So she txts back with all this crap about how pregnancy is so beautiful and she loved every minute of it and cant wait to do it again. And Im like okay so are u saying im a bad person cause I dont enjoy it anymore, and another thing of course your gonna feel like that because you only lived like 2 months of it. So we argued forever about it, I kept telling her everyones pregnancy is different, doesnt mean if you dont enjoy it that your not gonna love your baby and stuff.. well she took it way too far and started throwing so much stuff in my face, telling me that Im using this pregnancy to keep my DF around and if I wasnt pregnant that he wouldnt be here, and were rushing things.. How and the hell are we rushing things. we have been in love for 9 years. i met him when I was 11 years old we dated off and on for 5 years then he moved to florida, and he came back 3 years later, and we got back together,its been a year now since hes been back,and it took 6 months before I even got pregnant.. so how are we rushing things? shes so ignorant. that hurt me so bad when she tried saying he wouldnt be here and that im using our baby to keep him here.. I tell him all the time if he doesnt want to be with me he doesnt have to, and I leave all the time, yea we have our ups and downs but we love each other and always have, why do u think we always find our way back to each other. Shes so dumb, shes the one dating my ex boyfriend that cheats on her all the time, and she doenst care. and she thinks its okay jsut cause at the end of the day he comes home to her, thats the dumbest thing ive ever heard. And she tried telling me were moochin off from people, cause cause we got invited to live in a huge house for free.. Well we dont pay money to live here, but we do house work for him and yard work for him and take care of his animals everyday, which is why he asked us to move in here, cause hes a heart surgeon and hes never here and he needs someone to maintain his house. We have so many other bills. and her for gods sake, she gets food stamps and help from the state to pay her rent and what she doenst pay she gets from her mommy. so how the hell isnt that mooching? and she throws it in my face that her mom helps her and mine doesnt.. well for one, if my mom could she would, and other then that, im 20 years old and DF is almost 22, we are grown ups, we wanted this baby, its our responsiblitly, even if our parents could help we would never ask for it. Then she tries telling me that i ditched her when she got pregnant, no i did not, we were best friends when she got pregnant, like inseparable, she quit calling me and wanting to hang out. I was even there for her the second she went into the hospital up until she deleivered that baby. I even called into work to be there for her, but she seems to forget that. K not to mention, her boyfriend that she is with now, yea well I dated him many years ago. and then she started dating him after that, then me and him got back together for like 3 days, and she like threw that in my face. wtf!!! she got with him after i did, and hes the one that begged me to be with him, so why the hell isnt she mad at him?
Ugh while all that is going on, Im having major cramping all day yesterday, and I lost a few pieces of my mucous plug. Ugh Im so sikc of everything.. but All I got to say is screw everyone I know who my true friends are, which I kinda dont have any. Everything changes after high school and families get started. So really its jsut me and my baby against the world!!!1
Ugh i need to vent again, I had a horrible day yesterday. Okay first my MIL makes me feel bad because DF was complaining about another work week startin(like he does everyweek lol) and I said well while your working just think about Cole and all the things you wanted growing up and didnt have, and knowing that Cole will have everything. And she took it the wrong way, thinking I ment that he grew up poorly and had to beg for money and starve.. I never ment it that way. so that was the first irritatin thing.
Okay then the second thing was my middle sister, were not close at all. unlike me and my older sister, we are best friends. But anyway, I was texting her questions yesterday about her pregnancy and stuff cause I like to compare everyones answers and stuff cause im a first timer you know, and she had two kids so she could answer them. she just flips out on me and saids "well its not my problem, i wouldnt even know you had the baby till a few days later" I was so shocked, so I told her shes being a stuck up snob. and its nothing like that, I planned on calling her when I went into labor, I know were not close but shes still my sister, and I missed both of her labors, and would have liked for her to be there for mine, cause I know it killed me that I wasnt there for hers. And shes like whatever you dont even like me and blah blah blah. and she said i never call her but i talk to my other sister everyday. Well she dont understand, i try calling her when I can, but shes always in a crappy mood so it makes me not want to talk to her, and for my other sister yea we talk everyday, but thats cause we call and txt each other. she never calls me, so I told her it takes two. So then she starts complaing that she has to go to work, come home clean and cook and give baths. I dont feel any sympathy for her. She wanted those two kids, she tried for years to get pregnant, and she didnt even work for the first 3 years of her sons life. she just got a job a month ago. And she tried telling me Ill be the same way.. He** no I wont. I wanted this baby more then anything, me and my df tried for 6 months to have this baby, and after carrying him for the last 9 months i would never. And shes like well u dont work and blah blah. yea i may not work now, but my life is pretty exhausting, I have to take of DF (hes like a teenager) and I have to clean, cook and do laundry, and focus on my baby being born soon. And besides that I worked for the last 4 years, Im on a break. I plan on getting a job a few months after he is born. It jsut irritates me that she thinks were anything alike..
Sorry this is so long, but i had a horrible day yesterday, ill give props to anyone that makes it though this lol
Okay and the third and last person, would be my old best friend. Okay she txted me and asked me how Im doing and I said exhausted and over being pregnant, cause i am, Im 36 weeks now, i think im entiled to be over it and want my baby already. right? but anyway may I remind you, she had a baby boy when she was 17, she didnt even know she was pregnant till she was 6 and half months along, so she didnt live through much plus she had him at 38 weeks. So she txts back with all this crap about how pregnancy is so beautiful and she loved every minute of it and cant wait to do it again. And Im like okay so are u saying im a bad person cause I dont enjoy it anymore, and another thing of course your gonna feel like that because you only lived like 2 months of it. So we argued forever about it, I kept telling her everyones pregnancy is different, doesnt mean if you dont enjoy it that your not gonna love your baby and stuff.. well she took it way too far and started throwing so much stuff in my face, telling me that Im using this pregnancy to keep my DF around and if I wasnt pregnant that he wouldnt be here, and were rushing things.. How and the hell are we rushing things. we have been in love for 9 years. i met him when I was 11 years old we dated off and on for 5 years then he moved to florida, and he came back 3 years later, and we got back together,its been a year now since hes been back,and it took 6 months before I even got pregnant.. so how are we rushing things? shes so ignorant. that hurt me so bad when she tried saying he wouldnt be here and that im using our baby to keep him here.. I tell him all the time if he doesnt want to be with me he doesnt have to, and I leave all the time, yea we have our ups and downs but we love each other and always have, why do u think we always find our way back to each other. Shes so dumb, shes the one dating my ex boyfriend that cheats on her all the time, and she doenst care. and she thinks its okay jsut cause at the end of the day he comes home to her, thats the dumbest thing ive ever heard. And she tried telling me were moochin off from people, cause cause we got invited to live in a huge house for free.. Well we dont pay money to live here, but we do house work for him and yard work for him and take care of his animals everyday, which is why he asked us to move in here, cause hes a heart surgeon and hes never here and he needs someone to maintain his house. We have so many other bills. and her for gods sake, she gets food stamps and help from the state to pay her rent and what she doenst pay she gets from her mommy. so how the hell isnt that mooching? and she throws it in my face that her mom helps her and mine doesnt.. well for one, if my mom could she would, and other then that, im 20 years old and DF is almost 22, we are grown ups, we wanted this baby, its our responsiblitly, even if our parents could help we would never ask for it. Then she tries telling me that i ditched her when she got pregnant, no i did not, we were best friends when she got pregnant, like inseparable, she quit calling me and wanting to hang out. I was even there for her the second she went into the hospital up until she deleivered that baby. I even called into work to be there for her, but she seems to forget that. K not to mention, her boyfriend that she is with now, yea well I dated him many years ago. and then she started dating him after that, then me and him got back together for like 3 days, and she like threw that in my face. wtf!!! she got with him after i did, and hes the one that begged me to be with him, so why the hell isnt she mad at him?
Ugh while all that is going on, Im having major cramping all day yesterday, and I lost a few pieces of my mucous plug. Ugh Im so sikc of everything.. but All I got to say is screw everyone I know who my true friends are, which I kinda dont have any. Everything changes after high school and families get started. So really its jsut me and my baby against the world!!!1
oh for sure. sometimes i feel like ive been pregnant for a hundred years and other times it seems like it's just been a couple of months. i REALLY want to go into labor on my own...but i think more than that i will want to have her out of me by 37 weeks...so i plan to ask for an induction anyways..who knows. either way ariana seems to be calling the shots right now. :)
I am dying to get pregnant.
My Dh will be going away for few years.
It'll be very difficult to meet with him once a month, but I have irregular periods/ovulation cycles....this makes it worse.....
I want to get pregnant! somebody please ssbd my way, pleaseeeeee
My Dh will be going away for few years.
It'll be very difficult to meet with him once a month, but I have irregular periods/ovulation cycles....this makes it worse.....
I want to get pregnant! somebody please ssbd my way, pleaseeeeee
I know it's crazy how time goes when you're pregnant...sometimes it flies by and sometimes it creeeeeps by! I'm paranoid about germs too so I understand. And I begged to be induced at 37wks because I wanted it OVER WITH, lol, but I'm glad my OB set my induction for 41wks because I went on my own at 40wks and I'm glad it worked out that way.
im sure your right. :) i dont mind the sleepless nights to feed her and all the joys that come with being a mom to a newborn...what i mind mainly is being fat and having to worry constantly about what im eating haha. plus im super paranoid about germs (its completely ridiculous) but i can't help it and if i don't entertain my worries then i'll just worry more!! which is truly starting to get on my nerves...but that part probably won't go away after she's born. ahh but yes, 7 weeks till my due date still sounds so far away. im hoping & praying she doesn't feel like sticking around in there for that long. but when i think about it, i remember being so happy when i hit 20 weeks and i was finally halfway there...looking back now that doesn't seem very long ago AT ALL. :)
To everyone that's surprised by my SIL: I agree completely. she's so obnoxious about it. I had a shower for my first pregnancy (thrown by my SIL ironically) but I only asked for the things I absolutely knew I would need. I got clothes, a bouncer, a swing, and some diapers. And that was perfect for me and I was falling all over myself making sure everyone knew how grateful I was that they were so generous... and quite frankly, I would have been happy just with everyone showing up and spending time with me I wasn't focused on the gifts. That's just not healthy, or appropriate. Anyway...
I'm glad I didn't spend any money on her stuff, I'm sure it wouldn't fit her standards anyway. SOOO annoying.
OMG LosingMyMindInGa I couldn't agree more...I can't stand seeing those CHILDREN dressed like hookers. It turns my stomach that their parents don't have any sort of restraint. The saddest part is...most of those girls' mothers are simply living vicariously through their daughters by letting them sleep around and dress like that...and that is SO wrong.
Taxes aren't so bad for me, my grandfather is an accountant so he taught me how to handle pretty complex forms when I was a teenager (how fun, right? LOL). But they do seem to add more complications with every tax season.
mom2ariana I don't want to scare you...but pregnancy is the easy part. it's gonna get worse in every way after the baby gets here, but the return is that you have your precious little one to make it all worth while. But the body troubles, the lack of fun...yeah...it's just gonna get worse, LOL, and you're not even in the BAD part of the third trimester...so hang in there <3.
~still miffed about that baby shower LOL.
I'm glad I didn't spend any money on her stuff, I'm sure it wouldn't fit her standards anyway. SOOO annoying.
OMG LosingMyMindInGa I couldn't agree more...I can't stand seeing those CHILDREN dressed like hookers. It turns my stomach that their parents don't have any sort of restraint. The saddest part is...most of those girls' mothers are simply living vicariously through their daughters by letting them sleep around and dress like that...and that is SO wrong.
Taxes aren't so bad for me, my grandfather is an accountant so he taught me how to handle pretty complex forms when I was a teenager (how fun, right? LOL). But they do seem to add more complications with every tax season.
mom2ariana I don't want to scare you...but pregnancy is the easy part. it's gonna get worse in every way after the baby gets here, but the return is that you have your precious little one to make it all worth while. But the body troubles, the lack of fun...yeah...it's just gonna get worse, LOL, and you're not even in the BAD part of the third trimester...so hang in there <3.
~still miffed about that baby shower LOL.
I'm typing this in the middle of the night...I have this bad tooth, and also bad allergies. For the last two days I've been unable to sleep for no more than 20 minutes at a time, because I have been having stabbing pains in my forehead every 20 minutes or so, that mostly happen when I'm lying down. The reason why I can't sleep is because the pain is so severe that it wakes me up from sleep!!! I'm sooo calling the doctor tomorrow morning to try to get in asap. I'm still a week early for my prenatal visit, but I'm getting worried that this is causing stress on the baby.Not to mention that it would be nice if I was able to sleep.
i know i vented already but i am SO incredibly SICK of being pregnant. im only gonna be 33 weeks thursday..and im ready for this baby to come. of course i dont want her to come now because she's too little, but i won't mind if she shows at 37 weeks on the dot. i don't think im going to have another baby, i think one is perfect for me. im sick of being fat, im sick of being pale, and im sick of laying around doing nothing. im also sick of having to worry about what i eat, and whether or not its okay for her. and im sick of feeling paranoid about every little thing. URGH today is not my day. im ready to get this show on the road. ill have my daughter, my body, and my sex life back...it'll be the best of both worlds.
im ready to stuff my face with tons of caffeine, cold lunch meat, red steak, cookie dough, ETC...although i can't let myself do that until im satisfied with my body. but just knowing i can will be enough..
i wouldn't mind a cigarette right now either. or a drink. or to lay in a tanning bed. i also wouldn't mind going to a bar, or a party. or some dumb pointless get together. and i wouldn't mind not having to worry about who's smoking around me.
i can't wait till im skinny again, and i get to have laser treatments for these stretch marks. they are being removed BEFORE my six week postpartum period is up. thank goodness for lasers.
okay....just had to get that off of my chest. :) don't get me wrong, i love my daughter, and the majority of this pregnancy i have truly enjoyed...i am just to the point now where i don't want to do it anymore.
im ready to stuff my face with tons of caffeine, cold lunch meat, red steak, cookie dough, ETC...although i can't let myself do that until im satisfied with my body. but just knowing i can will be enough..
i wouldn't mind a cigarette right now either. or a drink. or to lay in a tanning bed. i also wouldn't mind going to a bar, or a party. or some dumb pointless get together. and i wouldn't mind not having to worry about who's smoking around me.
i can't wait till im skinny again, and i get to have laser treatments for these stretch marks. they are being removed BEFORE my six week postpartum period is up. thank goodness for lasers.
okay....just had to get that off of my chest. :) don't get me wrong, i love my daughter, and the majority of this pregnancy i have truly enjoyed...i am just to the point now where i don't want to do it anymore.
OMG I hate people like your SIL. I'd LOOOOOOOOOVE to see what she thinks of ME. I have a large family (6 working on 7) so a lot of our clothes come from the salvation army or hand me downs. I shop consighment shops, etc. Even if it has a few stains, my Mom gave me a recipe for a stain remover that works AWESOME on baby puke!!! People like her make me wanna throw up and slap them all at the same time LOL. I am on what will be my SIXTH full term pregnancy and I have NEVER had a baby shower. I guess no one has ever felt i was worthy of one and I don't feel right planning my own, just doesn't seem ok to me. I did a registry with ONE of my pregnancies, the last one and only ONE person (my brother) bought anything off of it. We provide EVERYTHING for our OWN kids and while gifts are always nice we NEVER expect anyone to do anything. Your SIL needs a serious reality check, but she will never get one so long as mommy-dearest keeps footing the bill for her spoiled rotten little diva-@ss. :)
ON another note...I hate seeing teenage girls walking around looking like streetwalkers with their way too sexy bras and thongs hanging out for the world to see. I would KILL or atleast seriously hurt my 13 yo if she dressed like that. Believe me she has a LOT to show off for her 13 yrs but thankfully she doesn't even like to wear anything that shows ANY amount of cleavage. I wonder about some parents though. Either they LET their children wear this garbage becuase they don't care or they don't pay enough attention to what their children do. My duaghter has a semi-friend who wears hooker heels to every school function. Her mother is a teacher...a pretty conservative one at that but her daughter...well even though her outfits look age appropraite, the shoes make her look like she should be swinging on a pole topless in some stripper joint. No wonder these kids are wanting to TTC so young...their allowed to act WAY to old for their years!!
JoyRenee: I hear ya on the taxes thing. I do ours every year becuase i'm too cheap to pay someone else to do it so long as I can figure it out. But I've found that places like turbotax and taxact are really good. You plug in the info, follow the step by step instrructions and alls done. We get federal done free and pay $15 to get state efiled.
ON another note...I hate seeing teenage girls walking around looking like streetwalkers with their way too sexy bras and thongs hanging out for the world to see. I would KILL or atleast seriously hurt my 13 yo if she dressed like that. Believe me she has a LOT to show off for her 13 yrs but thankfully she doesn't even like to wear anything that shows ANY amount of cleavage. I wonder about some parents though. Either they LET their children wear this garbage becuase they don't care or they don't pay enough attention to what their children do. My duaghter has a semi-friend who wears hooker heels to every school function. Her mother is a teacher...a pretty conservative one at that but her daughter...well even though her outfits look age appropraite, the shoes make her look like she should be swinging on a pole topless in some stripper joint. No wonder these kids are wanting to TTC so young...their allowed to act WAY to old for their years!!
JoyRenee: I hear ya on the taxes thing. I do ours every year becuase i'm too cheap to pay someone else to do it so long as I can figure it out. But I've found that places like turbotax and taxact are really good. You plug in the info, follow the step by step instrructions and alls done. We get federal done free and pay $15 to get state efiled.
i know after the 9 month wait for all these things- then you have to worry for the next 6 during breastfeeding!
omg i forgot about coffee... I miss that sooo much.. lol.. thanks alot jschoch8.. lol... ugh i hope i can last 4 more weeks..... i told my DF the first thing he can bring me in the hospital is a redbull.. a king size one. lol.. but then again i might breastfeed for jsut the hospital visit. so then id have to wait a few more days.. ugh someday me and redbull will be reunited:)
I miss my wine, coffee and being skinny :) I've gained 17 lbs and am only 19 weeks!?!?
I want to vent about taxes- could they make it any more difficult to figure out? I mean it's not THAT hard but some of the lingo in the book made me sit there and stare at it for 20 minutes... and I'm a very educated person!!!
But I can't complain too much since we're getting a fatty return to pay off some debt.
But I can't complain too much since we're getting a fatty return to pay off some debt.
Oh I love this!!!
Gillian- It is definitely frustrating to see women like that for sure....it just doesn't seem fair! Someone has a plan for the ones that have a rough time TTC!
Smj- oh my....if Losingmymind can do it the way she did...yours will be a walk in the park!! LOL sounds tough....you'll be living in sunshine soon! It'll be nice for you to be closer to loved ones!
Ashelen- that's crazy.....I wouldn't want to buy her things knowing that she just tosses it if it's dirty!!!
Oooh another thing for me is that I'm having trouble sleeping. I know it's so early but I just toss and turn around and around. I go to bed a bit earlier so I can give time to toss and turn....oh and don't forget the trips to the toilet!! Ugh....it's only just begun!! LOL
Gillian- It is definitely frustrating to see women like that for sure....it just doesn't seem fair! Someone has a plan for the ones that have a rough time TTC!
Smj- oh my....if Losingmymind can do it the way she did...yours will be a walk in the park!! LOL sounds tough....you'll be living in sunshine soon! It'll be nice for you to be closer to loved ones!
Ashelen- that's crazy.....I wouldn't want to buy her things knowing that she just tosses it if it's dirty!!!
Oooh another thing for me is that I'm having trouble sleeping. I know it's so early but I just toss and turn around and around. I go to bed a bit earlier so I can give time to toss and turn....oh and don't forget the trips to the toilet!! Ugh....it's only just begun!! LOL
LOL I love you ladies...almost everything you all are saying I can totally relate to. My biggest beef right now was my SIL's baby shower. For baby #2, which you're NOT SUPPOSED TO DO BECAUSE IT'S TACKY!!! But whatever, I just kind of let that blow over...but when I got there, her mom was just showing off her wealth. That was the entire freaking point of the whole stupid shower. There were over $1200 worth of newborn girl clothes. WTF?! WHO NEEDS THAT?!??!
But it made sense when my SIL said "i threw away about 30 onesies the first week that jacob (my nephew) was born because they were stinky." i was like "well Kahlan made her onesies stinky and I just tossed them in with some bleach and washed them." and my SIL goes "ew that's so gross I just buy all new ones." And I'm thinking to myself "no you don't you b*tch, your mom buys them, you don't have that kind of money so you don't have the right to be that picky." but I didn't say it. I gave her a couple of BEAUTIFUL (stain-free) hand-me-downs from when my daughter was a newborn and when she pulled them out of the bag she went "oh, okay" and didn't say thank you. Ugh I was so hurt. I just don't have the money to spoil her stupid @$$ nor do I want to.
The whole shower was just one big show-off fest for her mom and EVERYONE thought it was tacky and rude, and she was just begging for stuff....on her registry she had things like ibuprofen (can't give to newborns) orajel and teething rings (most newborns won't need, and if they do you can run down and pick some up for $6) and biter bags (newborns can't use them!). So i know she was just enjoying being spoiled, which is fine if it's your first baby...but after that you just look selfish, and she did. the only reason she had a shower is because she threw away EVERYTHING from her son (he's not even 4 yet) because "i want all new things for my new baby" which would be FINE if you're rich enough to do it...but to be a little snotty snob and expect OTHER PEOPLE to buy YOUR BABY the things that YOU SHOULD NOT HAVE THROWN AWAY!??! OMG!
anyway....the other thing that's beefing me is the fact that everything seems to be going wrong at once. My husband's grandmother was in a car accident and broke several bones, and then ended up having to get the lower part of her right leg amputated. Then my grandmother started having serious heart issues and is in and out of the hospital getting tests. THEN josh's grandfather collapsed and has been weak and sick off and on for the last few weeks. THEN his grandmother got some sort of stomach bug that landed her in the hospital and she's been in bed and not doing so well. THEN! (!!) my grandfather fell and broke his femur. he had to get surgery and is now in rehab being taught to walk with a plated/bolted leg.
and I have even more beefs with my SIL and BIL and how they make everyone else watch THEIR child but that would be a rant 5 miles long so I'll just say that they need to watch their own d*mn child at least one day a week.
But it made sense when my SIL said "i threw away about 30 onesies the first week that jacob (my nephew) was born because they were stinky." i was like "well Kahlan made her onesies stinky and I just tossed them in with some bleach and washed them." and my SIL goes "ew that's so gross I just buy all new ones." And I'm thinking to myself "no you don't you b*tch, your mom buys them, you don't have that kind of money so you don't have the right to be that picky." but I didn't say it. I gave her a couple of BEAUTIFUL (stain-free) hand-me-downs from when my daughter was a newborn and when she pulled them out of the bag she went "oh, okay" and didn't say thank you. Ugh I was so hurt. I just don't have the money to spoil her stupid @$$ nor do I want to.
The whole shower was just one big show-off fest for her mom and EVERYONE thought it was tacky and rude, and she was just begging for stuff....on her registry she had things like ibuprofen (can't give to newborns) orajel and teething rings (most newborns won't need, and if they do you can run down and pick some up for $6) and biter bags (newborns can't use them!). So i know she was just enjoying being spoiled, which is fine if it's your first baby...but after that you just look selfish, and she did. the only reason she had a shower is because she threw away EVERYTHING from her son (he's not even 4 yet) because "i want all new things for my new baby" which would be FINE if you're rich enough to do it...but to be a little snotty snob and expect OTHER PEOPLE to buy YOUR BABY the things that YOU SHOULD NOT HAVE THROWN AWAY!??! OMG!
anyway....the other thing that's beefing me is the fact that everything seems to be going wrong at once. My husband's grandmother was in a car accident and broke several bones, and then ended up having to get the lower part of her right leg amputated. Then my grandmother started having serious heart issues and is in and out of the hospital getting tests. THEN josh's grandfather collapsed and has been weak and sick off and on for the last few weeks. THEN his grandmother got some sort of stomach bug that landed her in the hospital and she's been in bed and not doing so well. THEN! (!!) my grandfather fell and broke his femur. he had to get surgery and is now in rehab being taught to walk with a plated/bolted leg.
and I have even more beefs with my SIL and BIL and how they make everyone else watch THEIR child but that would be a rant 5 miles long so I'll just say that they need to watch their own d*mn child at least one day a week.
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