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pregnant and crushing ...

I'm 17 weeks pregnant and I've been seeing this guy. He's kinda filling this void in my life cause my child's father and I aren't together. I enjoy his company and the support and attention. It started off with just texting but now I'm spending the night over his house and I've met his son. I really like him but he down plays my emotions and say it's just the pregnancy. He tells me that once the baby comes I won't have time for him...which maybe true however once my life has a sense of normalcy I would like to date him. Should I just enjoy our season or once I feel comfortable in my new mom role try and see if it could work? Also I'm 26 and have no intentions on being with my child's father.
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I think it honestly depends. You cannot based your decision off anyone's opinion from this forum because we don't know the situation and everyone's is diff. So for those who are telling you prepare for the worse or whatever else don't listen to them. Lol Take it slow don't rush and stress yourself out. This may become something great and you guys maybe together after the birth of the baby.
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8432403 tn?1410269779
I dont think its the best time to focus on another guy. Im a strong believer in preparing for the worst so you should be ready to be alone, not to say that you will be. Its just raising a baby alone is hard enough without extra stress from a relationship.If the guy really cares about you it wont matter to him if you wait to get serious. My sons dad and I broke up when I was 3 months pregnant after 5 years. I ended up getting close to my best friend after that really rough time but I chose to focus on my son and bam! 2 years later my friend is still here. We got married December of last year and we're expecting our second baby Dec.20.

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It can work i would just enjoy it ... i kno it feels good to have somebody make us smile &tell us were beautiful
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Yea its def not anything wrong with dating while pregnant but make sure he is ready when baby comes my ex bf who wasnt my childs father sure wasnt and it sucked cause he was there with me thru it all the labor and everything but he decided it was to much especially since it wasnt his and that was fine cause I did more or less force him I felt bad cause I didnt want to deprive him of actually seeing and holding his biological child but he says he was fine but I still hope he gets that feeling when u see ur own first child born. But sex while pregnant is ok as long is u get the guy tested cause it could have consequences for baby.
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There is no right or wrong answer for you and you should always do what you want and not what anyone else wants... HOWEVER you are going to have a baby, your emotions and hormones are every where right now and my personal opinion is that you shouldn't be trying to fill a void cause when this baby arrives that is all you should focus your life on. Even women with husbands or partners push them out at times cause all they want is their baby. I don't think any single pregnant lady should focus on a man, I know the attention is nice because you feel fat and lonely and like no one will ever love you EVER AGAIN been there and done it. My advice would be just enjoy being pregnant and having some time to yourself before your bundle of joy comes along cause you won't have time to fart when it's here lol xx
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6918915 tn?1395932871
I definitely don't see anything wrong with dating while pregnant. Or having sex while pregnant. I mean if someone is sleeping with a bunch if people while pregnant that would be gross but that would be gross even if they weren't pregnant lol I think it actually sounds kind of sweet that it doesn't bother him that the baby isn't his and he must really like you alot! The only thing I would be a little nervous about is him sticking around after the baby is born. Because its gonna be rough having a newborn and since it isn't his baby he doesn't have to take on that responsibility and he may decide its too much for him. But he may not! It could go either way. I think whatever makes you happy, that's what you should do! Good luck :)
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6709254 tn?1389303349
Take it slow and see how he feels about everything. I'm not saying go for it and what happens happens...but if you feel it and he feels it then either wait till your not preggo or move slow.
I didn't just up and move with my guy I actually didn't move to recently like a month ago. I can't speak on your emotional level because I'm not all hormonal and in my feelings.I don't get moody or feel one way one sec and another the next like people say or think pregnant ppl are supposed to.
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6709254 tn?1389303349
I'm 33 weeks pregnant. The man I'm with is not the father of my child. Me and him met when I was 7-9 weeks pregnant. Me and the father have no intentions of getting back together. I was skeptical at first but I went for it. He sometimes says once I'm not pregnant I wouldnt want him anymore.But I think it would be to late for that because he told me to move in and I did. He has no kids. He wants my lil girl as his own. We have our moments but what normal couple doesn't.Just because your pregnant doesn't mean you shouldn't date. I had no intentions of dating. Honestly we were both in it just for sex at first and then when we stopped having sex just to see if it was more. It turned out it was. I'm happy he's happy. I think he is more excited than I am for the baby to get here. I'm scared ******** cause its my first child but he is all excited like this is actually his child. And he doesn't see it any other way.
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I meant to say hunny not hubby lol
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Hubby don't listen to what people tell you....just follow your heart! And it's not true there are men who fall in love with women who are already pregnant! My husband's father wasn't his real father he started to date my mother in ow when she was pregnant. And that's the only father he knows! His real father wanted nothing to do with my husband. So just follow your heart and enjoy your pregnancy :)
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8765505 tn?1399764936
Hang out etc... see how u guys work...
I do think it can work. .. I don't agree with having sex with him while your pregnant ~ but by all means you deserve happiness x
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Dont know where the asteroids came from but i ment to write "it"
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It may have sounded rude, but *** wasn't. My apologizes if it seem that way. But where im from it's so common. Not saying that @gabriellakd was wrong because she is right. You may not see it that often. But i was saying that its kinda better being that men date women who already have kids & its even better that he is around now.  @pamela0128
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8854858 tn?1400901001
Real judgemental ladies ^ im 34 wks, I dont plan on being with my unborn sons father either and I too have been talking to a different man who is basically waiting for me to be ready to date again because right now I like him bt I dont feel comfortable being all prego around him lol.
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My uncle is with a girl that is pregnant and it's not his baby but he's sticking around because he truly loves this girl and he goes to all her doctor appointments with her. The biological father isn't doing anything for her... I think it takes a real man to do that. So I would say go for it ((: not all men use people there's still good men out there!
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I say, play it safe. You don't want any stress,  orbit Healthy for you & your baby.  You are pregnant with another man's baby. And it depends on how the guy your crushing on feels about being with you & your baby.  Talk to him about it & see how it goes? best of luck to you ! ツ
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Just take it slow if the intentions are pure and honest youll still want him fate the pregnancy keep him as a friend for m ow
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Gabriellkad is right! Being pregnant with someone else's kid while dating & dating with a child is two totally different things. No man would do that. I've seen it countless times. I'm not saying don't just drop it, but I wouldn't get my hopes up. You're not "lucky" for finding a man who will take you on. That's horrible to say. I'm sure you're an awesome woman& as soon as your baby is out you'll know everything is genuine & not just filling a void,but youre pregnant just wait, it's a time for different emotions not for dating lol. Idk can't shake that whole using thing. Just my opinion, did you ever catch that show pregnant while dating? Lol Good luck& have a healthy pregnancy
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8690664 tn?1405214716
I agree with gabriellakd ... But you should go for it , if that is what you want (:
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7732297 tn?1397446837
That was kinda rude^^ . I think you should go for it , he might be looking for a woman with a child already so you two can relate on another level:) it wouldnt hurt to try it out! Good luck hun!
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Just like someone dates someone who already has kids. Thats how ^^ & being that he is around while your pregnant makes it even better.
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I think you should stear clear. He could want to use you. Idk what guy in their right mind would want to date girl whose already pregnant with someone else's kid. Let alone someone who lets u spend the night already.
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that's so lucky!! congrats
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I say go for it mama. Ive debated other guys but im with the daddy but im open to others if it doesnt work out
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