preparing for major shock @ delivery :(

[marishaxoxo]

So, I know I've posted a few times about this... as the time gets closer I'm TERRIFIED I'm in for a major shock I can barely sleep. I had sex with man A sept 1-4 & man B sept 14-20. Estimated lmp by 7 wk ultrasound dating scan is sept 5. I believe it was the 6. Due date june 11. What are the chances???? I'm scared!

[marishaxoxo]

A part of me will always live in regret. But man A and man B are of different races. But thank you for your advice..

[Heather3418]

Although I was no married yet, I had almost the identical situation as you.  It is now 41 years since that event in my life.  I never had DNA tests done, because for one, they were not done that many years ago.  Even though they are available now, I would not disrupt my son's life, having DNA tests done.

I can tell you sweetheart, that this event so long ago, is still on my mind today.  I think I have driven myself crazy still wondering who my son's father really is.  If you decide to have a DNA test done, you do not need to have your husband or man B get involved in the DNA testing.  Believe it or not, all you need is to get a strand of hair from your husband's comb or brush and find a hair with a root on it.  It will contain his total DNA.  Have the baby tested and compare the DNA to your husband's.  If they don't match, then you have your answer.  What you decide to do with the results are totally up to you.  Tell your husband the truth or live with the outcome.

Your mind will never rest, if you don't make yourself 100% sure, who the father of your baby is.  Don't do what I did and drive yourself crazy all of your life, like I have done.  In my case, man B died many years ago.  If I was to go through the DNA testing today, for my own peace of mind, I would hair strands from my son and my now ex husband, to find out the real truth.  My ex husband raised this child and I would not tell anyone if my son happened to be man B's.  I would let it rest.  But you have a choice, not to live with regret, like I have.

Please think about it... and all the best to you.  

[marishaxoxo]

Thanks

[buggie216]

Seriously...your asking the same thing over and over...its man b's most likely no matter how you look at it...you know this in your heart...if you think by some remote possibility its your ex husbands...get a test...its the only way...but its not likely

[MamaBear0612]

My LMP was Sept. 6th (I always write it down so I know it's right), and I conceived sometime between Sept. 22nd-Sept. 27th. I know because I wrote down the times I had sex too, and I had gotten back together with my ex, and our first time was the 22nd. They've given me an official due date of June 12th based on my LMP, but 5 and 6 week ultrasounds gave me a due date of June 18th, which would mean I ovulated a little later than average. Seriously doubtful it's guy A's.

[marishaxoxo]

I have a feeling its man Bs I know that's the choice that makes sense..... and all the signs and facts point to him

[sehale]

At my seven week ultrasound my baby looked like a little shrimp. I couldn't hear the heartbeat, but I could see it.
I'm due June 4, and I conceived around September 12. Last period was August 29. If you baby was man a's your due date would be closer to mine.
Everyone who's posted on this board has given you their opinion, and most of those are man b.  If you are trying to convince yourself that the baby is man a's, get a DNA test. The facts are, the baby is almost definitely man B's, and if you believe if could somehow be man A's get a paternity test.
No one's opinion is going to change your mind if you have convinced yourself that it's man A's baby.

[marishaxoxo]

Does anyone else have a similar due date and know their range of conception???..... another thing, at my 7 wk ultrasound the baby had no form... meaninv No sprouting arm buds or recognizable head, it was a blur.... I could see the heartbeat but she said it was too early to hear...does this give any confirmation of age??

[marishaxoxo]

Its not a secret its just I don't wnt to be unrealistic and drag everyone thru something unnecessary... my cycles are very regular, I'm sure its B just looking for opinions...

[Starzabove9]

If I had the same dates I would get one, because theres always a chance. I wouldnt want to risk telling my child that someone is their father only to find out years later that it wasnt. I would rather remove all doubt and know 100%, not be pretty sure. Your child is the one that could possibly be hurt or suffer in the future

[sehale]

In the end the decision is completely up to you. If you believe the baby could somehow be man a's, get a DNA test. If you believe the baby is not man a's, don't get one. I'm not sure if you're with either man, but if you ask for child support they'll do a court ordered DNA test.

[marishaxoxo]

If u had the same dates would u request one?? Although its not ideal I'm being realistic..... if it was man As baby, #1) the 7wk scan should have measured 2 wks ahead...#2) the sperm would have to last thru bleeding #3) the bleeding would have had to been implantation only 1-2 days after intercourse.....

[Starzabove9]

Why wouldnt you have a dna test just to be sure?

[sehale]

With those dates AND having a regular period after sex with man a, I personally would not have a DNA test. I'd be convinced it was man b. That's just me though. If you feel a DNA test is necessary, get one. My last period should have been August 29, I would have conceived about September 12, and I'm due June 4. A 7 week ultrasound won't be off by two weeks.

[marishaxoxo]

Would you do a dna if youhad the same dates??

[marishaxoxo]

EverYone says dna test, but I'm asking you to put yourself in my shoes..... I'm not sure a dna is necessary at all.

[marishaxoxo]

Guy A is my husband, but we were and are seperated. Guy b is a short term relationship. I'd rather have my ex because we already have a child but I don't want to be ridiculous.... seems the chance is pretty much nothing :/ being honest w myself, I just don't see the ultrasound at 7 wk being off by that much.

[Mommie2bjuly23]

You were fertile all days you were with guy B

[Mommie2bjuly23]

Guy B. Get a calender and count 14 days from the first day of your last period. You got pregnant on one of those 14 days.

[marishaxoxo]

My cycles are regular, every single month. my previous lmp was august 5th, would september 1-4 be too much past ovulation??

[marishaxoxo]

If it was you, what would you do honestly??? Would you be confident it was man b based on all the info?? The intercourse was seperated by 10 days and a period.

[emaanbaby]

Its def man b cuz i had my lmp on march 6 n concieved on march 18 so two weeks after n my last pregnancy i had lmp on aug 22 n concieved sep 5 exactly two wks... So it has to b man b no chance of other man cuz sperm can last in u for up to three days only

[maymommy147]

I am due May 26th and my conception date was on September 3rd, with yours being later, it makes most sense that it would be man B

[maymommy147]

I am due May 26th and my conception date was on September 3rd, with yours being later, it makes most sense that it would be man B