scared for my baby

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hi i am 11 weeks pregnant yesterday i went to the doctor as i had stopped havinmg any feeling of streching , bloating etc which i was having in all these weeks i got a doppler test done but to my scare the doctor could not hear any sound thoughi am a thi n women and the doctor said before doing the test that there are much more chances of hearing the heart beat in thin women but she didnt hear anything what does that mean is it a miscarriage or it is a ectopic pregnancy there was no baby at all she is not ready to do the ultra sound says its not an emergency you dont bleed or have cramps so no signs of miscarriage apparent but stil,ll she said i am not sure about the baby what is your opinion doctor i am relly streessses i want to get the ultrasound done is it normal at 11 weeks that we cant hear the babys heart beat ??????please help my belly is growing my pregnanacy tests and urine tests are positive i was having all symptoms of nausea bloating heartburrn and navaaaaaaal streches etc i really dont understand what is going on?please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

soniyaarora · Answer

i wish to share with you that since past 3 days i have seen a watery and sticky liquid coming out of my breasts if pressed a little whats that ?it just looks like water and is sticky too i do feel pain also many times .is there any thing to worry?

keep  in touch!

danielleacor · Answer

To make you feel better. I was 13 weeks, and my doctor couldn't find the heartbeat either. But if there's no heartbeat they almost ALWAYS to an ultrasound just to be on the safe side. I'm very surprised your doctor didn't provide you that. I would call your doctor and tell them you are having a really hard time coping with what happend yesterday, and need to be seen again to have an ultrasound. If that doesn't work, most towns, and cities, have places you can pay to have an ultrasound done. I did that at 6 weeks when my numbers were dropping. Helped me relax. I'm sure you are just fine. You're docotr was right in saying that there's no real emergency when you dont have any symptoms of miscarriage. You're not always going to feel the presure of a growing uterus that early on. Keep us posted  :o)

kjbutcher · Answer

I should probably say around 11 weeks, most women start to feel better.  It is not unusual that you have "lost" symptoms.  This is when they begin to go away on their own and it is a normal, safe, good thing to happen.

Asking4aMiracle · Answer

I went in and had a cerclage at 13 weeks 2 days, my nurse couldnt find the heartbeat and she tried a couple different times but i had the u/s before and after the procedure and my baby was moving all over and perfectly healthy and fine...i would def call though and say hey, i want an u/s. its your baby and its their job to make sure you feel ok while your pregnant because it is a very stressful time!!

Good Luck

TAISIYIAH · Answer

SOME WOMEN USUALLY CANT HEAR THE HEART BEAT AT 11 WEEKS,BUT I THINK EVEYTHING WILL BE JUST FINE.YOU DO NEED TO TELL YOUR DOCTOR 
THAT IT IS STRESSING YOU OUT NOT KNOWING AND YOU WANT TO HAVE THE ULTRASOUND NOW TO BE ON THE SAFE SIDE,YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO GET  THE ULTRASOUND YOU NEED TO MAKE SURE THAT BABY IS SAFE.TRY NOT TO STRESS TO MUCH YOU SHOULD BE FINE ,BUT IF YOU START FEELING CRAMPS,AND PAINS GO TO THE HOSPITAL RIGHT AWAY.GOOD LUCK WILL PRAY FOR YOU

soniyaarora · Answer

hey
thanx everyone for your  reply .it was a great sense of satisfaction seeing that thre are lot of others who are with me going through same experiences.well i am planning for a ultra sound if  i can find any pvt imaging centre else i will gio to the 10 in hospitaL FOR ULTRA SOUND AS THAT IS THE NEAREST POSSIBLE DATE I CAN GET JUST PRAY FOR ME THAT MY BABY IS DOING FINE
Take care !

kjbutcher · Answer

I am just shocked that no u/s was done.  I got freaked out yesterday at 9w 2d, called the doc at noon or so and was offered an apt at 2, took one at 6:15, got my u/s and feel better.  I dont understand the wait!  on a good note, it is very hard to find a heartbeat that early with out u/s.  I would not let it worry you too much!!!  On this site alone, I bet it is probably 50/50 of people who were able to hear that early and ones that cant.  i was one that could not.  i think my first time was 12w 5d and it took over 20 mins for her to find it.

debgunn23 · Answer

yeah they couldnt hear a heartbeat until i was like 14 weeks i think. I rememeber at 12 they couldnt find it. The baby is still so small! Im sure everything is fine. Plus your body changes all the time throughout pregnancy some weeks you feel awful or extremly hungry and other weeks your full of energy or not hungry at all.

Anya1984 · Answer

You are welcome! I think you should get an u/s but again, you would feel pregnant one day and totally not pregnant another day, and that is NORMAL! Don't panic and just wait for a while (of course if they won't give you u/s earlier) and then be reassured that your baby is there!  I don't want to encourage you too much though because things happen but in your case, its too early to panic :)

chantal21 · Answer

Your doc should have definitely done an u/s or at least scheduled one right away! I know if my midwife wasn't able to hear my baby's heartbeat, she would definitely send me for one. Sometimes you can't hear it that early on, it just depends on a lot of things. I would call them and see if they can schedule one for you or change docs if you are not comfortable with them.

krushing · Answer

I'm not familiar with New Jersey, as I'm in Alabama, but I would definitely call the doctor back and demand an u/s.  With my first pregnancy, I had a m/c, but didn't bleed or anything and had to have a D&C because my body would expell the baby on its own.  So, you never know what is going on and I just can't get over them not doing an u/s when a heartbeat couldn't be found on doppler.

cure65roses · Answer

I think it's cruel for the dr. to tell you they can't hear a heartbeat at 11 weeks, but not offer an ultrasound. IMHO, I say change docs! Most dr's offices have the high quality, professional grade dopplers (you can also rent them at baby beat . com) that you can hear heartbeats by like 10 weeks, or so I thought?

Jen8950 · Answer

I know at my doctors, the nurse couldn't find the heartbeat, and they did an ultrasound right then to check on my little man. Turns out everything was okay, he was just hiding. 
I didn't hear the heartbeat until my 12-13 wks. So don't stress
Easier said than done i know

Darkestlight · Answer

I always thought that if the heartbeat wasn't heard with a doppler then the doctor had to give you a u/s..... Maybe its just my state or my doctors.

Kimberlee_20 · Answer

I agree, some women don't hear the heartbeat until 12-14W on a doppler, don't stress too much!

NicMom · Answer

You should call your dr and tell them that until you see the baby on the ultrasound you are going to be pulling your hair out. Most ob's are understanding and don't want you at home driving yourself crazy with worry. See if they can get you in for a quick scan. 

I'm sorry your so stressed out. The end of the first trimester can be a little scarry because you lose the pregnancy symptoms and don't feel movements yet, but it's also normal. Good luck.

soniyaarora · Answer

you are right it was really very hard to come back from the hospital without any reassurance that my baby is fine but the doctor was stiff he said even  if anything has happened we cant do anything to save it so cruel on his part yet she didnt thinkit is important do you know any ultra sound people where i can get it done in new jersey

soniyaarora · Answer

hi 
thanx for your reply it made me ease a little but now i have started feeling that am i really pregnant i guess till i get the ultra sound i wont be at peace but your answer really soothed me thanx again.

krushing · Answer

I am surprised they didn't do an u/s as well.  That is always your back up for assurance.

Anya1984 · Answer

Well, all I can say is that it is almost impossible to hear a heartbeat through the doppler at 11 weeks! usually they start at week 13 or so, so don't panic just yet..as far as u/s, I am surpirsed she didn't do it...some weird doc, honestly! It is an emergency for you and it is important to know what's going on! But I guess you should wait in this case for 2 more weeks and then the doppler should pick up the heartbeat if its there...Also, symptoms come and go and it doesn't mean that something happened! Mine weren't consistant as well, so that's not something to worry about.

BradyAm · Answer

im sry ur so stressed out and it seems like a pretty big deal to me. they should have done the u/s. well i wish u luck and please keep us posted. i hope someone has some answers for u but unfortunately i do not.