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scared to tell boyfriend
My periods are VERY regular and I was due on 1/27/12. I took a pregnancy test Monday and it was negative( it was also from the dollar store) kinda freaked me out because this happened in August and I ended you having an ectopic pregnancy. We never agreed to try to here pregnant, but we haven't taken any precautions either. Well, I bought a test today from target and it was positive. I'm scared to tell him because he has mixed feelings on having another one( I have 3 from previous relationship and he has 2). I don't think I van go through the emotional trauma of an abortion again, especially after the explicitly I just had...how should I tell him the news?
dont let him get to you hun or push you into it if you dont want to!! my daughters daddy didnt want anything to do with her until i saw him a few days ago and he wanted to see her and i told him no not only that he has never paid one dime to child support. there are other guys out there that would love you and your kids trust me!! i know this because i have 2 kids that dont have the same dads at all. now i have a boyfriend that loves them like his own=). you will find some one that would love your kids like his own you dont need that guy thats going to force you into something you dont want to. i was a single mom for a little when i had my first son form the moment i concived up until his sister was born and now i found a guy and i was not even looking for a guy at that time and now we have been together for 7.5 months. but he will come around like some of the ladies said. if you do get an abortion you know deep down in your heart you will regret it so bad. please dont let him talk you into it at all, to me my kids and my unborn baby is so much more inportant than a man because your or my kids will be there for life not a man!! it is so the truth though=). i hope you make a good choice hun and i hope you are not mad or upset at what i said. if you need to chat you can message me too. i would be more than happy to listen to what you have to say=)
Just read your comment LSN THERE ARE PLENTY OF GUYS OUT THERE WHO LOVE KIDS AND NEARLY ALL DON'T MIND IF A LADY HAS KIDS I started getting attention after having kids pushing my buggy guys coming up to me cars beeping men staring and I have two kids onto my 3rd most likly going to b a single mum for a while too. Ditch him ill be happy when you c baby please don't let him talk u into an abortion u and him will not last and ill be left with blood on Ur hands the regrets just not worthit Trust me I know!! X
Though I'm pro-choice, I don't believe a abortion is the answer in all cases
Its definitely not a form of birth control. I to would be hesitant to tell your bf about being prego. His reaction last time was disturbing, you should do what's right for you regardless if he's on board. Tell him ASAP, even though you're afraid of his reaction. I hope everything works out for you!
Its definitely not a form of birth control. I to would be hesitant to tell your bf about being prego. His reaction last time was disturbing, you should do what's right for you regardless if he's on board. Tell him ASAP, even though you're afraid of his reaction. I hope everything works out for you!
My bf was like that. I told him then left him he came running back after he had time on his own to think it thru but my prob is now I'm not sure if he is the dad or someone else! Now he want s it to be his and so do I but if its not we ll both b heart broken but ill get over it when I c my baby his or not.. my advice is leave him he ll come round
If you give into him on this, you're going to regret it for the rest of your life. It'd be different if abortion were something you wanted to, but to do it just because he wanted to...I really don't think I could be okay with that, could ever look at myself in the mirror after that and be okay. Moms are as strong as they have to be, much stronger than any man. You and your kids will get through this and be okay, with or without him. Keep your head up, he's the one who's making the wrong decision here, not you. If he really didn't want it, he should have tried to prevent it, now there's a life here and you have every right to keep it.
He, will eventually come around, it was his stupidity for not doing anything to prevent it if he didn't want another one. Stand your ground don't get an abortion
So ladies...I did tell him, and he is VERY UPSET!!!! He told me that it's stupid to trying and bring a baby into our situation considering that we are not financially stable. He said it's the wrong time and that he is the man and he said were are getting an abortion. I told him that I didn't think I could go through that again, and I know that through timing is horrible, but we should have been more careful and we weren't. He then had the audacity to tell me well it's either me or what's in your stomach. I am in complete shock that he would give me an ultimatum like that! I told him that I'm not aborting anything and he took his promise ring off, threw it on the bed, and said I hope you are happy with your choice. I'm So hurt I don't know what to do, I don't want to have an abortion, but I don't want to be a single mom of 4 kids either
I would have to agree with MamaBear0612, not only that its your body. i had to tell my ex that i was pregnant and he was so not happy about it but he tried to tell me to do something about it and he told me to get an abortion and i told him no. he got mad and said that if i ever tried to leave he would punch me in my stomach, but you know i did leave and i got out of there while he was at work. dont let a man tell you what to do if you are not wanting to give it up. if he does that i say hes not wanting to stand up and be a man for his own actions too. i know a girl who got 7 abortions and then when she did want a child/baby of her own she could not because of that many abortions she had because when they do the abortions it causes scars on the inside of the uterus. when i got with my BF i told him i dont get abortions and i cant take birth controll and he said ok and he is okay with it. so just tell him you are and if he tells you to get an abortion tell him no that he needs to take it as it is or you can leave hi, but if he wont take it as it is then i would leave him but that is my choice. i hope everything goes okay with you and him when you tell him. update us ladies please.
If he doesnt want another and he will tell u to abort y didnt you guys protect your self fron getting pregnant in the first place? Not passing judgement just simply asking a question... Not only is aborting a life not fair to the tons of women who really want to have kids and aret able to but its horrible on your body and mind...
Just because he tells you to "get rid of it" does not mean that you have to do it. Maybe he's happy, maybe he's not, but that's your baby in there so you have the right to protect it if that's what you choose to do, and that right comes before his emotions. Luckily abortion was never an option for my ex either - and trust me, he wasn't happy about it at first - but if he has suggested it I would have told him to go to hell. It's your child, your little baby.
My moto, it is what it is! You.don't want an abortion so what can he do about it. Just go for it. He may be upset at first but when he sees that baby he will be excited. Try to remind him of the joy he had with his other children being born. Best of.luck to you!
I know, but one minute he says he wants a baby, and the next he's dine, he doesn't want anymore... Last Time I thought I was again...he was like no way, get rid of it...but then that next month said that he wasn't raising another baby without both parents again. :( So confused
Just tell him, and if he asks you for an abortion, tell him that's not an option for you, that you just couldn't do that. If he wasn't taking precautions, he was opening the door for a pregnancy...abortion is not birth control. Honestly, assuming you guys have a pretty good relationship, he may take some time to adjust, but he'll most likely get there. He has to.
I would tell him as soon as you can. Just from experience, one of the first questions I got in an unplanned pregnancy from my baby's father was "Why didn't you tell me?" to which I could honestly answer "I just found out." Just be as honest and straightforward as you can, tell him it'll be okay, that you'll make it work...but be prepared for the possibility that he might not feel the way that you do, and be ready to give him some time.
I would tell him as soon as you can. Just from experience, one of the first questions I got in an unplanned pregnancy from my baby's father was "Why didn't you tell me?" to which I could honestly answer "I just found out." Just be as honest and straightforward as you can, tell him it'll be okay, that you'll make it work...but be prepared for the possibility that he might not feel the way that you do, and be ready to give him some time.
I know, but one minute he says he wants a baby, and the next he's dine, he doesn't want anymore... Last Time I thought I was again...he was like no way, get rid of it...but then that next month said that he wasn't raising another baby without both parents again. :( So confused
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