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Latley sex has been a chore its been like this a while. Its not that I dont wanna have sex its that it hurts. And its been frustrating me so,bad that I been stressing... It makes me think if.i dont give my,fiancee sex hes gunna leave me. I wanna be able to pleasure him,and I cant. :,( we just tried and I got so frustrated because we culdnt find a way that didnt hurt that I just started balling... What do I doo :( I just wanna have sex :(
The last time hubs and I tried nothing was working for me. It hurt to even try, which has never happened before. I felt so bad I bawled and he just held me and said it's OK. I just offer BJs and HJs for the time being and at some point we will try again. For now lots of cuddles and kisses and he is super happy that my boobs are getting so big lol.
I've been having the same problem it doesn't really hurt its more uncomfortable and like you said a chore. So I don't enjoy it, it's mostly for his benefit. But lately I'm just to uncomfortable that I stop him and he says it's okay but he still gives off this mad feeling and it makes me feel bad :/
And Even when we actually do it, it's just boring. It's always the same but before we got pregnant it was fun and we'd try different things but he won't Nymore which makes me feel pretty bad.
And Even when we actually do it, it's just boring. It's always the same but before we got pregnant it was fun and we'd try different things but he won't Nymore which makes me feel pretty bad.
U r 20 wks i m only 14wks n i m already complaining abt sex. Its just after sex i get do much back pain... I tried to think of position which is more comfortable for me n my dh... But its jst not happening... I thought i was only person killing my dh by staying away from him.... Good 2 knw other women feel same way....
Same boat I'm 30 weeks an no platoon is comfy I hate to say it but I let him do his thing an I try to enjoy it as much as I can we've found if he stands an I lay on bed we can accomplish our goal even though only he gets pleased.
Yep I just wish if they knew it hurt they would stop and just hug me and tell me things are going to be ok but he doesn't ... We use to do it everyday or every other day before I got pregnant now its like once a week I get tired of him begging and eventually give in but its hard to get in the mood when you know its going to cause pain and half the time I'm laying there trying to enjoy it but can't and just count the seconds till its over :( its sad
Thats how my man,is he gives me.a hard time about it. Like.when I started crying he was like.ur really crying over that and I said yeah y wuldnt I I just wanna have sex and it not hurt. Ur just gunna leave me. And he just walked away. He didnt make me feel better or even tell me he wasnt leaving me which made me.cry harder :,(
I'm the same way its getting very uncomfortable and it seems like my vagina is tighter than before I was pregnant ... Which it was tight then too but now its to the point if we have sex it really hurts ... We invested in some ky and it does help some but its still a little painful at first... Before we got ky I would actually bleed from where it was rubbed raw on my insides causing even more pain.... I want to please me fiance too and I feel bad if I can't and he gives me a hard time about it making me feel even worse :(. I wish he understood how I am feeling right now there are nights I just want to cry ... If I lay on my back during sex my back starts having shooting pains so he just doesn't get it! :( we try oral but half the time I still end up throwing up bc I've been so sick lately any smells from perfume to foot oder anything could trigger me to throw up ... I'm ready for my little girl to be here I'm 27 weeks ...
See we tried the lube tonight and it burned. It never had before and its the lube we used before we got pregnant and im 21+2. his birthdays comming up and I really wanna do something off the charts for him like.sexual wise maybe dress up and role play. Weve never done nething like that but sence ive gotten my belly i dont feel attractive. So idk how to do that. But I want to because hes alwats wanted that.
I know how you feel...me and my fiance decided to stop trying because he saw that it was hurting me..I decided to surprise him by and this may sound bad to some but I got him some.dirty movies and tissues as a joke...he loved it lol just because I can't.have fun with him doesn't mean I don't want him too..he puts up with my crazy pregnant cravings and mood swings so I figured why not...at least he's not out with don't one else right
Im in the same position as you! Its been extremely uncomfortable for me since the beginning but I think I figured out the problem the other night I noticed I wasnt as "wet" as I normally would be and so we used some lube and it was actually bearable!!! I still havent been able to reach the big O but thats most likely because thinking about the baby and my belly distracts me!! Lol....how far along are you? Im 31+
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