single mom?

[jne1233]

My child has a father. I will not keep he/her from their father, but I'm not sure he is best for me. I am perfectly fine being by myself just worried abt my child... I'm 19 abt to turn 20 on Feb 29. I'm full time student and dnt plan to change that. I just worry he is not the one. Advice?

[MamaBear0612]

My child's father and I aren't together, and we're making it work just fine. I think the important thing if you're doing it as two single people is to always try to put the child's interests before your individual personal issues. He's a good guy, I'm a good woman, a relationship just doesn't make sense to us anymore. So now we're putting our effort into trying to be the best parents we can be, and in the process he's becoming a very good friend to me.

I grew up in an unhappy marriage, and my parents stayed together for us and in the process made us all miserable. I think it's better a lot of the time that both parents be happy and involved as single people than try to force it when you know it's not right. You don't have to be together to parent together; it might take some work but then so does parenting within a relationship or within marriage.

[lenzinicole]

Talk to him about it. He may feel the same way. It's better to end on good terms than painfully because your baby will suffer from it regardless.

[jne1233]

He knows. We have a very weird relationship, we rushed it in high school cus we seemed so perfect but now we are just to alike and different in the wrong areas

[AnnieBrooke]

Does the guy know he is going to be a father?  If so, does he want to be with you, just want to know the child, or none of the above?