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4519943 tn?1355835868

something holding me back

Hey girls! i am 21 and im 5weeks pregnant with my second baby. the babys father isnt my sons biological father although he treats my son as his own. We already told my boyfriends father that hes going to be a grandfather and he was thrilled. his reaction gave me a sense of relief and made me feel so much better. My problem is that i currently live with my mother and step-father and i just cant gather the courage to tell either of them about this new baby on the way. im terrified. we have already sat down with my father in law and he said it was fine that i could move in with them but i just cant feel completely excited knowing i have to break this news to my parents. my mom has always beeb on my case about birth control but im not good with pills and i tried nuvaring but it gave me. rash so i decided to not take any contraceptives bc my boyfriend and i  thought he was sterile. I dont know what to do ??? I am hoping to move out before i tell them but im under my stwp dads insurance and im not sure if my drs. visits show in the statements :$ what should i do? Has anyone felt this way before? Helppp its an overwhelming feeling.
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4519943 tn?1355835868
Thanks guys! im just going to wait for the u/s to make sure all is well and then ill tell my mom first lol its just hard because in january i had big plans to start a cosmetology course and now my mother is going to think that i wont amount to nothing... this new baby caught us all by surprise. i just hope its not as bad as i think it will be
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I helped my friend through this exact situation..we decided to go to the er (she was 15 week and still hadnt been to the Dr BC of her parents insurance) and told her parents she thought she had the flu but found out she was pregnant haha of curse they were upset, but her Bf was a scum bag. If you have a great guy in your life then I too would behappy for you. Just approach them with a plan.
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Honestly, if the guy you are with treats you well & treats your son like he's your own, if I were your mom I'd be thrilled that my daughter found an awesome guy to share her life & start a family with! You are an adult. Not everyone is going to approve of your decisions and choices that you make, but be confident and stand by them. Deep down a lot of us (myself included) look for our parent's approval and blessings, which is fine, but remember its your life. You only get one shot, so do what makes you happy.
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I was 13 weeks before I told my parents I was pregnant. I wanted to see the dr first and make sure my baby had a heart beat and all that and it was also such a huge surprise that I wanted to take some time to adjust to the news and kind of figure out a plan. My mom was offended at first that I didn't tell her right away but now that I'm just a few days away from my due date and we're all so looking forward to this new blessing it's all just forgotten that I didn't tell right away. The bottom line is that you are an adult and it is your body and it's your story to tell whenever you're ready to tell it. If you need some more time than you're entitled.
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Hey i was the same way with my inlaws, i just looked at it like this. Your an adult, and if they love u then they wil come around. its not worth the stress and worry not to tell them. Good luck
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I would tell them. being sneaky about it and moving out before you tell them is cowardly. Just own it. I know its going to be hard because you feel like you disappointed them but they will be upset at first but trust me they will get over it. Just dont lie about it. Its going to make you feel so much better once you tell them. Im going to be exactly 6 weeks tomorrow and I have an appt tomorrow to see if we can see the babies heartbeat. I havent told my grandpa (aka Dad) yet because I have had 2 miscarriags in the past and we have 4 kids already. Yes were excited but I know hes going to be like WTF. lol. So if all goes well tomorrow Im going to tell him soon as I walk in the door. Dont wait. Tell them now...If you wait its only going to get tougher. And theyre going to be upset that you waited so long to tell them
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You need to just tell them. Better to tell them over having a bill come and they find out that way.
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4519943 tn?1355835868
Bump. anyone?? :(
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