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412969 tn?1224334248

sorta ot ... sons first day at school, and my nerves!

i posted this on maternal but i wanted to post here as i know alot of my issues are pregnanct related, and alot of you girls already have kids!
So today was my son kain's first day of kindergarten, his first time on a bus and his first time at a new school.
and im 8 months pregnant and already a hormonal nervous wreck!
i met his teacher last night.... its her very first year as a teacher. which has me worried and glad at the same time. worried because she used to be a cheerleader in highschool only like 2 years ago and doesnt have experience, happy because shes not bitter and jaded yet. this morning i take him to the bus stop, try and drill him in every thing he needs to know, hes not nervous at all, but i am!
and im having contractiosn while i wait in a line of DUMB parents who all but two were at the wrong damn bustop!
but this poor bus driver will take there kids anyway, even though they dont have there bus passes and were to dumb to realize when the school told them what bus and bustop they were supposed to be at they said, well thats not where it was last year! so they take there precious kids to the wrong one!
i ask him what time he drops the kids off and he says...... im just a sub, i dont know.
so i get to begin my day a nervous wreck, more than usual praying my son gets to where he needs to go no one loses him, and theyll bring him back home! sigh... is it always this hard?
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My son is no even three yet and is going to school in two weeks. I'm scared like any of you. I don't know what will be for him like not having me around and how he will behave or if some children will do anything bad to him even just  playing. He has to be there from 7.30 to 15.00. He will eat there and sleep a nap after lunch. I hope everything goes well and is a nice experience for him because the first years are really important in the development of the child. We live in Czech Republic and I'm scared too because I speak to him Spanish and the father in Czech and between us in English. He speaks perfectly Spanish and Czech but he is been three years home with me speaking Spanish so I don't know how will be when everyone just speaks Czech to him. I really hope everything goes well
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435139 tn?1255460391
Well, we can't have parents just hanging around BUT we can have parents volunteering and actively helping out!  These days with the economy, a lot of our teacher's aide positions have been cut so we are doing more with less support...the role of the parent volunteer is super helpful...especially in a younger classroom when an extra set of hands can really be used.  The younger kids' teachers usually have a lot of prep work to do to prepare for activities etc.  For example, I teach third grade, all of my students can rip out work book pages...that is way different in pk,k & even 1st grade.  Some parents come in and rip out the pages for the week.  Some parents come in and set up center activities or monitor center activities.  Some parents come in and do photocopying...that is my absolute favorite!  Some parents come in and sharpen pencils, organize the classroom library, water the plants WHATEVER the teacher feels like she can use help with.  The best parent volunteers are the ones who are consistent...they come when they say they will...and don't insist on being in the classroom all the time or working directly with the students.  IF you have the leisure of being able to volunteer then I am sure the teacher would be greatful.  We have a volunteer who just comes into the office on Mondays and stays the day and anyone can drop off materials for her to cut, laminate, photocopy, etc. so that teachers with students whose parents can't volunteer still get some assistance.  Perhaps if your son saw you intermittently and he just knew you were there would help.  Then you can wean down the days if you want.  Volunteering at the school would probably leave you feeling very rewarded.  It will be a win-win-win situation for you, your son and the teacher.  Good luck!
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399393 tn?1257513081
thanks for your response and congrats on your pregnancy. wish you have a wonderful 9 months and much joy of being a parent.

my son had his teddy bear with him. he's very attached to his teddy bear, so i thought that'd help out. the teacher was very nice. we tried different things on the first day. she even let me sat outside the class, and my son was ok with me being there. but once in awhile he ran out to check if i was still there. i left for the restroom once, and he got panicked, ran out of the class crying and yelling for me. the teacher then suggested me to just drop him off, kiss him goodbye and leave. she said that if i was around, then my son wouldn't listen to her, which i agreed. he ran to the door every time he wanted to check without listening to the teacher. that's what i did the next day. i told him everything and left to let him cry. the teacher said to call me after 10 min if he continued to cry, but i guess she had a feeling that i was going to be around.

my question to you is that does school not allowed parents to hang out the classroom, like just to sit outside the class the whole time. i think once my son adjusts and finds fun things to do. he won't bother whether i'm around. i think that'll be easier on him since he's always with me. i asked his teacher that, and she said if she lets me do that, then other parents would want the same.

thanks again
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435139 tn?1255460391
You are doing good!  I'm a teacher so I am proud of your faith and trust...believe me, we do this every day and we are probably as neurotic as you in regards to ever 'losing' one!
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412969 tn?1224334248
yeah im making a guess and showing up early for school drop off time, and ive been good and havent been neurotic i didnty call the school and make sure hes there... im proud of myself LOL
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435139 tn?1255460391
The school will know when the bus should drop him off or be able to connect you to the bus company headquarters and they'll be able to give you an estimate within probably 5-10 minutes...
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435139 tn?1255460391
School is very exciting and can be a difficult transition for some students who have a higher level of separation anxiety.  I think first days are just as tough for mom's as kids!  
Shadow: the school's job is to make sure that all kids are safe, secure and growing socially and educationally.  I'm sure that he is having a great experience.  Try to stay positive and he'll follow suite!

Maryddn:  I'm assuming that the teacher  should have been contacted so you could talk about your concerns.  Letting a child cry for a bit is normal however if it is to the point of neglect then you have a legitimate concern.  A well trained teacher would have embraced that child and engaged them correctly so that they would have been active and therefore they would have calmed down.  Maybe you can give your son something he can keep with him all day so he can hold it and think of you.  AND if he really dreads it, talk to the teacher and make sure that you are getting  a good vibe and that there is no mistreatment causing him to not like school.
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399393 tn?1257513081
I can relate to you. It's always hard no matter what. My son is 3 and has never been to a school. He stayed home with me. This summer I tried to introduce him to a 2hrs class but failed. He cried so much I could not bear. I was hiding the next door. He didn't know I was around. He followed other kids to the playground ect... but all he did was crying the whole time, didn't want anybody near him. Just stood there crying and crying.  I was afraid he was going to pass out dehydrated. In the end, I gave up hiding and took him home. He dread going to school now. I don't know what to do. People say they cry and as soon as we leave they forget us, but not the case for me. Any ideas what I should do???
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419964 tn?1333301906
i have no children soo i have no idea how you feel. i can imagine it must be hard. no need to be nervous the teacher will make sure he gets on the right bus. im sure he will have a lot to talk about when he gets home
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273212 tn?1227705835
I can only imagine what you're going through my son starts school next year and I'm dreading it. The whole thing is scary to me. I wish I had some words of advice but I don't. They grow up so fast and we're not ever ready to let go! I hope everything goes well and I'm sure he'll make it home safely. He'll have plenty of stories to tell when he gets home.
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