spilling the beans

[expecting2012]

How long did you all wait to tell your family your expecting??

[alaskalady]

Haha my boyfriend and I were very nervous about telling our parents. I told my mom when  I was about 19 weeks and my boyfriend called my dad and told him himself. We told his dad first when I was 16 weeks and we told his mom last cuz we knew she would be rude about it (she was) we didn't tell her till I was 22weeksa :p. It was kind of an ordeal but it went well over all.

[expecting2012]

Thanks again everyone.....almost 6 wks and have still kept my mouth shut but its very difficult  :-)

[brandiw13]

Since I was going thru IVF, our family knew when my blood test was. I took a hpt a few days prior and told my mom and sister in law. Once the blood test came back positive, we told family and waited until I was about 6-7 weeks to tell everyone else...and by then we knew it was twins, so that announcement was just was huge as the initial pregnancy announcement!

[jenamariem24]

Last pregnancy I told everyone after seeing the heartbeat on ultrasound at 6 1/2 weeks pregnant. I ended up miscarrying, and wished I wouldn't have told my friends and all family members. I just thought after seeing a normal healthy ultrasound that couldn't happen to me. Especially since I had a son previous to that. With this pregnancy we waited until 13 weeks to tell everyone.

[steph_ut]

I say it has to do with comfort. As some women have indicated, they told some people right away and waited for others. W told my parents and my sister the day we found out (I have a close family and they are the ones I would want to turn to for support if something goes wrong). We didn't tell other family until 12-16 weeks depending on how close we are to them.

If you think your family members will start telling others, I think it's best to do a major "news blast" so no one gets hurt feelings for not being in the "inner circle" who knew sooner, etc, etc.

[HartlynsMami]

12wks is our tradition in hawaii jus incase, congrats :)

[expecting2012]

You girls are wonderful.... I love hearing your advice!!  Keep it coming :-)

[MamaBear0612]

I waited about 11 weeks, I was scared of having to deliver bad news to them in the first trimester, especially since I had some bleeding at the beginning, just seemed best to wait. I finally decided to tell them after the 10 week scan was great. I might have waited longer but all my family got together for Thanksgiving and it seemed a good time to spill the beans. :)

[gokuangel]

I was living w my grandma and my mom and they need help w stuff so i had my appt on a tuesday and monday they were asking for stuff so im like yeah after i get done at the dr s and of course they re all like why why whats wrong so yeah didnt get outta that one LOL! i got my clinic confirmation the next day I was exactly 5 wks! my gradma then called the rest of the family and it spread like wildfire so every1 has known this whole time im pg! and since my BF's family knew we had had a fight and broke up they also knew hes close to them and they knew he was taking me to an appt so they called and were like well well.. so no secrets here no waiting LOL!

[Shannon79]

We haven't really told anyone yet we're pregnant. I'm just a little over 7 weeks pregnant, and not planning on telling anyone until we get past the 3 month mark. We haven't even told our parents yet!

I don't think I could handle telling people we're pregnant and then having a miscarriage, then having to tell everyone that.

Everyone is different and will tell people when they're ready

[hairdid]

9 weeks is when our family knew.

[tmd10811]

Family knew at 4 weeks (right after I got a positive hpt) we told everyone else at 6 weeks.

[expecting2012]

Thanks everyone you have been very helpful!!

[baby_lilly]

im 18, so i told my parents when i was around 6-7 weeks.
(i didn't live with them, but i felt like they should still know).
i didnt tell friends or the rest of the family til about 12-13 weeks tho..
i didn't start showing til like 22 weeks,
so i didn't have anythign to worry about lol.

[Swtshae]

If you're comfortable, go ahead and give them the good news. I'm sure they'll be praying for you. Yes it's true that the first trimester has the highest chance of miscarriaging, but they'll be there for you if something were to happen! Enjoy this time and good luck!

[expecting2012]

Thank you all for the comments!!  I am 5 wks today after going through my second round of clomid.  Our parents and some relatives know that we have been ttc for 1 1/2 now and literally ask for any updates on my situation frequently.  I don't know how much longer I can continue to lie to them!!  What do you all think??????

[MrsTiffany]

My husband and I had been trying for 2 or 3 weeks and everyone knew that, so my husband called everyone after I took three positive tests. Yes there's a chance of miscarriage, but I wouldn't want to go through that alone without family either.

[Clysta]

I told my mom 30 minutes after I had gotten a positive test and she called and told the rest of the family for me. I was about 5-6 weeks along at that point. After we had an ultrasound done at 7 weeks we showed my husbands family.

[RippedonScotch]

We had planned on waiting until after our first u/s for immediate family to find out but I ended up having an asthma attack 2 days prior to that and my mom took my to the hospital... She found out when the dr said something and made me the promise not to tell my dad yet. It was the day before my brothers birthday, the first one since he past away in April and my DH and I decided that it needed to be about him and not about us.

But then 2 days later we had the u/s at 7 wks and made copies for mine and his parents.  His mom cried when she saw the photo...it was so cute. My parents knew that we had been going to a specialist because of a bad miscarriage I had a year prior. His parents didn't even know about the miscarriage, actually stil don't to this day.  We only told immediate family and finally after our 12 wk U/S we told everyone else.  

[mommyd2012]

I found out Dec 6th we were expecting...I wanted to wait until Christmas to tell the family. We planned to give them all presents with signs in it that said "baby on board"! But apparently Santa got a little to over excited and delievered them the next morning to the family! My husband knew I wouldn't beable to wait...we were about 5 or 6 wks along at that point!

[coffeebuzzedliz]

I waited until 10 weeks. I had just had a Dr. appointment and everything looked really good. My Dr. told me that around 9 weeks if all looked good that you start reaching a safer point, where instance of M/C goes down. I just dont think you should tell people in the first couple of months because you dont know what can happen and even though it is hard to wait you are going to have a LONG time to bask in the attention of pregnancy.

[jrobertson20]

With DD we waited until I was about 9-10 weeks along.  I wanted to wait until at least 12 weeks but DH didn't want to wait that long.  Plus we saw a heartbeat and growth so I felt comfortable.  Next time I plan on waiting the 12 weeks.