ugh I need some help

[dremona93]

I found out today my baby has no heart beat and stopped growing about a week ago I was 11 weeks today I dunno what to do with my self everythin was perfect I did everything right why me??  Someone please help me understand why???

[dremona93]

Will do thanks so much any advice helps

[beauty12]

I m so sorry for ur loss.... When i found out i ws pregnant last yr in oct i ws so excited... We ve been trying for nearly 3nhlf yr... N thn i lost my baby in december whn i ws told tht its failed pregnancy... I cried for three months... I just didnt knw wht 2 do with myself... I started giving signs of depression.. My dh ws so worried coz all i wanted to do ws get prehnant... Evn though my bofy kept giving signs its not prepared for baby yet i kept pushing until i started having in between bleeding... Thn my dh told me he ll not try for baby until i handle myself.. Thn 5th month i just changed myself... I started excersing.. Kept my self so busy... I lost alot of weight thn i became relaxed... I found other targets to look at... N i fell pregnant next month.. I know its not hoing to be easy... But never blame urself as it will only hurt u... Find something to kerp ursrlf busy... N i m not going to say this scare will go awsy coz it eont not until u ll hve an healthy pregnancy... I m scared of everything i m 16wks n still feel something will go wrong... But have faith n stay positive coz miscarriages are very normal abt 1/4 pregnancy end up in mc either its ur 1st or 4th.... N mostly coz of abnormality in baby... Not coz of u... Just take care of yrself... N chin up hun... We r here wneva u wnt to share ur feelings... Best of luck...n keep us posted...

[sopheng]

I was the same I miscarried at 8 weeks in Nov last year...I couldn't understand why it had happened to me I had done everything right by what the doctor had told me eating healthy no smoking drinking etc regular mild exercise I was beside myself...I couldn't understand how there were people out there taking their pregnancy for granted smoking drinking taking drugs yet carrying their children to full term.... I was fortunate enough to fall pregnant again in march. I am now 29w 3d with our first son...I know this probably doesn't help to hear at this time for you but know that like you so many of us have felt that pain that loss for words and inability to comprehend why US. Hang in there it will happen for you when the time Is right. Surround yourself with a good support system and just take each day as it comes.

[dremona93]

Thanks so much I jus don even know how to deal with this like it makes me sick that these girls out here doing horrible things while pregnant and I did everything right like why me but I really hope to get pregnant again very soon and have everything go smoothly

[KNesha]

Same thing happened to me in April ...I was 10 weeks & they couldn't find my baby's heartbeat ...I was so crushed & confused & kept blaming myself and asking was there something I could have done differently!! But after talking to my family & doctor I did everything right ...everything happens for a reason ..even though they hurt us its for the best & remember ..God won't put to much on us that we can't bare...you will conceive again & when u do don't stress and u are gonna have a beautiful ..healthy baby...I'm 8 weeks now & even though ppl think I got pregnant to soon I think I got pregnant at the right time because everything happens for a reason and this is in God's plan for me!! And he has a plan for you...just be patient and he will bless u yet again with a healthy & beautiful baby : )

[stacey10]

I'm sorry for your loss, and even though I have experenced serveral miscarriages myself I never really realised how comon they were until I joined this site, unfortunately thats cold comfort, and usually  you could have done nothing to prevent this from happening, you will still be in shock and it will probably take a few days for it to sink in, if you feel that your not coping, which is very comon, make sure you talk to your doctor and they maybe able to refer you to a consellor or similar to talk through everything, they will possibly  check for chromesomal problems or anything else to see if they can find out why and hopefully you will then have some answers, take each day a day at a time and look after yourself, once again I'm sorry your having to go through this

[sharonc2013]

Its not your fault sweetie sometimes these things just happen I am so sorry for your loss and will be praying for you ....