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[souzyfame]

hi all,
I have just had a miscarriage last wednesday afternon, and I feel down, depressed, I am 34 years old and I am still bleeding, it is was my first pregnancy ( 10 weeks) and I lost my baby,according to doctor on the 6th week. It is a terrible feeling, the worst experience i ever had in my life, I want to gt pregnant again again soon, but i am still bleeding till today, I tried to not think of this and feel better but too difficult to cope ith. any advise to gt pregnant again soon?

doctor said my H.B is 8.3, she said it is good, but i am lost and confused i need to conceiv soon, what are your advises ! or share some experiences .
Thank you for your help!

[babydreams9]

I'm so sorry you're experiencing this terrible loss. I had a m/c last November at 7 weeks w/my first pregnancy and understand how painful it is, emotionally and physically. For us, we decided to wait one full cycle before ttc again. I thought it best to let my body regulate itself again and my hormones get back to a normal level. I also needed time to heal emotionally. I needed the time to mourn the loss of my baby and process what had happened. You may want to consider the same thing, but only if it's right for you. Only you can make that call. The "time off" really helped me gain clarity and come to terms with the loss. It is important that you dont try to hurry up and become pregnant again as a means to deal with the loss of this baby; you need to deal with it as a seperate issue so that you can be whole-hearted during your next pregnancy.

We ttc again and became pregnant in late December... we are now 25 weeks along w/a very healthy baby boy. Being depressed is your body and mind's way of taking a time out, telling you to face the pain and cope with what has happened. Reach out to your family and friends and ask for what you need. And remember - miscarriages are the exception, not the norm. The chances of you having a healthy baby next time are very good. Hang in there and best wishes to you!

[quoya]

i had a miscarriage back in jan 08 and got pregnant again 5 weeks after. i am now 17 weeks pregnant and doing good. i find out on the 26th what im having good luck and dont give up.

[michelle148]

Hi hun. I have had two miscarriages my first in Nov 07 and my 2nd May 08. I like you had an incomplete miscarriage the first time round and i never completed my miscarriage until January 2008 it took ages for all the tissue to leave me and it was a long and painful process so i know exactly how you feel. There is no way that you can speed up an incomplete miscarriage im afraid it will take time and some take alot longer than others. As for trying again, we started to try again straight away and we are trying again now as well even though i only miscarried last month, we are trying again as we are desperate for a baby and we dont want to wait any longer than we have to. It took me 5 months to get pregnant after my first miscarriage so i believe in that time my body had time to heal as i never got pregnant straight away. A friend of mine had a miscarriage and then fell pregnant straight away without a period and she is now the mother of a healthy 6 week old baby. I personally feel that your body will decide if you are ready for a baby again soon or in a few months etc... As long as you feel ready physically and emotionally then i would try whenever you feel like it. Good luck and lots of baby dust to you.

[souzyfame]

Thank you very much for your reply nd I hope everything will be ok for everyone .

[mamaof6]

Hi hon. i can relate to what you are going through. i am 10weeks today, and went in tuesday for an u/s and they found a fetus measuring 6weeks w/ no heartbeat. :(  ( i also have an extrememly lg. yolk sac) so here i am waiting to miscarry. i am hoping to do it naturally, w/ no complications, as i am petrified of being  put to sleep for d&c. but God willing, everything will go ok. i hope everything decides to come on out naturally for you before your next appmt. i also had a m/c in oct.07 and i got preggo b4 my period and that ended up in another m/c. but im not saying thats the case w/ everyone, as im starting to believe mine are from a chromosonal  defect. i wish you all the luck, and know that you are not alone!!  take care.

[souzyfame]

I wen today to the doctor appointment and she said that my bladder is still full of the miscarriage (dead baby and other things) though bleeding still nothign yet heavilg comes out, she gave another appointment for next thursday for a complete anesthesized surgery (operation/0 to take out everyhting inside my uteris for the miscarrigae, I am very depressed , when i see my round belly and think of the next surgery it scares me a lot.

Is Ther eany ways to help foster the natural way of miscarriage and things comes out , it is so painful lingtime waitng for me,

any advise would be appreciated .

[pmperez]

Not that I was supposed to but I got pregnant before my next cycle, but I was closely monitored and Im sure they'll do the same for you...Good Luck

[souzyfame]

my doctor told me to wait 1 cycle period .thn conceive if i want

[leighanne143]

sorry for your loss.  i know what you are going through cause i went throguh 2 of them in 5 months so i understand your pain.  my midwife told me to wait one healthy cycle before trying again and my doctor told me 2.  we waited 2 and got pregnant again right away but that resulted in MC too.  but you can get pregnant again right away.  i thjink the biggest think is to let you mind heal and give yourself time to grieve.

how long did your doctor tell you to wait?

[LosingMyMindInGA]

First you need to greive.  Most docs advise waiting 3 months...but if mentally you feel ready I would only wait one normal cycle.  However you can bleed for a week or two with a m/c and should wait until after the next normal period.  Everything you are feeling is normal, but if it continues to affect your daily life I would suggest grief counseling. YOU have to be emotionally ready before trying to conceive again.  I've been through 2 m/c's and a stillbirth, I know your pain all too well.  

[Brittny27]

I understand you want to become pregnant as soon as possible.

I went in for my 10 wk u/s on April 17th to find out that the baby had died at 6w 5d.  I ended up having a d&c.  The pain and loss is unbearable at first. It has been 8w since my  loss and I still feel it everyday.  My dr advised me to wait 3 cycles before trying again. Your body needs time to heal and you need time to grieve.

My pregnancy was a oops and very wanted but I will not be trying again anytime soon as I'm no longer with my boyfriend.  Even though all I want is to be pregnant again. I understand your feelings all to well.  

[souzyfame]

thank you very much for your reply as I am in great need of this encouraging ,optimistic mails, because i am here as a foreigner and no family memebr is here to talk with, except my partner.
once again, thank you very much for your reply.

[Hales20]

The doctor will prob advise you to wait 3 months before trying again, but i have spoken to other people who have conceived like 2-3 weeks after having a miscarriage, and their pregnancies have been fine!!

Once the bleeding stops, maybe its best to wait 1 cycle to allow your body to rid any unwanted blood it was making for the baby, and then start again.

it is horrible when something like this happens, but you can only look forward from here.

Good Luck