wat should I do

[Aesthetic88]

I just found out I was pregnant last week and I can not make up my mind if I should keep it our not...I've had an abortion before and really don't want to do it again but the father doesn't want me to have this child...I'm very confused on if I should keep it because I don't want my child to grow up without having their father in their life if he choose not to be there...wat are ur thoughts?

[MamaNATTY]

Keep the baby <3

[Bunnyranda]

Ive miscarried multiple times and ive tried so hard to have a baby. The doctor said that its nit impossible just difficult. The man i was with moved on and now I am all alone he left a month ago and alot had to.do with the fact of how emotional and depressed I was from the miscarriges. I would love to have a baby even if I adopted it. The baby in your tummy is a miracle. Count yourself blessed and who knows after the babies born the dad might come around.

[babymama725]

I was in the same boat, I was going back and forth about keeping my baby and at first the father didnt want me to keep it. I had an abortion before and wasn't going to get another. I followed my heart and now I'm keeping my baby and the father and his family as well as my family are on board and came around once getting over initial shock. Follow your gut or else u will regret it.

[babymama725]

I was in the same boat, I was going back and forth about keeping my baby and at first the father didnt want me to keep it. I had an abortion before and wasn't going to get another. I followed my heart and now I'm keeping my baby and the father and his family as well as my family are on board and came around once getting over initial shock. Follow your gut or else u will regret it.

[MamaBear0612]

Good luck, and don't pay attention to people who have only negative things to say...that's true in this conversation, and that's true in single motherhood. Sometimes men take awhile to adjust, so it's possible he could change his mind, but if not, just love and care for your child for the both of you. My now ex-boyfriend freaked when I found out I was pregnant (that's why he's now my ex) and that's what I told him: only he could choose to be a father, and if he made the wrong choice I would love her for both of us and be the very best mother I could be. He's come around and is being a good guy to me, and a good dad to my unborn baby...but so far single motherhood can be challenging. Just stay strong and realize at the end of the road is that beautiful little one that you created, and that he or she will be the light of your life so what anybody else feels or thinks really doesn't matter.

[smiley_one]

That's good that you know you have family and friends who will be there for you :) Just remember if you ever need anyone to talk to, we are all here for you to listen or if you just need to vent or get bored :)

[Aesthetic88]

Aborted to make him happy

[Aesthetic88]

Thanx everyone for ur responses it makes me feel a lot better abt making the decision for ME regardless of wat he wants me to do...I have friends and family who are here and ready to support me and my child... I really think I am going to keep it because I know I won't be able to deal with the feelings of regret if iabortrd

[smiley_one]

I kind of agree with PriceFamily91611. And I also agree with everyone else too. If you are debating on keeping the baby or not, please keep the baby because you will end up regretting it if you have the thoughts of keeping it now. If you can't find yourself to abort, but when the baby comes you find you don't want it, there is always adoption. But if you are in a relationship and your other half doesn't want a child, do everything you can to protect yourself against pregnancy. Not only you be on birth control, make your other half use a condom as well. It lowers your chances for pregnancy. Abortions are hard on your body because you are doing something unnatural by scraping or sucking out the baby, depending on far along you are. It breaks my heart to see a woman debate on abortion just because her other half doesn't want a child. If you want the baby, keep the baby and get rid of the man who doesn't want to step up and take responsibility for their unborn child.  

[shi923]

I agree with the mature comments. Their are plenty of women that have kids they regret and later they end up hurting them by drowning stabbing all kinds of horrendous things it's in the news everyday. In the end it's your choice honey no one elses. pro life isn't all fire and brimstone. Everyone woman should.have a choice.,Unfortunately honey it's going to be hard to get a nonbias,opinion on here,because of all the hormones and people that are trying to conceive. So it's going to be a lot of emotions. Your welcome to message me anytime. No judgments over here

[buggie216]

Im pro choice...and i believe that in the end the only person we face in ourselves. That being said you have to make a decision that suits you...and no one else :) . There are lots of support systems in place to cover every decision possible...abortion, adoption or plain ol' keeping it...so dont let HIM effect your decision at all...Good luck :)

[drakesmommy]

I definitely agree with ccdcmd! That post was super rude. Plus its her life, her choice. Like don't get me wrong, I'm not about to have an abortion, but she is the one that has to deal with the outcome of her decisions, not you. Anyways, I thin you would be a great mom && you definitely don't need a man beside you to help raise your baby! Good luck dear

[mommyanddaddyd]

*having one (not learning)

[mommyanddaddyd]

My (ex)boyfriends family told me to get an abortion but I didn't listen and had no intention on learning.  I have a beautiful baby girl on the way that has now become my life. Its a very painful process to do this alone and I truly hope he comes around. If he doesn't just know you were given this blessing for a reason! You got this!

[Motherhoodo12]

R1kuz u are still young it will happen when the time is right:)

[Motherhoodo12]

I agree w/you ccd....

[r1kuz]

what wouldnt i give to have a baby..... you should keep your child honey it will give you happiness :) ive been trying to conceive for a year and a half and still no luck at all it breaks my heart whenever i get those negative results im 20 years old and just lost hope now i comfort myself watching prengnancy and childbirth videos.

[Aesthetic88]

Thank you for that!

[ccdcmd]

Wow for someone not trying to lash out, that post was incredibly rude! How do you know they weren't trying to prevent it and the contraceptives didn't work? You don't! Anyway, you shouldn't let him not wanting to be a father have anything to do with your decision. It's all up to you, I know a bunch of very strong single moms, if you want to do it then you can. Somehow everyone finds a way. In the end it's what you want to do, good luck.

[Aesthetic88]

Thank you! I know that I can do it because I have always been a strong independent person... I just don't want to go thru the abortion again because its very emotional and damaging and I don't want to be punished for it being repeated... I just can only hope that he steps up and be there but if he doesn't I know that I'll be fine

[PriceFamily91611]

Sorry for all the typos , I hate this phone!! Auto type!

[Mom2amiracle2012]

You go, girl! I love when women stand up and admit strength to get through difficult times! I pray for you, your baby and your support system! :)

[Aesthetic88]

Thanx ladies! I think I'm leaning more towards keeping it because I know that I am strong enough to handle this with or without him because I know that I will raise my child with the best morals and I have a huge support system behind me...its just difficult with him acting this way

[PriceFamily91611]

I'm seriously not trying to be rude but a lot of women on here cannot get pregnant or having a hard getting pregnant and it ls very hurting when we see people say I've had an abortion. So u already had one and now yr thinking about sound it again???? You u r not in a stable relationship/marriage or with people that don't want kids then u need to be using protection and like 2 differen kind would be a good idea bc you r hurting a child who didn't ask for this. I u don't want kids n ur man don't then prevent that from happening. I'm not trying to b rude or lash out at u I'm just stating the true and I don't think u should get an abortion just bc he wants u to, he might not even be with u the rest of ur life then u have to live with that regret , I understand u want the kid to have a dad but just because he don't want to be one doesn't mean later on u don't find swine who will cherish that child as his own. I think u need to seriously be thinking about what u are doing.