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well my day just went from good to crap in

A whole 5 minuets..ok my mom knows how i am,, if i get my heart set on something its hard to change it..ok she took me at the beginning of my pregnancy to babies r us and made me do the registry..it was really fun. She had me pick a travel system that i fell inlove with..then a few months later tells me..well you don't really need a stroller just the car seat..so i was like ok if i just get the car seat is cool ill still be happy because i love the wayit looks..she just calls me and wakes me up to tell me that she isn't buying the one she made me test and everything..she's going to pick one of those big ugly all in one car seats because oh those are so much better..while yes i understand that it will be cheaper in the long run..why make me go and get my heart set and then break it..
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I totally feel your pain whiteness. I had the same issue when pregnant with my first... was promised the moon by everyone but later got crushed. However, with your situation I have to agree that you need to just collect your pieces and work with what you are given. Try to not let it get you down ok? :-) Baby will be happy with the sacrifices you make and love you unconditionally for it.
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I'm confused. Who are you fighting with? I don't see any rude comments or have you deleted them?
Calm down dear. If we all got what we wanted out of life, wouldn't we be in heaven? The way I see it, because its a gift, you can't really control what the person wants to buy because the person could just as easily decide not to get anything for you; the best you can do is to suggest what you want but that's it. I know its disappointing but its not the end of the world and its not worth stressing yourself and your baby out. You already said your hubby will buy the one you want so just let it go.. Calm down and enjoy your Valentine's day. Like my mum says, don't stress what you can't help.
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1961938 tn?1398718101
I agree with RockRose you need to get on your own food stamps. You are married which means you are not her dependent. Do you ams the hubbs live with her still? If not there is no way she should be able to claim you for food stamps. If you o live with her and you can't get food because she won't get groceries I would walk down to dhs and get your name off her food stamps. It sounds like your husband pays the bills so she has no right to keep you from getting the food you and your family needs. Sorry if this seems harsh against your mom but you need to eat more then tortillas, milk, eggs and butter. Also are you on WIC? That will get you milk, peanut butter, fruits and veggies, eggs, bread, and beans.
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13167 tn?1327194124
Well, babyboy,  if she's claiming her on her food stamps but whiteness isn't getting any of the food,  that's actually a crime.  I really don't care "why" the mother is using food stamps fraudulently,  but I think she has every right to demand that her mother allow her to get food stamps for her own self,  and use the food for herself,  especially while she's pregnant.

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you dont know why her mom is claiming her on them thats not really your business really...everyone needs a car seat and a stroller for their baby...its really not our call what happens
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13167 tn?1327194124
This is totally off-topic,  whiteness,  but if your mother is claiming you on her food stamps and that's keeping you from getting food stamps for your family,  it's time to put an end to that,  IMHO.  Really.  What she's doing basically is taking food out of her grandbaby's mouth.  I really think you should have a civil,  respectful talk to her about taking the steps to get you taken off her plan.  I don't know if that's something you can do yourself or if she has to do it,  but your baby needs food while you're pregnant.

BTW - and this may not be important - but in my experience those travel systems are a huge expense but not really needed.  I always preferred the lightest equipment possible - and they're heavy!   A car seat for the car,  and the lightest stroller that does the job seemed like the way to go to me - nothing heavy and bulky you have to haul around.  Your baby will grow out of a "travel system" before you know it!
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Like i said earlier..its not the fact she is getting the wrong one..she promised me the moon you know,,"ooh its right around tax time you will get alot of your registry because the family has alot to spend now,,i didn't get anything of mine so be happy that everyone in the family loves you enough to get all this stuff..the only reason i didn't is because me and your dad aren't together" but yet she is turning on her words..i don't like being lied to..I'm glad she is getting my son something but why make me waist all that time and get my hopes up to crush them? It would have been one thing if she said we might be able to get you these things but she said we will get all the big things for sure..the play pen, the car seat and stroller, the bottles..the things i need..i didn't put a crib because they have outrageous prices..he can sleep in a play pen until he is 2 then a toddler bed..the car seat,, well i have to have one..i would like a stroller and the bottles so while I'm doing something and can't sit down and breast feed he can still eat..that's all i really want from the whole registry..and she won't even do that..is not like i picked the most expensive ones either..
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there ya go! just accept the gifts you have been given love if your not working and r struggling then u just gotta take whats given to u if you cant pay for the things u want i get it ***** but its life
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2020005 tn?1628125976
^ very very good idea, haha!!
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Why don't you just exchange the one she got you and just pay the difference for the one you do want?
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I had the same thing happen to me..i was raped at 13 had a bby at 14 mom made me pic stuff I wanted theb turned arpund told me she aint getting it....so I threw a fit got another...and at 18 got pregn an t had a baby my babys dads mom promised a car seat I picked and did the same I was so pissed I yelled and etc...now im pregnant at 20 and same things happening with my bfs sister so I told everyonr to stop let me get what I want im only 12 weeks 3 days and girl im the same way im living check by checks with my bfs momey...barely have food we dont have a stove nor a fridge nor hot water...so I undersrand you fully. But please dont stress so much hunn. Im praying for you but at tge same time im wondering if you would be willing to let me help you out? What car seat do u want when are u due?
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Agreed !!!!
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Thank you unique:)
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If you don't agree with a post don't comment on it. I agree that it was a bit childish but we don't the whole story . She might be upset about a combination of related things. Proverbial straw breaking the camel's back.
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3147776 tn?1549545810
Ladies, that'll be enough of the insults.  If you can't be civil and respectful, please don't comment on a thread.  There are plenty of other conversations going on, so there's no need to join in one that annoys you.
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4846097 tn?1360868650
Girl i know how you feel, its hard and stressful... i got pregnate at 18 had my baby at 19 and now i am 22 and on my second baby. It was hard for me and my hubby we  couldn't get nothing and it was the worst feeling ever. And its hard with moms it always will be. She loves you and is just trying to do whats best for you (her still baby girl) my mom told me to do registry also and got me all excited then said she thinks it would be better if i just got used stuff, wich i did not mind i wanted some new. But anyway getting off track, you will be a great mom and will have so much more to give to your baby other than materialistic things. LOVE. Good luck and hope you have a great babyshower.
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First off what i do with my body is my choice..me and my husband are atleast trying to do right and take in the responsibility for are choices..and thank you meg:)
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My damn priorities are to pay the bills! I have no cable,i had to sell my car to put damn groceries in my house. I don't go out all the time i lost my job and we literally don't have any extra money..i have worked since i was 10 years old..i never got to be a kid..so yes i think my priorities are in the right place trying to make sure my son has a place to live..i live in a cheap apartment with nothing extra..how is that having bad priorities?
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4762847 tn?1360881934
I would definitely prefer the infant ones. They secure the baby so much better than the convertible ones. Cheaper in the long run doesn't compare to knowing your baby is snug and safe. I'd just take it and exchange it.
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She actually isn't..my brother is paying for it. And it is being judgmental. Yes this messed up my day because if she wasn't going to get me what i bedded not what she wanted why not give me the money so i can buy it myself. I don't have the money on my own to go and buy these things neither does my husband. We can hardly pay the bills and keep food at home because my mother claims me on her food stamps but won't help with groceries..right now we have milk tortillas eggs and butter that's it. So live like i am and then see that yes when someone promises you something for your child that you can't even afford and then they go off and break it..yes it hurts. I'm glad she is getting me something but really its not her business if ima have to buy a new one in 6 months to a year..ima have to get a different one anyways because he will be to small for the one she is getting me. Like i said sorry i don't have a great lifelike you do and  i can't go off and buy my kid everything..I'm lucky he will have a hot meal when he can eat solid food.
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So if that's the case honey...you get what you get and you don't get upset. Just seriously your in for av surprise if this is a day ruiner for you. It's not being judgemental be happy your mom is buying you anything.
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@babyboy I just turned 18.
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how old r u?
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Ok first off,,i hope something happens like this to you..this is my first baby I'm barley 18 years old and yes it did because who does that to someone..gets them all excited about something and then goes and ruins it. I'm sorry that my life isn't to your standards and i can't really afford to buy things my self that's why i haven't gotten my son a thing I'm expecting alot from the baby shower. I'm sorry i lost my job at 20 weeks and were living pay check to pay check just to pay the bills and eat. If i had money like you id be ok but i don't and no one will hire a 31 week prego girl..so before you start to be a judgmental rude person learn the story behind the faces..you have no right to come at me like that you don't know my story
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