when did your baby daddy get it??

[ftm2013]

I love my husband with all my heart but I honestly am wondering when he's gonna understand that our baby girl is coming whether we are ready or not!! He keeps putting me off on buying things because "we have plenty of time" so he keeps spending money on his cars!! The pressure is really starting to get to me and I want to he ready for anything!! He just don't get it and I can talk til I'm blue in the face and he still just don't care!! So today I'm taking charge and putting things in layaway after my doctors appointment I thought we would pick things out together but Im tired of waiting on him I don't want to be rushing around at 36 weeks or something because I waited around. Anyone else go though the same thing?

[mrsnelson2010]

I agree!! Ive been telling mine we really need to get everything ready. Ive got about a month left is all and he just keeps telling me he has an entire week while im in the hospital to get it done. Smh. I cant seem to make him understand! With our first it took me getting up despite being on strict bedrest to get things ready before he got up and tried to help.

[KTowne]

My husband didn't get it until he had his son in his arms, doesn't this time either, but honestly my husband never cared to help pick things out, do it yourself, I just never asked when we should start. I just did it, my first pregnancy I was done shopping by 22 weeks, I'm 30 weeks 4 days and her room is all set up, things are washed and sterilized already.

[Spritemystic]

I had the same issue. My idea was the "baby box". Every week we would buy something to put in it and I told him it had to be filled by the time the baby came. But what I think really got him motivated was guys at his work who just had babies are talking to him about it. Maybe if you guys have close friends or friends of his to start talking to him.

[jwilliams81]

I am in control of the money in our home. He gets a portion of his check and the rest is what I need it for. If I left it up to him a check would be spent in a weekend and we'd have no gas or food or anything. I can't trust him to be ready although he did help put the bed together and has said we need to buy diapers now. I've done everything else. It's just easier than asking him!

[ftm2013]

I'm afraid to talk to him anymore about this cause I feel like honestly saying if I have to do this by myself I might as well do it all by myself and leaving!! I honestly feel like he wants me to buy everything so that he don't have to spend his money and can keep buying parts for his stupid car!!

[jdreyn]

My hubby got a brand new truck when I was 34 weeks pregnant and we had nothing ready and still needed to get a lot... I totally understand.

[1sttimmommy]

im in the same boat. my husband thinks babies dont need a lot of things. he also made me wait till after my baby shower to purchase anything. he thought family would be generous and get us most of the stuff we needed well they didnt. now im the one getting no sleep at night worrying about how the heck we are going to buy stuff for my son because now we are tight on money. im 29 weeks, i feel like its not possibly enough time now to prepare for him.

[emmaftm]

My bf is still faffing over getting things ready! Im 32w + 4d and we have nothing ready!! We have brought things and been given things but the room needs alot of work doing to it! Hes been off work this week due to some trouble caused by a jealous ***** and has spent the week sat infront of the tv and xbox..... then has the balls to moan with his ***** of a mother that my mum is wanting to come up and help!!! I could honestly punch his mum sometimes, i hate her lol

[babyonboard24]

If he wont help, girl take charge an start picking out things,if he has a problem too bad he should've listened an helped you when you asked.

[AliCat89]

Mine still hasn't gotten it and I highly doubt he will get it.  So I just resorted to relying on family and they have been helping me more than I could ever hope for. I think if it was up to my baby daddy the babies would be born then he would try to rush and buy things and be strapped for cash putting us in ahorrible bind so that's why I decided not to wait on him

[mommy_21]

When r u due? My hubby is doing the same stuff to me.

[yourstruly21]

Ive always heard boys dont become dads until the baby is in there arms and women become mothers the moment they find out their pregnant

Yu just need to sit him down and tell him in all reality baby could come anyday now so he needs to step up because yu need to be ready