who would be the father?

[kk5612]

I had sex with a man 2 weeks before I met the man I am currently engaged to.  The middle of December.  The end of December, I met the man I am with today.  I am now in the process of finding out if I'm pregnant or not.  I started my last period christmas morning.  It ended 4 or 5 days later.  Is it at all possible that my fiance is not the father?   I would really like some feedback on this matter.  Please respond.

[kk5612]

thanks!!

[heatherlynn22]

even if you got your period it could still be the other guys. some women do have "periods" when they're pregnant. i know quiet a few women who did actually. the only way to know for sure is a paternity test. or wait to see when the doctor thinks you concieved if you are pregnant. when he gives you the conception date then you can figure out who you were with.

[kk5612]

thanks.. I have been getting answers that i dont like.  i know that i want to know peoples opinions,  but i would rather have the absolute answer!  I actually thought that my fiance got an account, because your screen name is something he would put!

[luvmybabes]

I really think it's the guy your with...it's his baby. It couldn't be the other guys if yOu got your period after him. If your pregnant when you get your ultrasound it will say the exact age of the baby ...not going by your last period...... so you should know about when you concieved.

[kk5612]

Im so confused

[loismwallace]

There is no way to actually pin point the day of conception. The baby I'm having now is showing to be 5 days older than the date of my LMP. Let me break it down because I'm confusing myself...lol

LMP 9/9/07 would give me due date 6/15/08
U/S   says my due date 6/9/08

So, based on the LMP is NOT always acurate.....

[Gina209]

If your last Period was Dec 25th you would have conceived around Jan 8th. Hope that helps!

[kk5612]

wow sounds like a very similar situation! I slept with my ex 2 weeks before i started sleeping with my fiance.  Is there a way to find out when the date of conception was?  maybe then i can figure it out.

[loismwallace]

If you are pregnant it COULD be either of the men depending on when you ovulated. I bled for 3 months after I got pregnant with my first son. I thought it was a period. I had a similar situation with his sister, now 12. I was going through a divorce and slept with the divorcie and a man I was seeing within two weeks time. The condom broke on the man I was seeing. The Ex and I didn't use portection...Me and the Ex chose not to do paternity test. He claims her as his own...Good luck!

[kk5612]

thanks!!

[Nadia77]

if you had your period after having sex with the first man then it can not be the first man because if your period was on 25th Dec it would mean you  have ovulated around 9th or 10th Jan( in a normal 28days cycle) hence  conceived around them days if you are pregnant. So got to be your finance.. Good luck.

[kk5612]

thanks! I really hope that is the case! thats what i thought as well but i wanted to double check my thinking!

[socgirl]

if you had a period at the end of december, then i guess it would be with the guy you're with now.  I think you said you met him at the end of december and the other guy was in mid december, which would have been before your period.  But, like the other poster said, there is not sure way to know without a paternity test.

[kk5612]

I completely understand.  I am having alot of symptoms of pregnancy.  I have an appointment scheduled for monday.  I am just curious.  I am not too woried.  Either way, it is cool with us.  I am just curious.  Thanks so much for the reply!

[LosingMyMindInGA]

Two words:  Paternity Test....after the birth of course, IF you are pregnant.  There's no fool proof method to determine paternity until you either a) have an amnio or b) the baby is born.  Otherwise it's just guesses and assumptions.  I think you're worrying a little prematurely.  Wait until you have a positive test before you drive yourself crazy wondering.  You never know it may be negative and then you will have worried for nothing.