worried

[Vladmir]

well... earlier this year my fiancee got pregnant... we used condoms, and we didn't finish (i.e. neither of use had an orgasm). we later found out that the pre-*** alone can work such "miracles"
this past week i let her talk me into having sex without a condom... like the last time we didn't finish, but i'm worried that she'll get pregnant again....
last time we lost the baby, more so as first because we didn't want a baby and there was too much stress on her, but this time i fear that if she does get pregnant her parents WILL find out and she'll get kicked out, especially since she just told me that the next time she's pregnant she wont care as long as we can have a natural child birth(no doctors no midwives)...
i have no idea what to do

[Vladmir]

i do want to be responsible, and i am ready to care for our children when the time comes, but i just feel like she's looking for a way to keep her parents (mother) from feeping us apart, by any means necessary...i feel that she is taking too much upon herself in panicing and not letting me talk things out with her mother... and i've been trying for a year to talk her into letting me talk to her mom, and setting all things straight....

[keepurfaith]

only way to tell is to get her to take a test when her period is due. Also, it sounds like you want to be responsible by using condoms so don't let her talk you out of it if your not ready for children. When it is supposed happen it will, until then if your not ready for the responsibilty of a child, tell her. Let her know that being together without the added stress is what you need right now. Also, if she is ready for a child tell her you support that but "not right now". If and when, you both are ready, it'll make all the difference. :)