Any1 expecting a rainbow baby?

[pregwith5th786]

im 30 weeks along n I'm expecting my rainbow in October. I lost  my previous baby last year in August @ 38 weeks due to my waters leaking. it was so devastating for me n still is. I'm constantly worried about this little man growing inside me.
My question to u mommies is if u did shopping for your angel babies clothes, blankets etc like me would u b using them for your rainbows or not? As I was 38  weeks with my angel daughter I had got her everything from coats to mittens they were all neutral colours. So now I'm not sure if I will have the strength to use them for my rainbow baby even thinking about it I b in tears. I know I will get emotional whenever i will c her brother wearing them. Since I lost my daughter her items have been way out of my sight I havnt seen them for about nearly a year now. Believe me I don't even want to take her things out knowing that I will start crying. On the second hand I think I should give them away n get some more clothes for the baby but then again I don't wanna do that to. I seriously don't know what to do.  Any suggestions would b appreciated TIA
From an angel mommy

[melaniee123]

Aww I'm sorry for your loss, that's heart breaking my best advice would be to stay strong for your son and if you wanna use the clothes even tho its hard use them I'm sure your babygirl is a angel and would love to see you happy with her baby bro.. but if you just can't do it then I would get rid if them and buy new ones doesn't mean your gonna forget her, she will always be with you.. but maybe he should have his own clothes that isn't gonna remind you everyday about your terrible loss..

[willtowin160]

You should do whatever you feel comfortable with. We all heal at different times and in different ways. I lost my son at 21 weeks last December and bought a good amount of things for a liitle boy and now I am expecting a little girl this January. I feel like girls can wear blues, greens and reds without it being weird, like a boy wearing pink.....so a lot of the things I got for him I plan to give to her. IMO we can never replace our angels so we are not destroying their legacy by giving our rainbow babies things we were planning to give to them. And apart of me wants to believe my son will get another chance at life with me or with someone else. So in my head he's not going to care:) I hope you find peace in this because that type of experience is just so hurtful and I can only imagine what you went through. My prayers and love go out to you and your family

[pregwith5th786]

Thanku for all the support and advice ladies I really appreciate it. I'm so sorry for the mommies who have been through a loss. It is extremely hard for me to make a decision I'm 50/50 regarding this matter.  I'm just hoping what ever decision I make I b happy with it n not get too emotional.

[phenana]

I'm expecting my rainbow in February. We lost #5 in November and in a way I'm thankful that we never bought anything specifically for Anael as we just use hand me downs for all our babies. I do need to buy some things but I just can't because I keep thinking how will I get rid of the things or look after them if something happens to this baby :( im in 2 minds about your question, on the one hand it'd be beautiful for this baby to wear some but on the other I know myself how much this baby has on its shoulders for me, it already has the weight of the baby we lost to bear and I already feel like that's taken so much attention away from this baby which it shouldn't have to have, for me seeing this baby using something that specifically was meant for Anael would make me think not of this baby but the one we lost. My mental health wouldn't handle those thoughts and let me just be with the new baby. I know my limits, and I know I'm not coping very well at all and something like that could be more of a trigger.

[momofsoon2b5]

Aww im sooo sorry I cant imagen the pain. If it is too hard for you then dont put yourself threw it. If it is easier for you to donate them or leave them were they are than do it. Do what makes you happy and what makes you feel better.

[AlloraTristan]

I hope he helps heal your heart!! Stay strong!

[maw4389]

I had my rainbow baby girl in December 2014 after having a stillborn baby girl in October 2013. I kept and used everything I had for her. It's tough at first but it slowly gets better...

[pregwith5th786]

Thanx ladies @ momofsoon2b5 I'd love to c him in his sisters clothes but I know for sure il end up crying whenever il c him wearing them just like the above. I guess il have to have a really strong heart to use any of her things including her bottles,nappies n blankets. I havnt even seen her things since Iv lost her thinking of getting them ready for him I'm crying what will I go through when I c her belongings :(

[AlloraTristan]

This is similar but not quite the same...
My husband passed away in February I was 12 weeks pregnant. He bought a bunch of onsies and clothes and blanket he wanted another daughter we have 5 boys and 1 daughter... But I'm not sure if I can pull myself to use them. I cry when I see our daughter in the clothes he bought her...

[momofsoon2b5]

I think you should use them. Sissy would love for her brother to have them. If its too hard for you than keep some as in a baby book or album in memory of her. Do what is best for you and what you can handle. Just no that your lil angel is looking over you both. Im so sorry for your loss. Prayers are with you.

[zab0304]

I think u should keep some of the items from ur dirst child but dont let the second wear them because that is a special memory connected to the first.