I totally understand. My mom can be overwhelming but ever since we moved cross country (my husband is military) I miss my moms overwhelming personality. My MIL on the other hand drives me crazy. In my opinion, she did a terrible job at raising her own children and I don't trust her with mine. She's lazy and literally criticizes everything that I do or any choice I make for our son. It is so stressful and makes me sick! She also told me at one point that she wishes that she could sit at home like me all day and do nothing. Because staying at home is doing nothing!? I do more work at home in a day then she does in a year! I Cook, clean, do laundry, take care of her son, do dishes, volunteer through different programs, etc. She's a pain.
My husband is getting an honorable discharge two weeks after our baby is due and until our house is ready back home 1,400 miles away from where we are now) were staying with them and I am probably going to end up taking our son to my moms house because of how crazy this lady is!
Try to understand they are anxious to. They still need to agree to your terms and respect your wishes but to me it just sounds like they are excited. Make them wait in the waiting room while the baby is being born. But truthfully you will appreciate the help while you are recovering, as long as they respect your boundaries. And definitely stand your ground. But try as much as possible to remember that this is their grand baby so they are just thrilled (but mommy always trumps grandma!)
Thanks everyone. I have tried to be sympathetic since this is their first grand baby, but the more I think about it... this is my first child and that trumps things! I tried explaining how I felt to my mother last night and she always cries and flips it to make me feel guilty, she's very manipulative that way... I'll talk to her again today and just tell her our wishes again and either she's ok with it or forget it. As far as my MIL... well the hubby can call her. Lol
I'll say no call it off!!! I told my man I didn't want no one at the hospital !!! Because 1 I know his mother and I don't mix 2 I feel like I want to spread my joy she'll take pic. And post on FB which we both work at the same job so he agreed she might be upset but it's my baby sorry I'm having the baby I call the shots!!!
Stand your ground now or they will walk all over you. It took me over a year to put my foot down with people wanting to boss me around in regards to my first born and I'm not letting it happen with his one.
My mil and mom are willing to respect my wishes. If I want them there they're okay with that if not, they're fine with that too. BUT friends of mine are more than stressing me out about being in the room with me during labor. No, husband and I don't want my friends there and frankly I don't think I'll be sending out calls and messages until after I leave hospital. I've told them multiple times I wanted it to be a bonding moment and I don't think that's going to click with them. If they stress you out then don't have them come. You just need to relax...as do I. Haha.
I'd tell them no forget about it because they cannot follow ur wishes. Dont be a push over or they'll keep doing things over you!
No ur not being crazy! U need time to bond with the NB cuz with all the family coming its going to b overwhelming fo u guys!