dont do it

[bbm1188]

Dont get a puppy while pregnant. Dont do it. My husband was the one with the idea I went along with it and tried to be open minded and now I completly regret it. I am known for someone with loads of pacientce, I worked with kids for 5 years, I felt I could tolerate alot. All of that isgone now lol I also love animals but this is my first puppy. I just cant stand him. I cant tolerate anything about him. I just want to give up on this dog. And I cry saying that because this isnt me, and I just am so mad at myself for feeling this way and for getting so mad at the dog when hes just an animal whos mans best friend, who wont hold a grudge.  He can be so sweet but its just been so hard latley when I have no energy, he is starting to be really stubborn and not listen. When I have to wake up at 5 in the morning bc he pooed himself  in his crate and spend 20 mins scraping poop off the bottom of thecrate. Keep in mind he was taken out 20 mins before hand and wouldnt go outside. So we thought he didnt have to go. How can i tell my husband I need a break, or what should I do. Hes 14 weeks old and I just dont know if I can handle this responsibilitie in my condition.

[KDQ]

I agree with the last poster. Dogs push to see what they can get away with just like kids. Positive reinforcment when he does something good will go a long way. As will standing your ground when he does somethong wrong. Just keep at it. They are worth it in the long run if you stick it out and train properly.

[shastas84]

Dogs do go through a phase just like babies. It could be that he is more comfortable with you and feeling braver. So like babies, he's busy exploring the world and not tending to his business. No pun intended. Lol I would plan extra outside time when my pups hit that stage. Let him have time to explore andgo.

[bbm1188]

Yes he sleeps in his crate and the crate has a divider. Weve gotten him potty trained but in the Last 4 days he will not go to the bathroom outside. He rarely has accidents in his crate but just recently Its been an issue. . I have no idea whats going on or what Im doing wrong cause he is on a schedule but all of the sudden like I said he wont go potty outside. Instead he screws around in the yard eating dirt and leaves when we feed him very expensive top notch dog food. He knows what the Word peepee or poopoo means he used to go to the bathroom on comand outside. Do dogs go through a terrible twos? Cause the past week I feel like hes going through a similar phase. Why are his potty habits changing when nothing is changing with the routine or the way Im Training him to go potty.

[KDQ]

I am a dog person. I got a puppy right after getting married and she was awesome. But never ever could someone convince me to train a puppy while lookinh after a newborn. Puppies need as much attention as a newborn if not more because you can't diaper them. As for the pooping in his crate- does he sleep in his crate? Dogs will not poop or pee where they sleep. If he does sleep in the crate the reason he pooped in there is because the crate is too big. Block off part of the crate until puppy grows into it. They only need enough room in the crate to stand. If you guys are not willing to take the time to get him to obedience school or can't afford too rehome him. Otherwise you will end up with a 150lb dog that is disobedient and you will have behavior issues with him around the baby. I hope things work out!

[bbm1188]

Yea i agree, I dont like keeping him in the crate and I keep him on the leash now when around the house. Its helping alot, I dont know why i didnt think of it till now. I try to keep him in the crate only at Night or if I need a break for an hour, my husband has been putting him in the crate more then i like. I ***** at him about it to and most of thetime he will comply and do something with the dog. He needs to step up more though. Ill bring it up when the times right, hes super crabby latley from work so i dont know if now is a Good time.

[croberts32]

For the next little while u need to umbilical him, every where u go he goes.  A puppy should Never have the run of the house.  So attaching him to a chair when ur in the room, and if u get up to cook he goes with u.  As for going in his kennel take him out 10-20 after he eats, after he plays and when
He first wakes up.  All I can say is if u or hubby are just going to keep him in his kennel u should rehome him if u don't work everyday with him he will get worse.  We got a puppy when my daughter was a month old and it was terrible, I was so tired that I had no energy for the puppy.  Luckly my husband stepped up and took car of him but I never had much of a relationship with her.

[bbm1188]

We got a paladino mastiff. Yep we stupidly got one of the biggest dogs you can get lol hes going to be 140 to 150 lbs. My husband wanted a dog though that would intimidate people based on size bc we want to live in a secluded área and not have to worry about a alarm or people breaking in. Right now hes Being really Good. I strap his leash to a chair so hes forced to sit with me. I cant keep getting up to watch him everywhere cause he just wont sit still, thats normal if course. But at least he doesnt have to sit in the crate, I hate keeping him in the crate cause I feel bad for him and I know he just wants Love and attention.

[RachelD29]

What.breed did you get? We recently got a puppy and it was an education. We keep lots of bones and toys for hin tp chew on and walk him twice a day for ten minutes. This seems to stimulate him enouph. You could get a book or google info for that breed specifically on how to train and ware him out. Thwn whwn he is cute and sleepy you may like him a little better...good luck

[bbm1188]

Yea Sarah Im worried about in the future the dog will hate me or just not be a buddy to me bc of how intolerant I am of him. I have Good days and bad with the dog but alot of bad recently. I hope when I have my baby my tolerance goes back where it was before and ill be able to be more pacient. Plus were moving at the end of the year with a place with a fenced in yard, letting him run around outside will help tremendously to.

[shastas84]

Lol. I totally feel you there! My hubby surprised us all when he brought home our newest members to.

[havincinco]

When I got preg with my last one (now 4 1/2), my mom haf also moved in with us because she was diagnosed with early onset Alz. Het condition wasnt so bad at the time, and she could still function. But 3 weeks after that baby was born, she bought a puppy, even though we had said no! Not only could we not discipline the puppy (because it was hers), but she didnt either. Our carpet was ruined, the house smelled, it was miserable. We moved to a new house in 09 and got rid of the dog- it was awesome! Moms still with us, much, much worse now, and occasionally begs for another dog.Im 22 wks and had no problems this time saying "Hell, no!"  Its ok to know your limits. Im patient, too AND a dog person.....but sometimes enough is just enough. Dont feel guilty.

[bbm1188]

Lol I have a connection sometimes but Im really overwhelmed. My husband has had many dogs throughout his life. I knew a puppy wouldnt be easy but I didnt anticipate feeling like this. I know my husband is going to want me to stick it out no matter what, I just talked to him on his lunch break about it. I hope next month we can afford obediance classes. Maybe that will help. My husband I noticed is getting frustrated with the dog as well, I just realized that. When he gets home he puts him in the crate if he just cant tolerate the fact hes a puppy. Hum maybe as he gets older it will get better cause he will grow out of his puppy stage. Man i hope so.

[Sarah765]

I got my puppy a few weeks befire finding out I was pregnant.  It was the worst thing ever. I ended up with horendous morning sickness, or all day sickness, and 2 little ones to take care if too.  It took me a really long time to bond with her because I just hated everything I had to do for her.  My husband works away from home a lot so she was pretty much all my resposibility.  I agree with you completely never get a puppy while pregnant!  She is 3 now, and a really great dog, and Im so glad we have her.   I do wonder if my connection with her would be better if it hadnt been such a difficult time when she was a puppy though, and. I feel bad about it sometimes.  The relationship she has with my kids and husband is really great though, I just feel bad cause I can tell she wants the same kind of love from me too.  My husband has been talking about getting another puppy, I told him he can talk to me about it in another year, but no way am I putting myself through that again right now!  4 kids and 1 dog is enough for me!

[RockRose]

bbm,  since you've never had a puppy before it seems reasonable that it's because you don't like them,  which is totally fine.  People can be patient in some areas and very intolerant in some areas if they don't have an interest in them.

It's okay to not like dogs and not want one.  At this point,  will your husband either take over care of the puppy or agree to rehoming it?  

I don't think this is going to get better - all puppy owners have points of impatience and frustration but usually their overwhelming love of the puppy gets them through that.  I don't sense you have any connection - at all - to this little guy.

Best wishes.

[shastas84]

Puppies are awesome. And loving. And fun. And a total pain in the butt. Lol I have 3 atm. Plus my dog. Try suggesting that your hubby take the puppy to obedience classes. That puts more responsibility for the pup on him. It also helps to do the worst of the training. Plus gives you a few evenings free. Win-win-win :)